To think it's very rude to ring somebody at 7.30 in the morning

[ImNotAMorningPerson]

Unless it's particularly important or an emergency?

@VinylDetective

This is real “the world must revolve around me” territory. Precovid I was halfway to work at 7.30.

who cares?

I tend to finish work at home around midnight. So you're ok with me calling you past midnight then?

@Hankunamatata

I can see the nurserys side - they are practically guaranteed to get parents at that time

Yes.

If they've got a list of calls to make & are trying to get through them before the majority of the kids get there?

Unless they have dedicated office staff, doesn't this sort of thing get done at "quiet times"?

I agree inappropriate to call this early unless exceptional circumstances. For a nursery I'd include unexpected closure that day as an example.

No doubt not the nursery owner who does this, and so not kind to the nursery staff to expect this, as I can imagine some of the responses might not be very pleasant.

@Hankunamatata

I can see the nurserys side - they are practically guaranteed to get parents at that time

Why? Lots of parents have said their kids aren't up at that time, mine included.

I tend to finish work at home around midnight. So you're ok with me calling you past midnight then?

I’d welcome it. Insomnia’s a bastard, it would be nice to have some company.

Definitely. I've sent an email this morning reminding them that DH does the morning run because of the baby and sent his number (which they already have)
It doesn't matter that they already have his number, nor does it matter who does the morning run. You seem determined to argue the nursery are wrong for calling you because DH does the morning drop off. That isn't how it works.

Was he originally down as the primary contact? If he wasn't down as primary contact then they weren't wrong to call you first.

If he wasn't primary contact have you now made him primary contact? Or are you expecting nursery staff to have a special contact arrangement just for you around your lie in? If the former then that's reasonable, if it's the latter then you're being unreasonable as a nursery doesn't run around when parents want to get up.

Just because a phone can be set to silent, it doesn't absolve everyone else from exercising good manners!

@MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously

Just because a phone can be set to silent, it doesn't absolve everyone else from exercising good manners!

Thing is, your perception of manners isn’t necessarily universal. Plenty here don’t think it’s rude calling someone at 730.

I find it puzzling that people think it is too early for a nursery to call. If Parents have a child at nursery I would assume as a nursery worker that these parents are up and running in the morning as they are bringing children to nursery.

If your child is happy to sleep in and you don’t work then no nursery would phone you.

Even with lockdown and you may drop of a child later as you don’t commute, 7.30 is not that early.

Isn't that the point of the thread, though? Plenty also do think it is rude. People can disagree, but I would consider it rude whether the other person considered it to be rude or not, and regardless of whether others would be fine with it. In my opinion, people should consider the possibility that they might not be.

Sorry, meant to quote @ColdBrightClearMorning

@reluctantbrit Well my child goes to nursery in the afternoons, and is never up at 7:30. But regardless, office hours are still a thing. Most work and business places don't ring people before work is due to start for non emergencies. I used to work in a call centre and they would never call people that early.

YANBU, too early for anything unimportant, especially when you have a baby and especially when your DP should be the main contact.

Yes it is a bit early! But these days this have the power to control your own mobile phone. Turn it off when you're sleeping, or set it to only allow calls from certain numbers. Ask nursery to put dh as first contact.

@ImNotAMorningPerson what did they ask

Or have you said and I’ve missed it

You didn’t miss it
The op steadfastly ignored questions re what the actual purpose of the call was

A call that early wouldn't bother me now, but it absolutely would have bothered me when I was up half the night with a small baby.
Mind you, i also remember cursing out some birds who had the temerity to start singing at dawn when I had a small baby, so yeah...

@aSofaNearYou

Isn't that the point of the thread, though? Plenty also do think it is rude. People can disagree, but I would consider it rude whether the other person considered it to be rude or not, and regardless of whether others would be fine with it. In my opinion, people should consider the possibility that they might not be.

Oh definitely, I’m just meaning that if whoever rang OP doesn’t perceive it to be rude/poor manners then it isn’t for them, if that makes sense? OP can think it’s rude and poor manners and choose not to ring others at that time but as her only control here is to set her phone to silent before she’s awake (and ask them to ring her DH instead) it just kind seems a moot point whether it’s rude or not.

If Parents have a child at nursery I would assume as a nursery worker that these parents are up and running in the morning as they are bringing children to nursery.

Have you always been quite so hard of thinking

I want to live a life where 7.30am is some ungodly hour of the morning. 🤣.

I'd be grateful they'd ran them because it doesn't coincide with getting dressed and out.

But context is everything with this being too early I suppose to your own lifestyle.
You've reminded them now so hopefully it won't happen again.

I would be irritated by it.
If I was working I would be just about to leave or would have just left home and I certainly wouldn't welcome a routine phone call. If I wasn't working I would probably still be asleep.
"Just switch your phone off then" isn't an option for a lot of people as they might then miss genuinely urgent calls. When my children were small I had frail, elderly relatives who would contact me in an emergency, and the sort of role at work when I could be asked to come in urgently at very short notice. I had my phone on 24/7 as a result. I'm sure I'm not alone in that.
I can also relate to the OP's annoyance about being contacted about something that her DH, who was actually going to the nursery, could have dealt with. When my children were younger my work was both a lot further from school and a great deal more difficult to leave than my DH's. He did at least 75% of the school runs and was listed as first contact, but virtually every time one of our children has been sick or injured (at 3 different schools) they have called me first. Completely pointless, as if it was an emergency it would take me 2 or 3 times as long to get there as DH and if it wasn't, I wouldn't be able to leave work. But I had school staff say that they thought it must have been a mistake that DH had been listed first so they called me, despite what the form said.

Yes it's rude OP

I would not usually call someone before 9 am

YANBU - 7.30am is ridiculously to phone someone. I have young children and no chance we're up then.

I always have my phone on loud as who knows what emergency could arise with a family member, what if one of my parents was rushed to hospital or something and the hospital couldn't phone me.

Thing is, your perception of manners isn’t necessarily universal. Plenty here don’t think it’s rude calling someone at 730.

really?

Start a thread about your MIL calling you at 7:30 and see how that goes...
or the neighbour starting a loud car at 7:30.

Some posters are contrary for the fun of it. The majority of people do think it's rude.