To think it's very rude to ring somebody at 7.30 in the morning

[ImNotAMorningPerson]

Unless it's particularly important or an emergency?

[Exhausteddog]

We have the house phone downstairs. If it rings before about 8.45, I feel worried in case its an emergency. Half the time nearly break my neck running down the stairs to find it's a frigging amazon robotic scam call
My mobile is on do not disturb between 10pm and 7am.

[notanothertakeaway]

I imagine nursery staff have to make calls before children arrive (at 8am?)

And you may not be the only person they have to call

Are you listed as primary contact? If so, it's reasonable they called you. Perhaps better to have DH listed as primary contact

[ImNotAMorningPerson]

@Piggyhoolier

The thought of being wound up enough about this to start a thread on mumsnet is comical to me. I suppose it’s all relative, so whilst I don’t think YABU to be a bit annoyed if you were woken from sleep, I do think YABU to think it’s such a terribly rude thing for the nursery to have done. Presumably the nursery have fewer kids in at that point and can attend to things like calls more easily then? Seems perfectly fine to me.

I'm prepared to accept I'm BU if people think I am, it's hard to be objective when I'm exhausted and grumpy

[BeardieWeirdie]

Yanbu. I’d be wanting to know who’s died if I had a call at that ungodly hour. My baby and 6-year-old aren’t up until at least 8.

[ShirleyPhallus]

My phone wasn't on silent calls because strangely enough people don't tend to ring me at 7.30.

Then this is entirely your own issue. Just out your phone on “do not disturb” when you don’t want to be disturbed.

Honestly it’s such a weird mumsnet thing to have mobile phones with volume on and expect other people to have psychic abilities that you don’t want to actually answer your phone at that time and be angry with them rather than just putting your phone on silent

[notanothertakeaway]

You say staff know that DH does the morning drop off, but who is listed as primary contact? That's who they will call first

[RandomLondoner]

In ye olden days, where communication was only be landline, I'd say 7.30am was a bit marginal. Nowadays we have phones that can be set not to bother us when we don't want to be bothered, so I suggest setting your do-not-disturb feature.

Requiring other people to keep track of your circumstances, priorities and needs to constrain communications is a bit unreasonable, considering you always have greater knowledge and motivation, and have the capability to control timing yourself.

[StellaDendrite]

I think it's inconsiderate rather than rude. It would annoy me too.
I use DND feature on my phone but I suspect I would have somewhere like a nursery on my allowed numbers.

[FoxtrotOscarPoppet]

If it was urgent / emergency then no. Otherwise I wouldn’t disturb someone that early. I probably wouldn’t answer my phone either at that time.

[BrumBoo]

@monkeysox

They will be calling before all kids in as have ratios to stick to. Tabu.

Surely there's people who are working in the office all day, and a message can be delegated (especially a non-important one)?

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

I've got my phone set on Do Not Disturb between certain hours. The only people who would get through overnight are my husband, our children, my parents and my brother, as they would only ring then in an emergency. Other calls and texts and all emails would come through silently. Would that help, OP?

[Same4Walls]

I use DND feature on my phone but I suspect I would have somewhere like a nursery on my allowed numbers.

I think most people would to be fair so it's a bit of a moot point saying put the phone on DND.

[BakewellGin1]

Anyone not up by 7.30am lucky you I say... I'm sure one day's disturbance won't hurt you. Staff at nursery's have ratios to keep to and admin, queries are probably done whilst they don't have so many children in their care.

Set your phone to do not disturb if you don't want disturbing or put it on silent.

Personally I'd prefer calls at 7.30am as I'm in work by 8am and have less opportunity to talk.

I can't imagine being precious enough to email the nursery and remind them that I don't do morning drop offs so shouldn't be disturbed though.

[Ihopeyourcakeisshit]

@Kintsugi16

Don’t answer then.
It’s a request, not a demand

Really?
If the phone went that early in our house we'd think someone has died or there was an emergency situation.
I don't think you're being unreasonable OP.

[Piggyhoolier]

I'm prepared to accept I'm BU if people think I am, it's hard to be objective when I'm exhausted and grumpy

OP it’s definitely the tiredness making this seem more rude than it actually was. Although it also seems lots of people find it rude and a PP pointed out this will likely come down to genetics of early birds vs night owls. Hope you manage to have a nice easy day today, lack of sleep when dealing with young children is hard

[ImNotAMorningPerson]

Thanks all

I'm an ogre when I'm shattered and I haven't had a good nights kip in ages. I wasn't rude when I emailed the nursery btw, I wouldn't dream of it.

[JustLyra]

That’s too early. I’d think that was an emergency.

[YouBringLightInToADarkPlace]

House phone or mobile?
House phone YANBU, Mobile YABU.

Drives me mad when people moan about their mobile ringing- put it on silent if you don't want to be disturbed. Take some responsibility?

[BlusteryLake]

I do nearly all my personal admin between 6.30am and 7.30am and often ring people at that time, but only the ones I know are also active then. It seems a bit early if not urgent in your case though.

[landofgiants]

This is why you need to list your DH as primary contact

I'd be annoyed too.

[caringcarer]

Too early to call me. I would not answer.

[Tureen]

I think I’d be annoyed about the sexist defaulting to the mother’s number despite the nursery having your DH’s number and presumably anyone who was working at 7.30 in the morning also being well aware that your DH does morning drop offs. I had to be very explicit with DS’s school eventually, even though DH’s number was their first contact as he worked far closer — they would still call me first, even though I worked further away, was reliant on infrequent rural buses, and had a job where for large parts of days on campus, I was giving lectures and couldn’t take a call unless it was an outright emergency and they had already tried DH, who was then working from home a minute from the school with a car. Even after I’d explained all this politely, I think the staff still defaulted to ‘SAHM with no other claims on her time.’ It’s true that it’s the only school DS has ever attended where there were only three WOHMs out of 27 children in his class.

[garlictwist]

I don't think it's particularly early during the week. However if you don't want to be woken why do you sleep next to your phone?

[babyyodaxmas]

Wouldn't bother me on a weekday. I'd only call people I knew would be up. Perhaps they wanted to catch you before the school run....