My MiL is arthritic, unsteady on her feet (has had a fall in the last six months). She is seeing her GP this week because of dizzy spells & disorientation. She smokes, is diabetic and doesn't eat properly e.g. often doesn't eat lunch. She is also a dreadful liar and unfortunately is often caught out. She also sometimes does things that I ask her not to do and I don't know whether it is deliberate or whether she forgets. Anyway, we are off to a wedding and my DH suggested we left DD with his mum and I said no and explained a few of the reasons why I felt uncomfy leaving her and that basically I couldn't trust MiL to look after DD safely. My DH said he felt insulted by this and I should stop looking for negative reasons and that I should start to look for positive reasons and build trust. (Am ok leaving DD with my mum who is fit, healthy and lives next door to my brother & his family, and near my sister and her family) My MiL lives alone with no-one near her too..... Feel awful as don't want to upset DH but don't know how to move forward?