Would a little common decency have hurt?

[Weezapleeza]

My nephew lost control of his R/C car and it went into the road. A few seconds later a woman in a Discovery ran right over it but apparently without batting an eyelid. She didn't slow down or stop either before or after. It was like she'd just flattened it in passing. Then the acknowledgement came. A couple of minutes later she pulled up outside the drive, wound down her window, and asked him the most incredible question. "Did you enjoy that?" She was furious, and rude, and he was in tears. That seemed to give her an answer but all she did then was drive off again. No apology, nothing. AIBU to expect better?

Poor kid, he learned a hard lesson a very hard way, but thats life I guess.

“Range Rovers are known as Cnutmobiles for a reason“

Ha ha ha ha, hilarious

Dick

@opentheblinds

You sound a very reasonable person - I think you’ve responded very well to the points made. And agree that she was rude and unpleasant but it shouldn’t have happened in the first place. I’m just very impressed by how you’ve handled this thread, and that’s really rare!!

Agreed.

Notwithstanding the fact that your nephew was a bit of a berk for 'driving' it into the road in the first place, I will assume you are being honest that it was a few seconds (lets say 4 or 5) before the driver arrived and she was only going about 20mph. If the driver can't see an object in the road and slow down from that speed without risking an accident then she shouldn't be in charge of a vehicle. All that is needed is a few inches adjustment to avoid the wheels going over it.

Wow. Sometimes you get a thread on mumsnet that shows how unbelievably self absorbed and centred some people are.

You were supervising a child, who has caused a minor accident on a road while under your care.

She did well not to lose her rag altogether.

It's such a dangerous and irresponsible thing to do to let a child loose on a public road and almost cause an accident. What would you have had her do - swerve out of the way and into another car, or worse, a pedestrian?

I agree with @NerrSnerr - I haven't voted either way as I think she could have been politer but I absolutely do not think your DN should be playing with something like that near a road unless fully in control.

I'm almost tempted to think she was rude because she had 'scared anger' - running over anything tends to trigger my fight/flight response.

4 or 5 seconds would have meant she would have had to slam on her brakes, increasing the risk of harm to herself. Just no.

The worst harm my slamming the brakes on has ever caused in over 30 years behind the wheel is emptying my handbag into the passenger footwell. It was an arsehole of a cyclist who didn’t look the last time.

@VinylDetective

The worst harm my slamming the brakes on has ever caused in over 30 years behind the wheel is emptying my handbag into the passenger footwell. It was an arsehole of a cyclist who didn’t look the last time.

Well then you’re very lucky. I’ve had people run into me, into the car behind me, swerve onto the pavement. (Different incidents, would be interesting if it were all those at once)

The worst harm my slamming the brakes on has ever caused in over 30 years behind the wheel is emptying my handbag into the passenger footwell. It was an arsehole of a cyclist who didn’t look the last time.

You're lucky indeed. If I do an emergency stop, I do it taking the risk that something will slam into the back of my car, where my children are. So I do it for cars and human beings only.

Well then you’re very lucky. I’ve had people run into me, into the car behind me, swerve onto the pavement

That’s not bad luck, it’s piss poor driving by people driving too close to the car in front.

Well yes but we drive for how the world is, not how we'd like it to be. I'm not going to do an emergency stop for a child's toy because people do drive too close and I know that already.

Wow a lot of victim blaming here. Like none of you had ever done something silly as a child. That poor child saw his toy being destroyed and the woman clearly saw it judging by her question. What a nasty piece of work she is. Hope your nephew is ok and the rest of you commenters where is #benice??

“Victim blaming” 😂😂😂 omg.
OP your nephew shouldn’t be playing so near the road. An accident waiting to happen and could have been much worse. I would have been very angry too in the woman’s position.

I would have driven over it and not swerved, as that could be dangerous. So I don't think the lady was wrong to keep going. An RC car can be replaced. It isn't a huge deal.

But I don't think the woman should have shouted. I can see she maybe felt a bit shaken? Let it go, OP. Children are resilient and he won't be thinking about this still in a few days, save maybe to mourn the loss of his car!

She sounds like a prize bitch, lucky it wasn’t a child that went on to the road. The driver should be prepared to stop regardless of what goes on the road in front of her. The child didn’t deliberately drive it on to the road. You are NOT being unreasonable. The driver behaved like a class A bitch.

It's usually peoples bloody cats running in the road.

@Haas19

Wow a lot of victim blaming here. Like none of you had ever done something silly as a child. That poor child saw his toy being destroyed and the woman clearly saw it judging by her question. What a nasty piece of work she is. Hope your nephew is ok and the rest of you commenters where is #benice??

Eh? The car driver is the victim!

@Lollipop25

She sounds like a prize bitch, lucky it wasn’t a child that went on to the road. The driver should be prepared to stop regardless of what goes on the road in front of her. The child didn’t deliberately drive it on to the road. You are NOT being unreasonable. The driver behaved like a class A bitch.

If it is a human being, or an animal I can understand slowing down. Swerving is potentially dangerous and the boy wasn't in any danger unless he himself was in the road trying to retrieve the car.

@Lollipop25

She sounds like a prize bitch, lucky it wasn’t a child that went on to the road. The driver should be prepared to stop regardless of what goes on the road in front of her. The child didn’t deliberately drive it on to the road. You are NOT being unreasonable. The driver behaved like a class A bitch.

Except he did do it deliberately. Have you bothered to read the thread?

You are not being unreasonable at all, and to the people saying that the driver was probably "too busy focusing on the road" she wasn't doing a great job if she didn't notice an object running into the road! And on a residential street her speed shouldve been slow enough to notice and stop the car.

I'd be absolutely furious if someone then proceeded to pull up and speak to my child like that. They certainly wouldn't be driving off with that being the last word.

The driver is clearly a moron and one that lacks focus and concentration on the road not to mention general manners and common decency.