If you could go back in time, would you spend more or less on your wedding?

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Starting to plan our wedding and torn between potentially regretting not spending more on it in the future, or spending too much on it 🙈.

YABU = more
YANBU = less

Oh and the best thing we spent money on was a couple of those disposable cameras on each table. One of our friend's had a 4 year old boy and he snaffled them and took literally hundreds of brilliant photos. no-one took much notice of a 4 year old other than to smile at him so we got some lovely unposed photos.

Less. I wouldn't change the day itself because that was not excessive and we really enjoyed it. But we blew over half our budget on an excessive honeymoon on the other side of the world that was totally unnecessary. We could have spent a fifth of what that cost us and had just as nice a time on a European city break. And the money we saved could have helped us get out of our poky little house and into a family home much sooner.

Less but I'm at a different time in my life now.

When we got married we were 27, no DC, working full time. We got married in a spectacular historical building locally. We had about 80 at the ceremony, fed 50 and had about 100 at the reception. It cost about £12,000 all in.

We're both now approaching 39 and we have two DC. If we got married now I'd hire a dress and we'd probably elope. A couple of years aho DH and I went to Iceland to see the Northern Lights. We left the DC with grandparents. We said then that has we not already been married, we'd probably have looked at doing there spontaneously and just going home married.

A friend got married after her first two children were born and they decided to spend less on the wedding and more on a fantastic family honeymoon.

I don't regret a penny of what we spent. It was the right wedding for us at the time. But it wouldn't be now.

Consider what you want and what you think you're expected to have. We didn't bother with favours as we thought they were still pointless. Put that money on extra wine during the meal. Our guests appreciated that far more.

Do what's right for you. We got married 6 weeks before our close friends. We did things our way, with the meal at a local restaurant, no favours, entertainment in addition to the disco in the evening. Our friends did a 'wedding in a box' deal with a hotel. It was all very lovely, but it wasn't personal to them so was a bit bland (and the almond favours universally went in the bin). It's your day. Make sure your personality comes through.

We were young and didn't have much money (spent £2000). I wouldn't actually spend more on the wedding as we had plenty of food and drink which is the main thing imo but would spend more on the honeymoon. Planning an expensive 10th anniversary holiday :)

Not much money around when we got married. Just the ceremony and a sit down meal (no round of drinks, just food and no honeymoon). Have to say it was a good day and we really enjoyed it and it was right for us. With hindsight I would like to have been able to pay for a round of drinks but that is about it. I went to a relative's wedding last year who spent £45,000 on the big day. It was in a nice stately home, but the food was mediocre (and for some guests cold), and the bar which was free had very limited gin and ran out before 10.00pm, so I could not get a drink even if I was paying for it. Sadly they have now parted. Moral for me is do what you are happy with, but remember it is the marriage not the wedding that counts.

I would've spent considerably less and not gone through with it at all! But I was a young moron. Now I'll just say what I said to each of my kids - It's YOUR day and regardless of your budget, do it your way ❤