To want to keep my car

Plonthy · 19/02/2021 21:39

Get rid of the partner.

Problem(s) solved.

Car can come in handy for all sorts of things...thats why people have them. Your partner is being a tool.

CandyLeBonBon · 19/02/2021 21:42

@tafnam

my partner is an environmentalist and she doesn't like the fact I have a car and drive so I decided if I should get a electric car or hybrid as I'm due to change she might be happier but she is reluctant on it she was like why don't I just save my money. So she wants me to have no car at all but im not just going to sell my car and have nothing. I've got a 1.9 golf atm and looking to swap it for a polo 2018 1.2 but she doesn't want me to buy it she was asking why don't I just sell my golf then keep the money but I don't want to do that really.

Um. Nope. She doesn't get to control how you choose to spend your money.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:44

@Plonthy

Get rid of the partner.

Problem(s) solved.

Car can come in handy for all sorts of things...thats why people have them. Your partner is being a tool.

OK thanks

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:45

That's true

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ClaryFairchild · 19/02/2021 21:46

Your partner wants you to walk HER talk. Do why you want, follow your beliefs. This is just a precursor to lifetime of these differences of opinions if you stay together.

Sparklfairy · 19/02/2021 21:47

Presumably youd have to spend your money on public transport instead anyway?

Hoppinggreen · 19/02/2021 21:49

If she doesn’t approve of car ownership then she doesn’t have to own a car. She can’t tell you what to do though

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:49

@ClaryFairchild

Your partner wants you to walk HER talk. Do why you want, follow your beliefs. This is just a precursor to lifetime of these differences of opinions if you stay together.

She was telling me she feels guilty when she sees me driving because my car is pumping out few pointless. I said its not point because I am going out and its getting me to places but she just says what is wrong with public transport

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ArchbishopOfBanterbury · 19/02/2021 21:50

She makes her choices, not yours. If she was a he, we'd be slating him for being a controlling arse. I say the same thing applies regardless of sex.

Your car, your money, your choice.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:51

@Sparklfairy

Presumably youd have to spend your money on public transport instead anyway?

It might be cheaper than the car though but yes

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:52

@Hoppinggreen

If she doesn’t approve of car ownership then she doesn’t have to own a car. She can’t tell you what to do though

She doesn't have her licence or anything but yes.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:53

@ArchbishopOfBanterbury

She makes her choices, not yours. If she was a he, we'd be slating him for being a controlling arse. I say the same thing applies regardless of sex.

Your car, your money, your choice.

Yes

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EileenGC · 19/02/2021 21:59

Your choice. If you need a car, it’s okay to have one. Your partner doesn’t get to tell you if you can own a car or not.

I don’t have a car because I live in a city with good public transport that gets me everywhere I need. It’s also cheaper than running a car and I am trying to reduce my environmental impact. I only use taxis 3-4 times a year on the odd occasion I need to go out of town or I’ve landed at 2am when the trains aren’t running. If I were to move out to somewhere with horrible public transport, I’d get a car.

You need to consider your circumstances and act accordingly.

NotJosieGrosieAnymore · 19/02/2021 22:01

Urgh how controlling.

She is entitled to hold whatever beliefs she wants, but has no right to impose them on you! Does she even care what you think or is it all about her?

Keep your car. If she uses it even for the odd lift or favour then she’s a complete hypocrite. See how things go in the relationship but you shouldn’t be dictated to like this.

mogtheexcellent · 19/02/2021 22:02

Christ she sounds like hard work.

And controlling.

Keep your car. Its freedom. And who wants to travel on public transport at the moment anyhow? (Unless they have no other option)

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:05

@NotJosieGrosieAnymore

Urgh how controlling.

She is entitled to hold whatever beliefs she wants, but has no right to impose them on you! Does she even care what you think or is it all about her?

Keep your car. If she uses it even for the odd lift or favour then she’s a complete hypocrite. See how things go in the relationship but you shouldn’t be dictated to like this.

OK, she used to come in for lifts but doesn't now, if we go out together we have to walk, once we went separate ways and she was on the pavement next to me when I was just driving past her.

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ScoobyBlues · 19/02/2021 22:08

It's not your belief though. It's hers. People are allowed to think different things. She thinks it's important to not have a car so she doesn't have a car. You don't think that.

Presumably you use your car to go to the shops and see friends and go to work. To live your life. Those things aren't unnecessary to you.

If being with somebody who has a car is a deal breaker for her then that's her choice. She doesn't have to be with you. But you shouldn't become a different person.

What if she finds another terrible flaw in you. What is she decided you should only listen to jazz?

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:09

@EileenGC

Your choice. If you need a car, it’s okay to have one. Your partner doesn’t get to tell you if you can own a car or not.

I don’t have a car because I live in a city with good public transport that gets me everywhere I need. It’s also cheaper than running a car and I am trying to reduce my environmental impact. I only use taxis 3-4 times a year on the odd occasion I need to go out of town or I’ve landed at 2am when the trains aren’t running. If I were to move out to somewhere with horrible public transport, I’d get a car.

You need to consider your circumstances and act accordingly.

I'm going tbh I don't live in a city and I don't think public transport will be that bad if I sold my car for it then got used to it but I want a car and should be allowed one. Like I think pretty much everyone on my road drive and have cars on their drive and all we live with my family who all drive just apart from my girlfriend

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user0987654 · 19/02/2021 22:11

So she has not once had a lift anywhere in your car?

7yo7yo · 19/02/2021 22:11

She sounds very controlling. Her choice if she doesn’t want to use or sit in a car and your choice if you do.
I’d get rid of her before I got rid of my car!

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:13

@user0987654

So she has not once had a lift anywhere in your car?

No she hasn't been in my car for a good few months but she said it makes her guilty when I just drive off because my car pumps out fumes

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:13

@7yo7yo

She sounds very controlling. Her choice if she doesn’t want to use or sit in a car and your choice if you do. I’d get rid of her before I got rid of my car!

Ok

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user54328876 · 19/02/2021 22:15

Having no transport of your own limits your life options and is a nightmare if you develop health problems.

It takes my DH an hour and a half to get to work on very frequent bus services. His colleague on an earlier shift, who lives over the road, does it in his old banger in ten-twelve minutes.

Don't give it up, it is expensive to get that freedom back if you cannot do without it.

Helloandhelloagain · 19/02/2021 22:15

Shouldn’t date someone with a car if she feels so strongly about it

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:17

@Helloandhelloagain

Shouldn’t date someone with a car if she feels so strongly about it

I think I hadn't passed my test when we started dating

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