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To want to keep my car

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 21:34

my partner is an environmentalist and she doesn't like the fact I have a car and drive so I decided if I should get a electric car or hybrid as I'm due to change she might be happier but she is reluctant on it she was like why don't I just save my money. So she wants me to have no car at all but im not just going to sell my car and have nothing. I've got a 1.9 golf atm and looking to swap it for a polo 2018 1.2 but she doesn't want me to buy it she was asking why don't I just sell my golf then keep the money but I don't want to do that really.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:46

@Elai1978

Get rid of her and get yourself a nice V8 and a meat-loving petrolhead GF. Life will be much more fun!
Good idea
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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:47

@BadLad

Pressure to become one is probably on the horizon once the car battle is over.
True
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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/02/2021 22:51

Does her vegan food grow in her own allotment by the sweat of her brow or does a hugely polluting lorry bring it to the supermarket ?

Fullofthejoysofspring · 19/02/2021 22:51

You've posted about her before haven't you. She can't tell you to get rid of your car but you seem to have fundamentally mismatched core beliefs so maybe it's time you went your separate ways.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:52

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

Does her vegan food grow in her own allotment by the sweat of her brow or does a hugely polluting lorry bring it to the supermarket ?
Unsure
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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:53

@Fullofthejoysofspring

You've posted about her before haven't you. She can't tell you to get rid of your car but you seem to have fundamentally mismatched core beliefs so maybe it's time you went your separate ways.
It might just be time to go separate ways tbf
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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/02/2021 22:53

Though is a 1.9l a diesel ?

I know they're on the way of leaded petrol so she might have a point re the fumes ?

BeatricePrior · 19/02/2021 22:54

What are her views on everything else? Kids, job etc.

I'd be inclined to bin them off. A car is your independence.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:58

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

Though is a 1.9l a diesel ?

I know they're on the way of leaded petrol so she might have a point re the fumes ?

Yes 1.9 tdi diesel but im said im buying a 1.0 polo and shes still reluctant on that and even an electric car she is reluctant on
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tafnam · 19/02/2021 22:58

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

Though is a 1.9l a diesel ?

I know they're on the way of leaded petrol so she might have a point re the fumes ?

Yes but shes reluctant on me getting a polo 1 litre or an electric car
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EvilPea · 19/02/2021 22:59

Oh bollocks to that.
There is an argument that buying a used premade existing car is better for the environment then mining precious metals for a new one, especially electric.
I can see the argument for swapping from the diesel to the petrol. But bollocks to that if you don’t want to sell your car don’t.
Keep your use sensible, but there’s no sense of freedom like it. Being able to go from aldi to Tesco to wilko buying heavy stuff in every shop, or zipping down the motorway to the seaside on a nice day, train costs to do that on the hop are mental.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 23:00

@BeatricePrior

What are her views on everything else? Kids, job etc.

I'd be inclined to bin them off. A car is your independence.

She doesn't complain on any of that stuff but her points on lockdown are totally different to mine, she thinks lockdown should be extended and she was even signing petitions for it to be extended
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user0987654 · 19/02/2021 23:07

She thinks having no car would be respecting her choice

What about respecting your choice? Why is it only one way

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 23:09

@user0987654

She thinks having no car would be respecting her choice

What about respecting your choice? Why is it only one way

She thinks because I still will be ok because ill be using public transport
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andweallsingalong · 19/02/2021 23:09

Totally up to you if you want a car or not, but if you're not in a city I'd be wary of assuming that public transport is cheaper.

Our previous car unexpectedly failed its MOT and I went to work on the train for a while. Loved it, more exercise, felt healthier, totally couldn't afford to keep doing it.

Work and back £7.50 per day instead of the usual £15 per week petrol. Family trip to the IL's or my mum £90-120 on the train instead of £20 petrol. Even adding in other running costs way more expensive on public transport and no way we could have afforded to not get another car.

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 23:12

@andweallsingalong

Totally up to you if you want a car or not, but if you're not in a city I'd be wary of assuming that public transport is cheaper.

Our previous car unexpectedly failed its MOT and I went to work on the train for a while. Loved it, more exercise, felt healthier, totally couldn't afford to keep doing it.

Work and back £7.50 per day instead of the usual £15 per week petrol. Family trip to the IL's or my mum £90-120 on the train instead of £20 petrol. Even adding in other running costs way more expensive on public transport and no way we could have afforded to not get another car.

My car is reliable you literally put fuel in it service and mot it every year and it starts everyday without fail. I feel like public transport would be hassle for me personally
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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/02/2021 23:15

Does she ever try to change your thinking about your non-vegan diet?
Or think your motor is a bit Boy Racer?

Change if you want to .
Would she change any of her beliefs and views for you ?

(My DH knew I was vegetarian when we met and became one because he fancied me and thought it'd make him more interesting Grin . My MIL blamed me ! )

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/02/2021 23:16

My car is reliable you literally put fuel in it service and mot it every year and it starts everyday without fail
Ah well you've jinxed it now Wink

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tafnam · 19/02/2021 23:19

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

Does she ever try to change your thinking about your non-vegan diet? Or think your motor is a bit Boy Racer?

Change if you want to .
Would she change any of her beliefs and views for you ?

(My DH knew I was vegetarian when we met and became one because he fancied me and thought it'd make him more interesting Grin . My MIL blamed me ! )

She suggested coming vegan but I said I like meat which she was fine about. No. I think she would change if I sold my car and didn't buy the new one but I don't want to do that
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tafnam · 19/02/2021 23:20

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

My car is reliable you literally put fuel in it service and mot it every year and it starts everyday without fail Ah well you've jinxed it now Wink
What do you mean?
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Velvian · 19/02/2021 23:35

Personally, I'm not convinced that electric cars are the technology. Particularly when people sell an existing good car to buy a new one. It is not environmentally friendly to keep manufacting new cars, even if they are electric. Then there are the batteries that have a limited lifespan and contain precious metals that have to be mined.

I don't buy into it at all. I'm driving at least 95% less since I've been WFH, we're running 1 car occasionally now, rather than 2 every day. If we had bought a new electric car, what a terrible waste and impact that would have been.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/02/2021 23:43

What do you mean ?

If I said Yeah my car never lets me down, starts first time , breezes through MOT it would throw a strop over being taken for granted ( my car is highly emotional like that Grin )

79andnotout · 20/02/2021 07:28

How far are these journeys you're taking in the car that she is walking to?

peak2021 · 20/02/2021 07:36

Do you really need a car? Use public transport, walk, take a taxi on a few occasions?

Or alternatively keep the existing one until end of life and then not get another one?

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 20/02/2021 07:42

Look, you obviously aren’t exactly smitten with her - as evidenced by starting a thread simply to get criticism of her. As far as I can see, you don’t live with her, never mind share a mortgage. You don’t, I presume, have children with her.

Finish with her. It’s the right thing for both of you.

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