To want to keep my car

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my partner is an environmentalist and she doesn't like the fact I have a car and drive so I decided if I should get a electric car or hybrid as I'm due to change she might be happier but she is reluctant on it she was like why don't I just save my money. So she wants me to have no car at all but im not just going to sell my car and have nothing. I've got a 1.9 golf atm and looking to swap it for a polo 2018 1.2 but she doesn't want me to buy it she was asking why don't I just sell my golf then keep the money but I don't want to do that really.

I don't know how long your GF has been a vegan but I can understand her angst a bit. When you start on the path of worrying about the environment it can become overwhelming.

She's stopped eating meat which is a start. Hopefully very few new clothes because fast fashion is terrible for using up resources. Organic food only because you don't want to support farmers who spray insecticides on their crops. In fact a local UK only veg box is best. Dried not tinned pulses - not transporting water. Mooncup and washable pads. Soap nuts not chemical laundry liquid....... the list can be endless.

The worry can grow and grow.

Realistically we live in this world and make our own choices. A huge 4x4 with double exhausts is one thing but you're talking about a Polo.

In times of Covid we need to avoid public transport anyway.

Keep your car. You don't have to use it for every 10 minute journey but they can be a godsend.

Presumably she doesn't use electricity at home.

Because she dies realise they burn coal to generate the electricity?

And presumably she's also vegan.

Op - If mankind found a way to teleport, causing zero emissions, using zero electricity/fuel and with zero effect on the planet, your girlfriend would still find a problem with you doing it!

my gf gets the bus to work in winter

Funny.

Is her aversion to cars/transport etc seasonal then? LOL

It’s ultimately up to you what you do. Good relationships are about finding a compromise that you’re both comfortable with if you can. It doesn’t sound as though that’s possible?

If you care about her feelings and respect her view, compromise could be to swap your car for an electric vehicle, or sell it and join a car club, but it’s entirely up to you.

I agree that it's controlling. If having a car was causing monetary issues that affected you both like not being able to pay towards the mortgage etc because of it then seems sensible to discuss it, and she is welcome to her beliefs but shouldn't inflict them on you. I am a vegan and DH and DS eat meat, not my ideal but also not something I inflict on them or preach to them about. If you were doing doughnuts all night in B&Q car park or something then sure, but if you are using it as and when needed then no problem. Could she be jealous that she doesn't drive?

There is no public transport where I live.

@NotJosieGrosieAnymore

Urgh how controlling.

She is entitled to hold whatever beliefs she wants, but has no right to impose them on you! Does she even care what you think or is it all about her?

Keep your car. If she uses it even for the odd lift or favour then she’s a complete hypocrite. See how things go in the relationship but you shouldn’t be dictated to like this.

Why does he have a right to impose his pollution on everyone else?

We need a societal mindset change about driving.

You posted the same thing a few months ago - the replies wont be any different this time

get rid of partner and keep the car, their ideals are theirs not yours
where do they think electric comes from - burning gas, woodchip, nuclear power which is about as non environmentally good as you get

And where does she think the electricity comes from to power said vehicles - magic fairies??
Not to mention the toxic and dangerous mining for the batteries, the lack of recycling for them and the weight of the vehicle on the road damaging the roads??
I don't use the car much and walk but when I do use it, it's because the alternative public transport would take 2 hours if it actually ran when I needed it, instead of 20 mins by car and I'm not having DS stuck on a bus at 11pm after training (when allowed back again) when he could be home by 9:15pm!!

She thinks because I still will be ok because ill be using public transport

But that's not respecting your views.
Your views are you want a car because it's more convenient and you like cars.
How does saying you'll be OK on public transport respect that view?

And on a side note to PP, aren't all new cars supposed to be electric by 2030 .... or some similar date?

Does she order takeaways? Because those mopeds/motorbikes making a special journey to bring her just one meal are using fossil fuels and pumping out pollutants.

If u sell your car you have lost some independence I think if you love your car keep it !
If you want to compromise go with an electric car be a shame not to have a car and tbh one less road driver won’t make a very big dent in the big scheme on things

*She thinks having no car would be respecting her choice

What about respecting your choice? Why is it only one way*

She thinks because I still will be ok because ill be using public transport

She could get in a car, but chooses not to. You could get public transport but choose not to - why is her choice any more valid than yours?