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To ask when you put your baby in their own room

202 replies

Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 20:36

Despite my best efforts my 8 month old is a light sleeper. He frequently gets disturbed by me and my husband going to bed /getting up in the morning although sometimes he will resettle.
I would like to put him in his own room but my husband is really against it and says it's mean while he's so little. I'm sure our older girls were in their own room by 8 months (pretty sure it was 6 months).
What age did you put baby in their own room?

OP posts:
mamakoukla · 20/02/2021 00:38

And I was typically up 3-4 a night, did all night time feeds, and went into work at 24 weeks. Carried on feeding until 18 months; stopped night time feeds at around 17 months.

user64332 · 20/02/2021 00:42

About 5 years.

DenisetheMenace · 20/02/2021 00:52

user64332

About 5 years.“

That’s interesting. Why so long?

Redruby2020 · 20/02/2021 01:10

@Givemeabreak88

I don’t know, my 3 year old is still in my room. 😒
Omg I thought I was the only one. We have only moved in a few months ago had so much to sort out, DS always been in with me until move, and still got to get him a bed as we just have his cot. Looking forward to when he sleeps in his own room!
user64332 · 20/02/2021 01:27

@DenisetheMenace dc1 I was a single parent in a 1 bed flat until they were nearly 3, then I moved into a 2 bed house and I didn't mind at all when they preferred to sleep in my bed until age 5 ish.

Dc2 we were till in the 2 bed house until they were 3. They always had the choice of parents room or siblings room and would flit between the two.

Dc3 is 4.5 and we currently have a 5 bedroom house but despite having the space they've slept in their own room only a handful of times and their room has now morphed into a walk in wardrobe because they sleep in our bed permanently. We're moving again soon and will start them off in their own room but we have a superking bed and really don't mind if they want to be in our bed. They won't as a teenager.

So partly circumstance, but mostly it feels natural. Globally were quite unique to have children in their own beds/rooms. Adults usually prefer to share a bed with others too. I just don't see it as an issue. It hasn't affected our sex life or alone time and I think it helps them to feel secure.

Redruby2020 · 20/02/2021 01:34

[quote Madtimes78]@StoneofDestiny Perhaps because some may have the view that at a young age they want to be near their parent/parents?

My Dd is still in with us at 2,5 years...we’re slowly making the transition to her new bed and bedroom by summer hopefully, but we’ll mainly go with how she feels and when she’s ready. Part of me is desperate for my own space again, part of me will be sad when it ends.[/quote]
My DS is 3, in with me, we moved in a few months ago, been through quite a lot so it was easier to just go with the flow intially, but now getting a bit much and looking at beds for DS for his room, I know it won't be easy, maybe I will be pleasantly surprised, if I'm lucky 😬

Hairstanding · 20/02/2021 01:35

About 2 months old i think.

Mumshappy · 20/02/2021 01:46

My ds is nearly three and hes in my room. I would have worried more when he was younger if he'd been in another room.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/02/2021 01:54

6 months. DS because we were disturbing him and he struggled in a crib having spent so much bloody time in a large hospital cot. The cot bed didn't fit in our room so he had to go next door.
DTwins we held out in small cots for longer than was ideal to keep them with is til 6 months but thankfully they were slow to pull up etc, at 6 months they had to go into cot beds so they had to go in the third room together.

I'm aware children sharing a room is controversial on MN bit we planned 2 kids not 3 😂

0gfhty · 20/02/2021 02:09

I could not sleep in a different room to my baby. I would never sleep

Pyewhacket · 20/02/2021 02:10

4 weeks.

Pyewhacket · 20/02/2021 02:11

Sorry, 14 weeks

IHaveBrilloHair · 20/02/2021 02:13

From day 1, it was right next to my room and I had a monitor.

Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum · 20/02/2021 02:13

Around 6 months with all of them apart from this one. She is a terrible sleeper and wants me constantly with her.

Bluebell798 · 20/02/2021 02:15

Mine was in the nursery from the night we were back from hospital. It was the middle of winter so my room was way too cold, besides which I'm a very light sleeper so it wouldn't have worked at all.
The SIDS guidelines recommend they spend the first 6 months in your room so 8 months is definitely not too little.

Nat6999 · 20/02/2021 02:53

We moved ds in at 4 months to see if he would sleep any better in his own room, he was back within a week because we weren't getting any sleep, the only time he slept well was at our caravan as he was out in the fresh air all day, we spent 12 weeks of my ML there just to get regular sleep.

Fullyhuman · 20/02/2021 05:31

9 & 6 - years! They had their own room as an option but didn’t want to and we didn’t mind, we had two double beds pushed together and made safe (bed legs cable tied together and rolled towels stuffed into gaps to make a flat sleeping surface). It was a lovely phase of our lives though the bedroom looks a lot better now it isn’t wall to wall bed.
Our working commitments varied over that time but this maximised sleep. We used to sneak off to the living room - ha! Just typoed that to loving room - for time alone. Nowadays we sometimes get the youngest coming in when he’s ill/has a nightmare and i love the cuddles.

secretllama · 20/02/2021 07:16

4 months. He was consistently sleeping through then, and having his day naps in his cot so didn't feel the need to wait to 6 months.

MsSquiz · 20/02/2021 07:21

DD was around 6 months old. I would've happily kept her in our room for longer but it was summer and the light coming through the gaps around our blinds at stupid o'clock kept waking her up for the day!
We put her in her own room (blackout blind and curtains) and she started sleeping 7-6, only waking for her night feed around 1am. Everyone was happier!

AyrshireAmbler49 · 20/02/2021 07:22

We put DD in her own room when she was about 3 and a half.

Ileflottante · 20/02/2021 08:09

Ileflottante
I always wonder how people manage to have multiple children when they co-sleep until their kids are years and years old! You all must have to get quite creative

Very large family beds

People conceive their second/third/fourth while sharing a bed with their sleeping kids?! Gross. Confused

SleepingStandingUp · 20/02/2021 09:15

I've never understood why people put them in their own rooms from say earlier than 4 months unless there's literally no space at all, surely it's just a nightmare with feeding?

Lemmeout · 20/02/2021 09:16

When they reliably slept through and I knew they didn’t need me.

WeatherwaxOn · 20/02/2021 09:17

3y as we lived in a one bedroom flat before that.

Lemmeout · 20/02/2021 09:18

My dn went at 12 months 1 say. He would still be in my sis room at 5 otherwise Shock . It depends, I though a year was pretty standard.

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