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To ask when you put your baby in their own room

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Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 20:36

Despite my best efforts my 8 month old is a light sleeper. He frequently gets disturbed by me and my husband going to bed /getting up in the morning although sometimes he will resettle.
I would like to put him in his own room but my husband is really against it and says it's mean while he's so little. I'm sure our older girls were in their own room by 8 months (pretty sure it was 6 months).
What age did you put baby in their own room?

OP posts:
stargirl1701 · 19/02/2021 20:57

DD1 6 months

DD2 3 years

CryHavoc · 19/02/2021 20:58

5 months, and she slept through from that night.

Cindy87 · 19/02/2021 20:59

Around 6 months both times

PinkyU · 19/02/2021 20:59

Around 3 years for all my dc, which having a toddler and newborn for a while.

It was lovely, often difficult at the time, I look back now years on and have really fond memories of their tiny warm bodies cocooned in mine. How dc2 would wrap her arms around a tiny newborn dc3 sleepily declaring “mine baby”.

They share a room now and can often be found with dc3 (now 8yo) sat on dc2’s (now 11yo) lap reading stories or giggling hysterically at a film.

StoneofDestiny · 19/02/2021 21:00

From day 1.

Greencabin · 19/02/2021 21:00

17 months old, our toddlers cot is in our room next to our bed! She goes to sleep in it no problem but usually comes into our bed at some point in the might which we all love. I'm also still bf so it's easier this way.

Do what works for you and your baby. Don't feel guilty either way, theres always some smart arse who thinks they are the sleep oracle!

VestaTilley · 19/02/2021 21:01

7 month old DS when we sleep trained.

StoneofDestiny · 19/02/2021 21:02

Why would you not? (Genuine questions).

rosegoldivy · 19/02/2021 21:02

4 months. Was the best decision I've ever made.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/02/2021 21:03

About 10 weeks for dc1, which clearly wasn’t a good idea, but I didn’t really know what I was doing, and not quite myself due to severe sleep deprivation

6 months to the day with dc2 - not intentional that it would be to the day - just happened to be the day we had the opportunity to get things sorted

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/02/2021 21:03

Not yet, she’s two next month. Her nursery is now DH office. Kept expecting him to be called back in but he’s now probably wfh forever so not sure what we’ll do...

Mapless · 19/02/2021 21:05

8 months with my youngest. Seemed a natural point at the time. Trust your instinct.

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 19/02/2021 21:06

From birth. All my babies had their own nursery

Teakind · 19/02/2021 21:09

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken that’s the point though. It’s considered safer for them to be in your room because by disturbing them you stop them falling in to the really deep sleep that is associated with cot death.

nocturnalke · 19/02/2021 21:10

Waited for the six months mark as recommended. However, I knew deep down she would sleep better in her own room as us making noise woke her up but waited anyway. Most nights she has slept for 12 hours straight since being in own room.

NewScone · 19/02/2021 21:10

6 months exactly. She slept better as we could put a white noise machine on for her

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/02/2021 21:10

When I say 10 weeks with dd1, i was sleeping with her in her room until then, as our room (rented flat) had damp. Then I moved back to our room as I wasn’t coping with having to sleep in with her - it wasn’t a good plan though but it had been a very traumatic time (for various reasons not relevant to this thread).

WombatStewForTea · 19/02/2021 21:10

@StoneofDestiny
My dd is 12 months and still in with us. She wakes in the night still and it's easier for me to resettle her and get back to sleep myself if I don't have to get up and go into a different room.
Was yours alone in their own room from day 1? The reason you won't find many others who have done that is because safe sleep guidelines are that they are in the same room as you for the first 6 months to reduce the SIDS risk

1Morewineplease · 19/02/2021 21:10

Around 6 months.

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Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 21:11

I'm actually thinking of my husband more than myself as I get up at 2 in the morning on days I work and no matter what he'll wake up. It's not too bad for me as my husband doesn't get up until 6.
I just think he would sleep better in his own room but as I said my husband really doesn't want to. Nor is he interested in getting a monitor and moving him. Wonder if it's because he's our last baby.
I think it's mean to wake our son up, he thinks it's mean to abandon him, even though we obviously wouldn't be. So we just go round in circles.

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DenisetheMenace · 19/02/2021 21:12

When they were weaned and sleeping a solid 6 hours. Long time ago though, not sure what current advice is.

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 19/02/2021 21:12

From birth,I was feet away with audio and camera in room I had no safety concern
Plus I was returning to work after 6mth, didn’t want to try settle babies in nursery after 6 mth

Curiosity101 · 19/02/2021 21:14

4 months. Not really by choice but because every little noise DS made would wake me up and in turn I'd then wake him up. We both slept perfectly once he was in his own room. I'd have waited until 6 months if I'd not been struggling to sleep though.

DareIask · 19/02/2021 21:15

About a week.

We all kept one another awake and I could hear perfectly well from across the landing.

ChorltonWheelie · 19/02/2021 21:15

4 months, worked for us

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