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To ask when you put your baby in their own room

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Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 20:36

Despite my best efforts my 8 month old is a light sleeper. He frequently gets disturbed by me and my husband going to bed /getting up in the morning although sometimes he will resettle.
I would like to put him in his own room but my husband is really against it and says it's mean while he's so little. I'm sure our older girls were in their own room by 8 months (pretty sure it was 6 months).
What age did you put baby in their own room?

OP posts:
dementedpixie · 19/02/2021 23:14

It is 6 months. I've not heard of the 1 year recommendation either.

StoneofDestiny · 19/02/2021 23:14

Interesting thread - advice has clearly changed in the years since my kids were babies.

dementedpixie · 19/02/2021 23:19

The advice has been 6 months for a while. My kids are 17 and 14

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 19/02/2021 23:21

I know the advice, and my babies went own room from birth

MoodyMarshall · 19/02/2021 23:22

@DenisetheMenace

It's lovely, I really love the snuggles. Glad to hear that the yearning for cuddles never goes away, even when they're grown up.

DH snores so he's banned from the setup. Grin

ShinyGreenElephant · 19/02/2021 23:25

9m for DD1 once she was sleeping through reliably but 13m for DD2 as she was still waking to feed so would have resulted in a really disrupted sleep for both of us. I think 8m is fine if its what you want and if you're thr one getting up in the night it should be your choice.

Whobloodyknows · 19/02/2021 23:27

Around 6 months, although at 8 months she still has us up at least twice a night and wakes for the day at 5/6am 🤦🏻‍♀️

MyDcAreMarvel · 19/02/2021 23:28

2 years. I really don’t understand why people are so keen to put small babies in a room in their own.

JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority · 19/02/2021 23:29

Ds1 was 3
Ds2 was about 2

ouchmyfeet · 19/02/2021 23:30

Both about 6 weeks. They got too big for the Moses basket and we couldn't fit a cot in our room. Would do it again, we all slept a lot better

Whoopsmahoot · 19/02/2021 23:34

Flamed for this but 2 weeks old, worked for us.

DenisetheMenace · 19/02/2021 23:34

MoodyMarshall

@DenisetheMenace

It's lovely, I really love the snuggles. Glad to hear that the yearning for cuddles never goes away, even when they're grown up.“

18 year old occasionally forgets himself (especially in these strange times): yes, it is lovely. He sometimes comes down, says “good morning ma” and engulfs me in a hug. In 5 ft 6 now and he’s 6 ft 3. Bliss. 😁

olderthanyouthink · 19/02/2021 23:34

@User65412

Jumping on this thread! Those of you that co-slept til 2 or 3 or older, are both parents working full time and if so, how do you manage it? I'm so worried about how tired I might be and the danger of driving to work and working 10+ hours. So hard to know what to do for the best. Or will I just wake more out of worry with the baby in another room 🙈
I sleep more with her in the bed with me because I don't have to hardly wake at all to boob back to sleep. Now she started the night in her cot bed in our room and then climbs into our bed once I'm in there.

DD is not one for sleeping through, she's 2 and a bit and hasn't slept more than 6 hours straight for almost exactly 2 years. I can't do getting up and walking around every 1-4 hours and I refuse make her believe I won't come for her in the night if she wants or needs me.

theDudesmummy · 19/02/2021 23:37

Just to add, he slept in his own room from 15 months, but for about eight months between two and three he had sleeping problems so I slept on a fold out mattress on the floor of his for some nights.

LizzieVereker · 19/02/2021 23:40

Birth

olderthanyouthink · 19/02/2021 23:41

The recommended to room share till 12 months is more recent and from the US and Australia

The recommended to room share at all is because you disturb them which stops them sleeping too deeply and stop breathing and camera isn't a replacement for that and the breathing pad things can give a lot of false alarms.

Personally,I'd rather prevent the breathing stopping than be told it's happening, DD stopped breathing shortly after birth which was disturbing and she possibly has sleep related breathing problems develop recently at 2 which niggles in the back of my mind a lot atm

Original poster
Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 23:51

Feeds aren't an issue as he has a dream feed around 9:30 and then sleeps until one of us gets up. However he doesn't ask for a feed until about 7:30.

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Ileflottante · 19/02/2021 23:59

Three months. Nearly. He slept like a log, as did I.

oohmyback · 20/02/2021 00:02

4 weeks. Completely against advice but she was a horrific snorter and no-one was sleeping. To be fair the doors were directly at right angles to each other and both open, it just took her far enough so we couldn't hear her snorting but could hear everything else!

Second was 8 weeks as she outgrew the Moses basket and we had no other crib that would fit in our room. Same set up as before.

Third was 16 weeks.

I would never do it in our current house as bedrooms too far apart.

MaryShelley1818 · 20/02/2021 00:05

DS only just went into his own room a couple of weeks ago when DD was born. DH is currently sleeping in there with him as I'm feeding DD through the night. She definitely won't go in her own room until at least 1. I'd rather be safe than sorry when it comes to SIDS.

MaryShelley1818 · 20/02/2021 00:06

Sorry should have said DS is 3yrs.

Ileflottante · 20/02/2021 00:21

I always wonder how people manage to have multiple children when they co-sleep until their kids are years and years old! You all must have to get quite creative.

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/02/2021 00:23

@Ileflottante

I always wonder how people manage to have multiple children when they co-sleep until their kids are years and years old! You all must have to get quite creative.
Very large family beds.
FlurkenSchnit · 20/02/2021 00:31

Around 4 months for the first three but DC4 was in with us til he was nearly 2 - this was purely because we didn't have a room for him til we moved house when he was 15months and then we had to do up his room.
He was a much better sleeper than the others so wasn't disturbed by us at all, the others would wake at the sound of a pin dropping!

mamakoukla · 20/02/2021 00:36

@MrsBlue4

Of course everyone is different but I always often wonder why a lot of people are happy to put their tiny babies in a different room so early on.
Room was next door, doors left open, monitor on all of the time, and no room for a cot. I was worried about rolling over and smothering. As in really worried and it felt safer to have DC in own bed. If I’m sleeping, how would I know?