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To ask when you put your baby in their own room

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Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 20:36

Despite my best efforts my 8 month old is a light sleeper. He frequently gets disturbed by me and my husband going to bed /getting up in the morning although sometimes he will resettle.
I would like to put him in his own room but my husband is really against it and says it's mean while he's so little. I'm sure our older girls were in their own room by 8 months (pretty sure it was 6 months).
What age did you put baby in their own room?

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ladygindiva · 19/02/2021 22:25

Around 5 months sorry!

MuchTooTired · 19/02/2021 22:25

8 weeks for my DTs as they’d outgrown their next to me crib and were keeping each other awake (DD in particular has always been a wriggler).

Absolutely against the current guidelines, but we had no space for anything bigger in our bedroom at the time.

Whybot · 19/02/2021 22:25

Cos of risk if SIDS

drkpl · 19/02/2021 22:26

...but then we basically co-slept until he was 14 months because he wouldn’t sleep in his crib 😅

SnackSizeRaisin · 19/02/2021 22:27

I slept in her room till 5 months ish and then moved out myself. For us this has worked very well. She goes into her cot smiling, sleeps well for 12 hours and wakes up happy. There's no abandonment - my child definitely prefers her own space to sleep in. The odd time we have had to share a room e.g. hotels have been very difficult! She does have a blanket and teddy that are essential, and also sucks her thumb to go to sleep. Without those things it would probably be a different story.

MrsJBaptiste · 19/02/2021 22:29

10-12 weeks.

MoodyMarshall · 19/02/2021 22:31

DS1&2 are currently snuggled up in my bed. They're 8 and 4 Grin

MoodyMarshall · 19/02/2021 22:33

(They do have their own beds but we're just a very co-sleepy family and like a snuggle Grin)

DenisetheMenace · 19/02/2021 22:34

Today 22:31 MoodyMarshall

DS1&2 are currently snuggled up in my bed. They're 8 and 4“

I’m a bit jealous now. That sounds scrumptious.
DC1 is 26 and lives 2 miles away, snuggled up with GS right now I imagine and DC2 is 18, just across the landing but I need an invitation these days 😁

Oldat40 · 19/02/2021 22:34

Mine is 8 months and we are bed sharers. Good job really as no spare room in our house!
To reduce SIDS risk it is recommended baby is in the same room as parent for at least the first six months.

MonkeyPuddle · 19/02/2021 22:36

As was 18m. I bit the bullet as I’d been a single parent and I was moving in with my partner, I figured if I was going to move him from his cot in my room it may as well be into a new room at the new house, he knew no different

I think you’ve just got to do with what works for you, we don’t matter, you and yours do x

LemonDrizzles · 19/02/2021 22:39

Around 6/7 months for both

Madtimes78 · 19/02/2021 22:40

@StoneofDestiny Perhaps because some may have the view that at a young age they want to be near their parent/parents?

My Dd is still in with us at 2,5 years...we’re slowly making the transition to her new bed and bedroom by summer hopefully, but we’ll mainly go with how she feels and when she’s ready. Part of me is desperate for my own space again, part of me will be sad when it ends.

nokia3210567 · 19/02/2021 22:43

6 months

glasgowLil · 19/02/2021 22:44

We had to put our daughter in her own room at 10 days because of the unbelievably loud noises she made in her sleep. It was like sleeping in a farmyard ( grunting, squealing etc) - she did it for 3 months and then suddenly stopped. Anyway, my point is that 8 months is not too young and he’ll be fine and probably sleep much better.

lingo · 19/02/2021 22:44

About 3 months with both my boys. Their room was right new to mine, heard them whenever they needed fed but we didn't wake each other up with every little rustle, plus they were outgrowing the moses basket and no room in our bedroom for a bedside crib.

Todaytomorrowyesterday · 19/02/2021 22:47

We tried with our first at six months ....she never settled cot moved back into our room as we we weren’t getting any sleep! Moved back out when she was 1... lasted a month and again moved back in till she was 2.....cot bed set up & she would at some point wander into our bed during most nights!
Second child again at 6 months thankfully slept brillant & never co-slept. Only when she poorly and we have to keep an eye on her, she can’t settle in our bed so one of ends up sleeping on the bedroom floor in her room.
Do what works - my eldest is now 17 and has never been a great sleeper & still on the very rare occasion ends up in my room waking me up asking me to sit with her .

Nearlytherenext · 19/02/2021 22:48

My first was 1 month and my second was 3 days.
I breastfed and found that they constantly woke when we slept in the same room.

WannabeOT · 19/02/2021 22:49

1 year. We knew we were moving house so we didn't bother doing her room until we moved, which was they day after her 1st birthday.

NichyNoo · 19/02/2021 22:50

At about 2 months old for both my kids

DenisetheMenace · 19/02/2021 22:52

Today 22:04 DareIask

MrsBlue4
Of course everyone is different but I always often wonder why a lot of people are happy to put their tiny babies in a different room so early on.“

I probably would have agreed with you until I saw the technology attached to my GS’s cot (initially in the same room as mum and dad, just moved into his own at 6 months).
He could have been in a different house and his parents would have been more aware of his patterns/movements/breathing than I was when I shared our two’s bedrooms with them until they were six months old.

naptune · 19/02/2021 22:58

My little girl was 1, I intend on doing the same with my boy

noblegreenk · 19/02/2021 22:58

6 months old. We went on holiday and she slept in a large cot in our room where we stayed. When we came home it made sense to use the opportunity to put her in her own room. She slept through with no problems.

londonmummy1234 · 19/02/2021 23:00

6 weeks but he was with the maternity nurse till 10 weeks

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Annabell80 · 19/02/2021 23:10

Quite wide range then. I'd not heard it was recommended to share a room until they are 1.
My older two are teenagers so when they were little it was 6 months. Not sure I can survive another 4 months of broken sleep. I had a look at some monitors tonight and am going to talk to my husband again tomorrow.
It's quite weird. He insisted on having a nursery room set up before our son arrived but 8 months later and our son hasn't even seen his bedroom.

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