If your husband cheats on you it's because you've let yourself go

[WhatIsThisShittt]

..and not because he's a shitty person.

According to this twit

www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/14067488/scummy-mummy-make-effort-husbands-speak-me/amp/

www.dailystar.co.uk/real-life/woman-who-blagged-nhs-nose-23522396

Carla believes many turn into “scummy mummies” who “let themselves go” after having kids.

She argued this is why some of their husbands have wandering eyes and decide to cheat by scrolling through her sexy snaps online.

The glamorous model doesn’t feel guilty about this as she blames the women themselves. She told Fabulous: “Women have let themselves go.

“I hate to say it because I’m a girl’s girl but women just give up on their looks as soon as they have children or get married"

This has made me so angry.

What are your thoughts?

My friend's husband told her that she'd let herself go and that's why he had an affair. It couldn't have been further from the truth, what he actually meant was that she was 20 years older than she was when they got married. She was the same weight and always looked great. He just didn't like that fact that she was older and left her for a girl who was a carbon copy of her younger self. Even if she had 'let herself go' he would still have been a wanker.

Even the term letting yourself go is a shit one, what does it even mean? That you have different priorities? I'm not saying that if someone cuts about constantly unwashed in joggers and a stained t shirt that their partner will find them at their most attractive at that point but often there's a reason behind someone 'letting themself go'.

It’s designed to make you angry. I’d have thought that as quite obvious.

@Fembot123 thank you . Transpired eventually that he’d been having an affair, true to Script!

Don’t know who she is apart from some superficial random so don’t really give a fuck!

I tend to draw my inspiration from intelligent individuals, both male and female, who have something important to say. Something that will help with making myself the best person I can be.

@Ihatefish

Don’t know who she is apart from some superficial random so don’t really give a fuck!

I tend to draw my inspiration from intelligent individuals, both male and female, who have something important to say. Something that will help with making myself the best person I can be.

And how is that going for yourself?

What a very silly woman.
As others have said, she is clearly after attention.

Don't give her any.

If it were true, that relationships break down and men cheat because their wives /girlfriends 'Let themselves go'' no beautiful women would ever get divorced or be cheated upon.

And we all know this isn't the case.

'Beautiful' women get cheated upon just as much as more average looking women.

She herself must be very insecure if she is so desperate for attention..Plus she has had more fillers than my Victorian house by the looks!

Ironic because if those are her pictures shes not all that, yeah shes not an ogre but if your going to claim men are leaving there wives for you left and right you best be bringing something exceptionally special to back that up.

Even when I dont shave my legs and with my fat pregnant belly Im pretty sure my husband wouldnt downgrade to someone with a bad personality, big ego and average looks.

If your husband/wife cheats on you it's because they're a cheater.

If your husband/wife no longer finds you attractive yes it may be because you've 'let yourself go'. That can happen and it's no use pretending otherwise. But that certainly doesn't give someone carte blanche to hop into bed with someone else.

This woman is just trying to carve a tabloid/weekly celeb mag career out for herself so she's going for the outrage angle. The usual boring old tactic. Don't give her the oxygen.

Yeah, that explains why some of the most stunning models, actresses and singers get cheated on.

Why are men paying her, not to sound as shallow as her but she is knackered looking and I could pick you three mums at random off the street with better bodies. Maybe it’s a curiosity thing if she’s got a big following from doing articles like this? And why is she giving out advice on keeping a man, where is hers? It’s obviously a troll article designed to rub people up the wrong way and get attention.

She's clearly attention seeking and wanting to sell papers BUT Is there not a little bit of truth to it?

We see women on here all the time saying they don't want sex any more ... I can see how someone might stray to have sex (I wouldn't and it's not ok but you can see why it happens).

Also I married an attractive man that keeps in shape as I find that appealing. If he gained 3 stone and went everywhere in tracksuit bottoms I would find that less attractive. Equally I would expect him to be disappointed if I were 3 stone heavier than when we met and I stopped doing my hair or wearing decent clothes. I'm not made up all the time but I do keep my hair nice and stay in shape. I'm 16 years older than when we met so my youthful body is declining and 6 rounds of IVF didn't do much for my body but i make an effort as I feel I owe it to him (&me) to look vaguely like the person he met.

Best way to deal with these sorts of boring attention seekers is to ignore them. Get off social media

Never heard of this woman but it sounds like she's trying to be inflammatory for attention. Beautiful women get cheated on, supermodels get cheated on, Hollywood A Listers with make up artists and stylists and a tonne of cosmetic procedures get cheated on, so I'd have to disagree with her.

She must also be really talentless if she is basically selling herself online to men on ''Only Fans''
Looks wise she is very average. Mean little eyes.

What does letting yourself go mean? Gaining weight? That happens during life. Not wearing make up? Not every woman detests the way she looks so much she plasters herself in it daily. Not having as much sex? Again, life. Perhaps she shouldn’t be a shallow faced cunt who gets off on male attention, I’d class that as having no self respect and it’s absolutely guaranteed that the men scrolling her pics have zero respect for her either. They want a quick wank, they don’t give a shit about her.

@Toorapid

She's a wannabe celebrity looking for publicity and look what you've done.

Exactly. Why, OP? You call her a 'twat' and then give her the oxygen of publicity. Not very smart, unless you are she, is it?

No point in getting annoyed with her - this is simply what she's chosen as her 'profession' - getting attention for saying shit, so she gets likes and advertising.

You may as well get annoyed at an estate agent for calling a cupboard a fourth bedroom.

Just ignore!

Why do the tabloids insist on fuelling these idiots delusions by referring to them as 'models'? She's not a model, any more than I am. Taking selfies of your tits and plastering them across social media does not make you a model, FFS. What an insult to the men and women who are legitimate models, most of whom work bloody hard, unlike this absolute muppet.

She's so fucking wrong!

I let myself go long before I had children.

@Labobo

Yeah, that explains why some of the most stunning models, actresses and singers get cheated on.

I think you’ve misunderstood, no one is saying it’s the only reason. There’s many reasons people cheat

Relationship break down, turned into companionship
Finding the other person no longer attractive
Sex life over at the other persons decision
Narcissistic personality
Thrill of the chase
Unhappy in the relationship and looking for an exit.
Boredom.

There’s literally loads of reasons. No one is saying the only reason someone cheats is because the other person has let themselves go. But sometimes yes, when it occurs, the other person, male or female, may go elsewhere if they no longer find their partner physically attractive.

No one is saying it’s right, but it’s being said it happens. From both a male and female perspective,.

@Ileflottante

It’s designed to make you angry. I’d have thought that as quite obvious.

This. I'm surprised somebody actually made a thread about this, when clearly nobody is going to agree with it and its whole point is to get people frothing.

@MizMoonshine

She's so fucking wrong!

I let myself go long before I had children.

🤣

When I had two children in under three years, spent every spare penny on them, was still wearing maternity tops and had not bought anything for myself. OH did ask afterwards when we bumped into a single friend in Asda why she looked so good when she was older than me. I said well I have no money to look good. He was mortified, honestly men!! He gave me like two months salary and told me to go buy things for myself. I went to Asda George and bought some outfits, some new shoes to match. Not exactly designer but it was lovely to have fresh new clothes. Once I got back to work and did earn my own money I did start buying clothes again.

With this covid for the last year I have worn leggings, teeshirts, warm jumpers and slippers. Washing the same clothes week in week out. Been out three times in the last year, wore a dress, but why would anyone otherwise?

What am idiot! Not everyone let's, themselves go after they get married/have kids either. And it can work both ways, know plenty of guys who look very different now compared to pre marriage!

Those teeth, remind me of Ross in Friends.