If your husband cheats on you it's because you've let yourself go

[WhatIsThisShittt]

..and not because he's a shitty person.

According to this twit

www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/14067488/scummy-mummy-make-effort-husbands-speak-me/amp/

www.dailystar.co.uk/real-life/woman-who-blagged-nhs-nose-23522396

Carla believes many turn into “scummy mummies” who “let themselves go” after having kids.

She argued this is why some of their husbands have wandering eyes and decide to cheat by scrolling through her sexy snaps online.

The glamorous model doesn’t feel guilty about this as she blames the women themselves. She told Fabulous: “Women have let themselves go.

“I hate to say it because I’m a girl’s girl but women just give up on their looks as soon as they have children or get married"

This has made me so angry.

What are your thoughts?

@Inpersuitofhappiness

Haha, well where do we start? This single woman, seems to be holding a trophy that some married men wank over her. Lets not forget the cost of that for her. Wasnt the sentiment women who spoil their kids and not themselves are scummy mummies? ...and her eldest chooses not to live with her.

Alrighty then.

I see someone to be pitied.

Me too.

My thoughts are why is she wearing rancid grey trainer socks in that first photo? They’re not very sexy.

You're all right.

I shouldn't have bitten.

It's just painful to see such things coming from a woman when I've been on the receiving end of the crap she boasts about.

I don't understand the logic from these people, I can quite see her being attacked in the street for spouting such crap.

Works both ways, I'd never heard of 'the ick' before mumsnet. Cheating is wrong but no longer being attracted to a partner isn't.

@MrsBungle

My thoughts are why is she wearing rancid grey trainer socks in that first photo? They’re not very sexy.

My friends husband hates feet they make him shudder even kids feet need to be covered im guessing one of her "fans" is the same

Lol. It's a favourite from the old tabloid playbook - make women enraged and make men feel smug.
Find some vacuous wannabe on the make and do the old 'Your husbands will leave you if you don't make an effort' schtick. It works though. They are getting the clicks.

It's from the same stable as Samantha Bricks I'm too good looking and the other ladeez have let themselves go. Or all the other ladies over 50 are so frumpy so no wonder I steal their husbands.

She sounds like a right twat. Also she's had to sell her soul to make 40k, which is a lot but not an amount that lots of other women don't make just by having a job.

What she's saying- there's some truth and some bollocks to it. I think opportunity makes people cheat if they are of a mind to but it is also important to try and stay in good shape for ourselves AND our partners.

I love the Scummy Mummies, find them very fun y, podcast is good (misses point, oh well )

What did you expect from that shitrag? Most stories about women are either they Know Their Place or should be Shown Their Place.

Apparently, mammary glands are still breaking news...

Actually i think there is some truth in that idea. It’s not right, and it certainly shouldn’t leave women thinking it’s their fault and that they didn’t try hard enough, but there’s definitely an element of truth in her assertion.
But it’s not just the woman’s appearance - it’s the whole package - kids, sleepless nights, house a mess, no time as a couple, everything done in a rush, kids always priority etc etc . Of course this is normal family life, and any half decent man who has made a commitment to his wife/family would just get on with it, as most do.

But there’ll be other men who will maybe work with a woman who is younger, still carefree, has time to look nice, doesn’t have baby food in her hair, doesn’t wear baggy leggings because of baby weight - and it reminds him of how things used to be in the early days of his marriage, makes him feel good about himself and so on.
Yes it’s shallow, yes it’s selfish, yes it’s stupid and thoughtless - but I can see how it happens.
But of course it goes without saying that the onus is NOT on women to stay glam to keep their husbands happy. That’s just beyond stupid.

This reminds me of what an Irish friend once told me about the general attitude of Irish priests some time ago (don’t know about now) towards straying husbands:

‘It’s because you haven’t been a good enough wife to him.’
You own fault, in other words.

God forbid that the man should ever be to blame.

She's looking for a response and the resulting exposure. I'd never heard of her, now I have, job done.

don't listen to her as I've known quite a few glamourous wives who haven't let themselves go and their DH still cheated on them. If a man or woman want to cheat, they will, for whatever reason.

I’m sorry, but in that unfiltered pic of her with her kids she looks like the ultimate scummy mummy! Of course you will look glam with plastic surgery, Botox, makeup, lighting etc. Who can be arsed? She doesn’t even look like that herself!

What a nincompoop.

I wouldn't want to be married to someone who left me if I stopped wearing face goop.

Well she's a fucking bitch of the first order isn't she ?

One the the problems with this is that almost all women, despite having kids/ career/ caring/ volunterring/ whatever it is are expected to look as much like an 18 year old they can. there is very little room to be glamourous and sexy in your own age or body.

I’m very much into liking to have hair and make up done . It’s who I am .I’m happy with my looks and size . (16/18) I guess if this drastically changed from when you met you can’t automatically presume your partner will find it sexy ? I’m still very much the same . I would hope he would love and respect me enough not to act like this tho
And she is a twat

@WhatIsThisShittt

You're all right.

I shouldn't have bitten.

It's just painful to see such things coming from a woman when I've been on the receiving end of the crap she boasts about.

I don't understand the logic from these people, I can quite see her being attacked in the street for spouting such crap.

Wtf? She’s just a twat getting publicity, why would someone physically assault her, what a ridiculous thing to say. Are you trying to incite violence?

I imagine its totally out of context and probably not how she said it.

I've always wondered why these strippers are known as 'glamour models'. YABU for giving this vacuous waste of space a click.

"In other news, we previously told you how Carla Bellucci spent £8,000 on herself for Christmas, and didn't get anything for her kids.

And she revealed that her kids take topless pics of her, just like Liz Hurley.

Plus Fabulous recently spent the day with Carla – and she scrounged designer shoes from a child."

Mother of the year...
Wouldn't pay any mind to what she says OP, she clearly enjoys being in the papers even if it's for negative reasons, she puts 'effort into herself' allegedly at the expense of her own children.

Wtf? She’s just a twat getting publicity, why would someone physically assault her, what a ridiculous thing to say. Are you trying to incite violence?

Oh get a grip.

It's common knowledge that people who are provocative on the internet find themselves harassed/targeted in person.

Not by me personally, I wouldn't dream of it, but plenty would.

Look at Josie Cunningham.

That's really sad. She seems very insecure. Also dead wrong, of course.
Men cheat because they want to.
If cheating was really due to a partner 'letting themselves go', there'd be way more women than men out there sending 'my spouse just doesn't understand me' messages to randoms on Tinder at the same time that her middle-aged, showers-twice-a-week fella with a combover does it.