To not answer door to neighbour

[Koalababy]

It’s 8 am and neighbour has rung my doorbell twice already. Have no idea what they want but I don’t feel like answering the door. They probably know I’m in which is why they keep ringing the bell but AIBU to ignore until I feel like it?

Not very ‘neighbourly’ of you. If might of been urgent

What’s a pita ?

Pain in the ass

What time do opening front door concessions kick in?

At 8am: go upstairs, take your top off (keep on bra!) and lean out of window asking what the emergency is. Don't think it works for 9am ... or 10 am... might work for lunchtime tho ;)

I don’t answer the door after 6pm. Unless I’m expecting someone. I get ready to study at 6:15pm.

What time do opening front door concessions kick in?

TBH on a weekday I don't consider 8 am too early as I am usually up and about getting ready to start work at my desk.

We literally never answer the door unless we are expecting people over or a delivery.
We usually get a lot of religious people knocking or even people knocking to try sell you some random & probably stolen of thr back of a lorry items 😂 I've had people knocking trying to sell me a mattress or a set of kitchen knives, tea towels ect 🤨

Since Covid this hasn't happened & honestly it's been bliss!

Was it a parcel? Maybe a bit early. I probably wouldn't be just for a chat at that time. Because of Covid, you would be within your right not to answer.

OP please knock on their door at 8am tomorrow, find out what she wanted, and report back here.
Thanks.

@Hmm1234

Not very ‘neighbourly’ of you. If might of been urgent

Well days later the neighbour hasn’t been back. It can’t be THAT urgent.

If a pain in the butt, then no.
I only answer my phone to certain people when I can be arsed cos I know from experience that I only get a call, when their scrounging

@Koalababy

What I’m asking though is whether it’s reasonable not to answer the door even if I’m in. For example I’m WFH and am on calls a lot of the day. I don’t want to answer the door whilst I’m working

But you're not working right now, are you (or rather, you weren't when you posted this )?

Maybe they were just playing knock a door run and didnt actually want anything.

It must depend on where you live. We are hidden away and don't get people knocking on our door very often, and when they do it is always for a good reason. We don't always know when a parcel is going to arrive as our post has been very patchy during the pandemic, so I would never not answer the door during the day.

Our bathroom window is above our front door, so if we had a midnight caller we would probably stick our head out of the window rather than go downstairs.

And lastly, I am far too nosy not to answer the door or the telephone. As has already been pointed out the police, hospitals and some other organisations always have withheld numbers.

If they have run twice it could be urgent. If it was one ring, I’d say not unreasonable. But what if you’re house is on fire, or they need help with a medical emergency or something?

Best just to open upstairs window and call down, making it obvious you’re not up yet.

I would’ve called out the window

I hope you go round at a really unsociable hour to knock and check what she wanted.

If I was up and awake then I would answer the door .
Each to their own I suppose .

@Koalababy If you could see him, could he see you? FWIW I'd have enjoyed not answering either.

If they are like my neighbours - Where I live about 30 houses and bungalows - everybody is really friendly except my immediate neighbour. Chopped down my plants, shouting out me, almost breaks her neck looking down my drive, husband always looking in my windows on and on.......
If any of them knocked on my door I would gladly open the door and greet them with a smile - as I empty my bladder in their direction.

I don’t answer front door if I don’t feel like it. If it’s someone I know, they’ll ring me if I don’t answer. Also never answer landline. That’s always dodgy phone call these days.

Also never answer landline. That’s always dodgy phone call these days.

Until our older relatives died we used our landline as a default for ringing them as the sound quality was and still is so much better, but like you nearly all the calls we get on our landline these days are dodgy.

I must admit being a nosey sort, I find the lack of curiousity about who is knocking really unusual.

My neighbour regularly asks me for favours & knocks on my door, at one point if I didn’t answer she would call me to see why I wasn’t answering. Just because someone knocks on your door doesn’t mean you’re obligated to answer it. Hopefully she’ll leave you alone if she’s becoming a pest