To not answer door to neighbour

[Koalababy]

It’s 8 am and neighbour has rung my doorbell twice already. Have no idea what they want but I don’t feel like answering the door. They probably know I’m in which is why they keep ringing the bell but AIBU to ignore until I feel like it?

@Lorieandrews

We had this. My neighbour rang my door twice at 6.40. To be fair I didn’t know it was my neighbour and didn’t wake the first time

Thank god she persisted though as her house was on fire

Would the fire brigade not have been slightly more use than you?

@passtheorange

I once knocked on my neighbour's door several times - they were in, I could see them moving about behind the glass.

Their shed was on fire.

In the end, I shouted "Fire!!!" through the letterbox several times and they still didn't answer, the twats. So I went home and phoned the fire brigade. Having a huge fire appliance with blue flashing lights on their drive and several large men hauling hoses over their fence finally gained their attention...

So you banged on the door, shouted, didn’t get an answer... and THEN phoned the fire brigade? You don’t think maybe reverse order would have been more practical?

:20StillCoughingandLaughing

LowlandLucky

A few years ago a neighbour knocked on the door asking for help, she had found her Husband dead in his bed. Hope you never need to call for help OP, maybe some will ignore you

And what did you do to help that a doctor or the police couldn’t have done? Unless you live next door to Lazarus, I’m guessing your next door neighbour’s husband was still dead even after you answered the door.

@stillcoughingandlaughing I wanted to reply with this exact response but it felt too mean, I'm dying

If it was an emergency theyd shout out as well, once you didn't answer. In a non emergency 8am is really inconsiderate & I'd be telling them so , very firmly.

Haven't they been back yet? Are you waiting until 8pm to go round and knock to ask them what they wanted? The world is waiting....

@StillCoughingandLaughing

OMG - I'm actually laughing at your responses! Keep them coming!

@stillcoughingandlaughing I wanted to reply with this exact response but it felt too mean, I'm dying

Don’t worry - if you do die, I’ll just pop next door; as long as they answer the door we’ll have you up and about in no time

I like your work StillCoughingandLaughing

Unless it's the middle of the night or something, I always answer the door because I'm bloody nosey.

When my doorbell went in the middle of the night some years ago, I looked out of the front window to see a policeman standing there, and politely explained that I thought he was at the wrong house.

He asked if I was LakieLady and when I confirmed that I was, he insisted I let him in.

He'd come to tell me my mother had died. I really don't know why they couldn't left it till the morning.

@LakieLady

Unless it's the middle of the night or something, I always answer the door because I'm bloody nosey.

When my doorbell went in the middle of the night some years ago, I looked out of the front window to see a policeman standing there, and politely explained that I thought he was at the wrong house.

He asked if I was LakieLady and when I confirmed that I was, he insisted I let him in.

He'd come to tell me my mother had died. I really don't know why they couldn't left it till the morning.

Over 200 posts and we still have no idea what the neighbour wanted

I’ve a neighbour and she dose my head in. Iv a cat who can get on the downstairs bathroom roof and he can get off it no bother she’s seen him get up and down loads. Was during the summer and he was chilling on the roof because my kids were in the garden as was I and she walked past my back garden seen me and the kids and the bloody cat walked round to the front and started banging like crazy on the door to tell me my cat was stuck, even said she could hear him cry from her house. She knocked once to complain about my tiny fire pit that I only lit at night every so often that she needed it put out by the morning so she could hang washing. Like I was going to have this small fire lit at 8pm rocking till the next morning. Don’t think she hung the washing out that day either. The best was when she knocked to complain my cat scratched her hand and when I asked how she got near him because he’s lazy as hell and doesn’t leave the garden she admits she stuck her hand through the fence to grab him, not pet fucking grab. She said she was going to hospital blah blah blah and when I said well il take him to the vet for the trauma she can pay the bill since she admitted on camera she grabbed him. She freaked out said sorry. I didn’t have a doorbell camera just wanted her to piss off

[quote StillCoughingandLaughing]**@stillcoughingandlaughing I wanted to reply with this exact response but it felt too mean, I'm dying

Don’t worry - if you do die, I’ll just pop next door; as long as they answer the door we’ll have you up and about in no time [/quote]
JFC...is that you?

I can't believe I'm still here for this but... WHAT DID THE FUCKING NEIGHBOURS WANT OP??!! Just what? Please!

A lot of mumsnet bingos on this thread.

If you don't live in a rough area
Don't have an abusive ex
Don't suffer from anxiety
Have nice neighbours
Aren't on a call

Why wouldn't you answer the door? There are far too many self important posters on this thread. What makes you think that your time is more important than the person who has taken time out of their lives to dare to knock on your door?

Do they need an appointment to do this?

The only reason my neighbour rings is when she wants to borrow something (which she seldom replaces) Lockdown has been bliss!

Just checking back for an update -- I can't believe this still hasn't been resolved. 😫

The Lazarus comment made it worth reading through the last few pages though 🤣

@ginfordinner

Why is their time more important than mine? Especially if they've called at my door because they want something.

Is this a joke? Other than the number of legitimate reasons you've listed as to why someone might not open the door, there are hundreds more!

@TheMatryoshka

I can't believe I'm still here for this but... WHAT DID THE FUCKING NEIGHBOURS WANT OP??!! Just what? Please!

I know!

Am dying!

I have way too much time on my hands

@Ginfordinner

A lot of mumsnet bingos on this thread.

If you don't live in a rough area
Don't have an abusive ex
Don't suffer from anxiety
Have nice neighbours
Aren't on a call

Why wouldn't you answer the door? There are far too many self important posters on this thread. What makes you think that your time is more important than the person who has taken time out of their lives to dare to knock on your door?

Do they need an appointment to do this?

But a lot of us do have abusive exes or anxiety . It is a really common thing. No need to be snarky about something which causes so many of us a lot of pain.

I still find myself freaking out when the phone rings. Certain words, phrases, tunes even can bring me back to that shaking bruised wreck I became around my ex.

No, the OP's time isn't more important than the neighbours, but neither is the neighbour or their time more important either! Life is give and take. Relationships between neighbours are give and take. I couldn't cope with a neighbour who was always in my face. I like to have equal relationships with neighbours etc. I don't do needy.

*Why wouldn't you answer the door? There are far too many self important posters on this thread. What makes you think that your time is more important than the person who has taken time out of their lives to dare to knock on your door?

Do they need an appointment to do this?*

Before 8 am, yes, they flipping well do need an appointment. Nobody asked that person to take any time out of their life to knock on anyone's door. You do know about Jehovah's Witnesses, duster salesmen, and generally needy/moany time-wasters, right?

@makingmammaries

*Why wouldn't you answer the door? There are far too many self important posters on this thread. What makes you think that your time is more important than the person who has taken time out of their lives to dare to knock on your door?

Do they need an appointment to do this?*

Before 8 am, yes, they flipping well do need an appointment. Nobody asked that person to take any time out of their life to knock on anyone's door. You do know about Jehovah's Witnesses, duster salesmen, and generally needy/moany time-wasters, right?

This.

I open the door for legitimate concerns but not time wasting. And never to sales calls, religious or political canvassers, beggars etc.

It sounds like the OP's neighbour is one of those people who likes to bother OK with trivialities at inconvenient times. If it isn't an emergency it can wait.

makingmammaries

*Why wouldn't you answer the door? There are far too many self important posters on this thread. What makes you think that your time is more important than the person who has taken time out of their lives to dare to knock on your door?

Do they need an appointment to do this?*

Anyone who is so self-important that they believe they have the right to disturb my household at 8am when they probably have no idea of our working patterns can bugger off.

I am the totally wrong person to answer this as I never answer my door.

People who don't know me well will ask, " don't you want to know who it is?"

Nope.