To not answer door to neighbour

[Koalababy]

It’s 8 am and neighbour has rung my doorbell twice already. Have no idea what they want but I don’t feel like answering the door. They probably know I’m in which is why they keep ringing the bell but AIBU to ignore until I feel like it?

@ginandwineandbaileys are you the Operations Manager in charge of Logistics for the local flock of pigeons?

you could just open the bedroom window to see what they want, don't engage, just wave them away as if pre-occupied.

Once you said you were up and about anyway, then yes, YABU to not open the door.

However, are you going to come and tell us what your neighbour wanted ?

alexdgr8

I actually laughed out loud reading that 😆

I can imagine the next 'not answering the door' trend being ' open a window and wave them away' without even asking what they want 😆😆😆

@alexdgr8

you could just open the bedroom window to see what they want, don't engage, just wave them away as if pre-occupied.

Lol

I'm just assuming it was something important and the OP is too embarrassed to come and tell us

@Koalababy please come back to the thread to update us. I’m worried your NDN has done you in 😳

Or maybe it’s the other way around. Maybe the neighbour won’t be ringing any more doorbells where she is... 💀

This^

imagines neighbour ringing doorbell with their arm falling off

SugarfreeBlitz

With their nose 😆

"I wouldn't. Yesterday one of my neighbours complained that a pigeon had flown from my roof to their fence. But my neighbour is a loon"

rofl

An aside but this thread is reminding me of my lovely, now deceased FIL who, after we moved back to the home town with the baby, mysteriously “just happened” to find himself passing our house by about 7am at least every other morning 😁

The people who are speculating as to why others are cautious about opening the door (particularly at anti social times) need to read up a bit on so called "distraction burglary". This is where scammers target people living alone (particularly older people) in the hope that they can talk their way inside and then steal. These lowlifes target older people because they consider them easy prey. Older people were often brought up with the social custom of being polite to callers, and being willing to help in an apparent emergency.

I'm now thinking of the criminals who pretend to be from the local council, social services or some kind or authority figure. Or the people in work clothes who just happen to be "working next door/down the street" and checking the "water/gas pressure" or some apparent emergency. They may even claim that they have the right of entry for said "emergency". Been there, done it, got the t-shirt.

The advice from police is to tell them they will have to make an appointment and return when you have a friend or relative present and at your convenience. If they insist it really IS an emergency then you can always offer to call the police/ambulance/emergency services who will deal with the matter far better than some random neighbour.

People have been posting about these distraction burglaries on our local Facebook pages recently. I agree that if you are feeling at all vulnerable you need to see who is at the front door before you open it.

Sadly, in some cases some older people are too trusting bevause they haven't moved with the times. My late MIL was like this, and just wouldn't believe that there are a lot of dishonest people out there, just because 50 years ago you didn't need to lock your front door.

Aha context. No, do not answer door to complaining pita neighbour.

Just out of interest, how many of you who are serial none door answerers , don't answer your phone either?

@Itwasbad That comment deserves a whole thread of its own. What are you meant to do about a pigeon having free flight? The bastard 😂 These threads cheer me right up 😂

@Furrybutts

Just out of interest, how many of you who are serial none door answerers , don't answer your phone either?

With a phone, you know if it’s someone you want to talk to (unless it’s the landline - I barely use mine), and generally easier to get rid of someone you don’t want to talk to. I inwardly groan if I see a withheld number, as it’s usually someone selling something, but I generally answer because I can just end the call as they bring their spiel. It’s harder to do that when someone is on the doorstep refusing to take no for an answer, they just have a couple of very quick questions, it won’t take a moment etc....

Begin their spiel, not bring it.

Have just come back to the thread and am at the number of posts!

Sorry to disappoint but neighbour has not been back. and to you all though

I answer the phone to my parents, kids schools and husband. Everyone else can leave a voicemail or WhatsApp me. Totally ignore withheld numbers.

We have a call blocker so
A) Unknown callers don't get through and
B) I wait until they speak before I decide whether to answer or not.

Crikey I trawled through 12 pages to find out they hadnt knocked back - what an anti climax !!

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

I answer the phone to my parents, kids schools and husband. Everyone else can leave a voicemail or WhatsApp me. Totally ignore withheld numbers.

My GP, local hospitals and DSs college tutor all use withheld numbers. DH and I both have family who live overseas so those numbers show as “unknown” so I answer withheld or unknown calls. I DON’T answer the clearly spoofed numbers. I do answer to mobile numbers I don’t recognise on my shopping days as the drivers often call with updates or to ask if they can deliver early. It only takes seconds to answer a phone and hang up if I don’t want to participate in the call.

It is not considered acceptable to knock on anyone's door at that hour unless you are the police, the postman, a delivery or an arranged appointment with a tradesperson.