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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not answer door to neighbour

362 replies

Koalababy · 17/02/2021 08:17

It’s 8 am and neighbour has rung my doorbell twice already. Have no idea what they want but I don’t feel like answering the door. They probably know I’m in which is why they keep ringing the bell but AIBU to ignore until I feel like it?

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 17/02/2021 08:19

As long as you're happy your roof isn't in fire Grin

WithinAForestDark · 17/02/2021 08:21

Yes! You show those bell-ringing bastards who's in charge. How very dare they. Hmm

extentioncord · 17/02/2021 08:21

Is there a back story?

If me neighbour did this I would answer, it would be entirely out of character, indicating something is wrong.

If your neighbour is a pita who is always annoying you then maybe ignore, but under the standard of relatively normal neighbour I would answer the door.

ZackaryQuack · 17/02/2021 08:22

Your choice, my nosiness would have me answering the door.

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Koalababy · 17/02/2021 08:22

Neighbour is a total pita. Always complaining about something or another

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BeetyAxe · 17/02/2021 08:22

This is so weird, what is it’s some sort of an emergency?

dementedpixie · 17/02/2021 08:23

Why wouldn't you answer?
I'd want to know what was going on

wtfisgoingonhere21 · 17/02/2021 08:23

If my neighbour knocked on my door at 8am I'd answer it cause I'd be worried somethings wrong.

It has happened before but then I get on really well with them

Ginfordinner · 17/02/2021 08:24

What is the back story? My neighbours, who are all nice, wouldn't knock at 8 am unless there is a good reason.

thistimelastweek · 17/02/2021 08:24

Please answer the door.
I want to know what they want.

dementedpixie · 17/02/2021 08:24

If they're a pita normally then that changes things a bit

DartmoorDoughnut · 17/02/2021 08:25

I’m just here for the backstory

FangsForTheMemory · 17/02/2021 08:25

If it was someone I knew, I’d answer, —unless they were my former neighbour who thought nothing of ringing the bell at 8am on a Sunday when he’d put a magazine through my door—.

BlowDryRat · 17/02/2021 08:27

@thistimelastweek

Please answer the door. I want to know what they want.
Me too. Go on OP!
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Koalababy · 17/02/2021 08:28

Sorry yes there is a bit of a back story in that they are always complaining about something or another. Last time they complained was because I parked my car outside their house. Um, I live right next door and there were no other spaces on the road, besides they don’t own the road Hmm

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saveahorse · 17/02/2021 08:28

If it was my neighbour I would answer as she only ever rings my door once a year, every Christmas Eve to drop off a present for my daughter, and I her, once a year a couple of days after new year, dropping off a thank you card, bottle of wine and chocolates.

So yes I would answer as I would assume something was wrong or something important she needed to discuss with me.

But your situation might be entirely different therefore assess the situation and act accordingly.

sluj · 17/02/2021 08:29

The only time I ever knocked on my lovely neighbours door before 8am was to tell her that both of our cars had been broken in to. I would answer the door at any time of the night to neighbours as I assume they need help.

DianaT1969 · 17/02/2021 08:35

I find it funny that it was more natural for you to post a message on here at 8am than it was to answer the door.

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Koalababy · 17/02/2021 08:38

I find it funny that it was more natural for you to post a message on here at 8am than it was to answer the door.

Grin well I’m having a morning cuppa and browsing through mumsnet. And wondering if IABU not to answer the door

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scrivette · 17/02/2021 08:40

YABU but only because I want to know what they are complaining for Grin

dontdisturbmenow · 17/02/2021 08:41

Well if you know they are going to complain, it's no surprise you wouldn't want to.ioen the door. Maybe you know very well why they might be here this time.

In the end, either they are peoe who expects all neighbours to behave to their standards and show no tolerance, or you are s nightmare neighbour with no consideration for your neighbours or a bit of both.

Gazelda · 17/02/2021 08:43

I'd answer the door next time. If only because they won't stop coming round until I do.

caligulascatharsis · 17/02/2021 08:46

If this was my neighbour it would be them complaining about something like 7 leaves had blown off my tea onto their drive so I hear you.

caligulascatharsis · 17/02/2021 08:47

*tree

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Koalababy · 17/02/2021 08:47

What I’m asking though is whether it’s reasonable not to answer the door even if I’m in. For example I’m WFH and am on calls a lot of the day. I don’t want to answer the door whilst I’m working

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