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To not clean my shower ever day after use?

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Poppins17 · 15/02/2021 21:24

Staying with family right now as our house is being half knocked down.... we don’t clean our shower after every use... today I had a right telling off and was told we were dirty as we don’t clean it after every use.... who has time for this? The family who we are living with are retired... maybe they do?

Do you clean your shower after every use?

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BeatricePrior · 17/02/2021 12:51

I just have a window squeegee in there and my daughter does it every night for me as she likes doing it when she showers after she's finished playing in there

0blio · 17/02/2021 12:53

@Chunkymenrock

A rinse down and leave bathroom all tidy and a proper clean once a week or so is ample.

I agree.

Emeraldshamrock · 17/02/2021 13:14

Jesus OP they are horrible treating guests like that some people relish controlling others especially when the chips are down it gives you a good insight into a person's nature when you need to lean on them.
I don't think I'd forgive them after you leave.
If you can afford a cheap airB&B do it.

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Poppins17 · 17/02/2021 13:52

I don’t want to damage our long term relationship so moving to a hotel or Airbnb isn’t an option.

I’ve spoken to the builder and whilst he doesn’t currently have an update on the doors, he said he can board up the outside and get the central heating working again if we need to go back.

Just trying to figure out when - I’d like to go right now but I don’t want to upset things long term.

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TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 17/02/2021 14:11

My sympathies, that's properly strange behaviour

What would happen if you light heartedly said, oh well, we must be slobs because it's good enough for us, we'll clean it to your standards when we leave?

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Poppins17 · 17/02/2021 18:43

I don’t think that would work as they are saying any build up of ‘scum’ (such a horrible word- we’re not dirty and don’t have manual jobs) will be too much... it has to be immaculate every day.

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LunaHeather · 17/02/2021 18:48

@Poppins17

Dreadful

Could you offer to pay for a professional clean after you leave?

LunaHeather · 17/02/2021 18:49

I mean their behaviour is dreadful btw!

Emeraldshamrock · 17/02/2021 18:56

They're nuts I wouldn't worry about straining the relationship they've looked after that.
Hopefully the builder can get something soon in the meantime ignore them or be straight forward they've treated you awfully at a time in need when you've no choice.

waitingpatientlyforspring · 17/02/2021 19:07

Nope, if I'm honest we probably only clean it once a month. Two of us using it daily, when it feels dirty we clean it.

WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly · 17/02/2021 19:33

They are the ones that have strained the relationship, their behaviour is beyond weird. Are they so far down the 'retired people losing all perspective and making a huge deal out of a tiny thing' rabbit hole that they can't see that carrying out daily inspections on a guests private bathroom is completely bizarre?

Cats4life · 17/02/2021 19:36

Who has time for that shit? If you clean your shower after every use you need a hobby

MyAnacondaMight · 17/02/2021 19:38

Sounds like they’re struggling with the reality of the hospitality that they offered, and the shower just happens to be what they are focusing on. If it wasn’t the shower it would be the microwave, or something else.

I would try to get out of there ASAP. Meanwhile, i think I would look to shower less often, or elsewhere...

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Poppins17 · 17/02/2021 21:46

I’ve never appreciated my own home or being comfortable at home as much as I do right now... I just want to go back so bad.

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Poppins17 · 18/02/2021 19:46

Quick update - we’re heading home this weekend - the builder can get the house into such a state that we can go back..... last and final
Challenge to get through - the leaving clean

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KiteAir · 18/02/2021 21:56

@Poppins17

Quick update - we’re heading home this weekend - the builder can get the house into such a state that we can go back..... last and final Challenge to get through - the leaving clean

They sound absolutely crazy. I'm easily irritated but I'd just think oh well it's 6 weeks, I'll bleach it after they've gone.

You can't seriously say to guests that they need to wash, scrub chrome, polish glass, dry a shower every single day after every shower.
Do they expect it each time it's used or just at the end of the day? I shower twice a day so I'd be polishing chrome 3x day min if my husband was there as well.

What have they said now you're leaving?

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Poppins17 · 19/02/2021 20:49

Yes they wanted us to do it after each use...

We told them that we are going home and they were surprised as our place is at least another month to 6 weeks or more away from being complete but they didn’t argue or try to say no you should stay longer.... it’s best for us all to try and maintain our relationship.

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wobblewombat · 19/02/2021 20:52

The last time I stayed at my pil, I was told I'd splashed in the shower 3 years previously...

Cocogreen · 19/02/2021 21:04

How awkward! Glad for you that you’re going home. I mean their house their rules and all that but I couldn’t be bothered. Bathroom here gets cleaned when I notice it needs doing. That might be every 2-3 days for the toilets, 4-5 days for the basins and up to two weeks for the shower. 3 adults here and we all shower daily and are tidy. Of course if someone is coming over I do them all before that.

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