Valentines present from Grandma?!

[TallulahSkye]

Appreciate I may get called ungrateful/mean for this but wondered if anyone finds this creepy and/or has any advice? I asked my friends and they said it was funny/sweet 😩

So MIL has sent DS (6 months) a valentines card and personalised presents - my 1st valentines etc.
I find this really weird as I see valentines as a more romantic love and we see it as a commercial day, DH and I just get each other cards...
This is just the tip of the iceberg though, for his Christmas she got DS more presents than we did! Prior to DS being born she was always sending us gifts. She sent DH a valentines card every year up until this one it seems 😂
After she's sent the gifts she asks why we don't put pics on social media and tag her!

I'm grateful DS has a loving and involved granny but I find it all a bit much. Especially since she often asks DH to lend her money and has been bankrupt in the past.
I know this is her "love language" but does anyone have any tips of how to stop or reduce this behaviour?
Or AIBU and should just accept all the gifts?

DH says she's always been like this. He speaks to her after she sends the gifts and tells her not to but she just says she has a right to spoil her son and now grandson!

Don't think it's weird, valentine's is about all love, so if she wants to get him a gift, so be it.... but she shouldn't be bankrupting herself to do it! Maybe suggest that she just bakes some heart-shaped biscuits with him next time?

I have bought a little something for all my children ! I don’t care if it’s weird

YABU. It’s her grandson, she isn’t committing any crime buying him harmless gifts.

With respect, get a grip and choose your battles wisely.

Where I live (across the pond) this is very standard. Valentine's Day is almost more about children- DD just did her first valentines card swap with her classmates in kindergarten yesterday and it was SO sweet. DM sends my DDs cards every year, and when I was a child she always bought us heart shaped cookies. So I don't think it's weird at all.

I find it weird. I wouldn't like it.

She means well and it's not "creepy"!

Would it hurt to tag her on social media if it makes her happy?

DD (17) has sent my mother a Valentine’s Day card via Moonpig, because mum said she’d never had one (she’s been married to my dad for over 50 years).

I don’t think DD is being ‘creepy’, anymore than your MIL is.

I don’t think it’s creepy as such. I know that in the US, it’s common for people to send cards to babies, their adult kids etc. Seems some see it as a general day to celebrate love, in all it’s forms. Okay, to a baby that obviously has no idea about it, a little pointless! I think she sounds like a Gran who loves her grandchild very much and just wants to show it. Bit over the top? Maybe. It is just a commercial thing to me though.

I think it’s creepy, and takes away from the experience of a first romantic Valentine. I wouldn’t put it on social media and it would annoy me that she ‘takes over’ other events. I’d make sure your presents are opened first.

Overbuying presents feels hugely aggressive to me, it’s someone else dictating what’s in your house.

I think you're being a bit mean op . My mum has got the kids some little trinkets with a valentines theme and they love them.

First part of it sounds lovely. The facebook thing is weird.

My DCs grandparents are the same. It used to wind me up when they were younger but now I realise loving GPS should be cherished. They bring so much to their lives.

I think it's weird, you send valentines to your partners, not to relatives.

For goodness sake not creepy at all, do you seriously think she fancies her baby grandson

I got my niece, age 5, a valentines present, ( a little craft set and a sticker book), and I'm certainly not after a romantic relationship with her

I think its sweet, I like the idea of valentines day to just celebrate love in general - I got DS1 a heart shaped chocolate lolly, DS1 will be making his grandparents a card

Valentine's for DC is sweet, re the excessive Christmas/Birthday spending then borrowing money at other times.
While your DC is small enough I'd be selling the more expensive gifts and putting the money aside to give her back when she asks for it.

I think it’s creepy, and takes away from the experience of a first romantic Valentine

@M0rT ooh that is a good idea! Or giving the money/toys to a children's charity or into a savings account for DS