To think they were rude & we were singled out ?

[jemi01]

Today I went to a supermarket with partner.

As we approached the entrance , a security guard and member of staff raised their voice and stated " we can only let one of you in"

So one of us went in..

We then saw other couples entering together and not a thing was said !

Wtf

Very stern and shouted at us . It was not pleasant at all. Why didn't they say the same to others who were in twos ? Plenty of couples entering .

And this is why I don’t go near supermarkets anymore! Too many people who have their own variation of the rules.

I am so fed up with the couples/ whole families shopping together thing. I know there are some people who need to be there with someone else, but honestly, most don't.

I went shopping yesterday and it is still be used as an excuse for a family day out - the fewer people inside the shop, the safer it is for all of us. But no, some people think their need to be glued to their family at all times trumps everybody else's well being. I am sick to death of the selfish behaviour of some people.

And, no I have not shouted at by any security guards or had someone on the checkout be rude to me. You know why? Because I shop alone. It's very simple to avoid being upset or offended if you follow the rules.

My son and his wife don't have a car. They both walk to the supermarket. One of them goes into shop, whilst the other goes for a walk around outside. They meet up outside at the end of the shop to carry the shopping home. It isn't difficult to cut down on the numbers going inside.

The point here is the inconsistency. We all want to abide by the rules. And it’s sensible to prevent multiple people shopping together, but for it to work, there has to be a consistent approach. TBH people now know the rules at our local supermarket, but all they do is go in separately and re-group once inside. Or claim they’re with a carer. But hey ho, you can’t argue with stupid, and that’s been the problem with trying to get rules in place to prevent covid spread; there are just far too many idiots around for it to work effectively.

It depends on which supermarket you go to and how busy it is
For example Thursday night this week no problem with two people going in
Yesterday same supermarket ( two pharmacy trips needed as they were out of stock of something) different person on door free for all loads of couples and families
I had a quick moan to DH sat in the car and that was it , I need to be in out and don't want to complain or moan retail staff have had their share of crap this last year.

What a strange world we now live in, people being berated for shopping with a partner.
I take my kid to the shops all the time, there’s nothing else for him to do atm and I genuinely think it’s important for him to still do that stuff

It is a strange world we live in at the moment. That’s what happens when we have a deadly virus which is easily transmitted.

And because some people insist on going shopping in groups because they are bored or whatever then we are going to risk even more spread.

Surely it’s not hard to understand why people are being asked to shop alone? Staff shouldn’t need to enforce it and get abuse for doing so.

@Feelingconfused2020

Do you shop for 3 different households?
I’ve tried it, it took me just over an hour to do the 3 shops, following lists, scanning it and packing it all . Dh and i can be done in 20 minutes, we may enter the shop together but only meet to pay. I’d rather only mix with people in the supermarket for a short period of time.

Both extra shops are for our vulnerable mums both over 70 and have health issues and neither have internet!

No point in me using a delivery slot when I’m perfectly able to shop.I’d rather leave those slot for the people who genuinely have no one to shop for them. And Lidl out closest supermarket don’t deliver!

We have followed the rule for the last year so you can get off your high horse now,

@butterpuffed - so you stood 1 metre away, not 2 metres, you held your hand out for the product which is also not on (she was protecting you). And you got the product for free, but you still come on here moaning. I despair, really.

When we are in the middle of a pandemic then we are indeed living in a strange world. And the more people move about, the more it will spread and the longer this nightmare will go on. It is not important for a child to go to the supermarket - I understand that some children have to go if they are young and there is no one else to leave them with.

Whilst people continue to insist their their need to take their partner/ child/ grown up children with them into the supermarket is more important than doing their best to work together to limit the spread of the virus, then we all have to put up with this strange world for longer.

[quote luckylavender]@butterpuffed - so you stood 1 metre away, not 2 metres, you held your hand out for the product which is also not on (she was protecting you). And you got the product for free, but you still come on here moaning. I despair, really.[/quote]
Moaning ? Just relaying what happened.

As I said , she was standing right next to her colleague but despair about my 1 metre distance if you feel the need..

@Worried830410

Maybe the other couples were also questioned and gave a reason why?

Not in our case. They all walked in and past him. So did we. It was when I'd gone to get something and then went and stood with my friend he yelled at me across the shop and then came over.

And I asked him if he'd tell all the other households the same and he said no.

Thing is if we were a couple and not a support bubble as he actively told me he couldn't challenge others it's discrimination and he could land himself in a lot of trouble.

Hence why I'm going to highlight it to Tesco and suggest equality training.

You cannot tell a female couple you are only going to challenge them - well you can as he did. But he needs to know it makes him a knob who could end up facing a charge.

Were they counting how many people were going into the shop (1 in 1 out)? Maybe they meant they could only allow one of you in at that time

@MothExterminator I see absolutely nothing wrong with you taking your child to the supermarket, it was probably the highlight of both your day, but you seem to be judging others for being in the supermarket.

You need to give yourself a break, vaccinations are well under way, we will soon be coming out of lockdown so maybe start preparing yourself for normal life again.

Imagine staff on the door are having a fairly shit time.

We all went to the supermarket yesterday, I was doing a shop for us and a friend, my partner had an eye test (optician is in the supermarket). My partner has a fairly obvious physical disability, so he can’t do a food shop otherwise he would have done after his eye test. The guy on the door who questioned us was very polite, but he did look very uncomfortable, I imagine he has encountered a lot of rude customers.

@userxx I am just trying to follow the rules. I find it hard when other people don’t follow the rules because it makes me feel like an idiot for even trying.

As soon as the schools open, I will send my children in. In the meantime, it appears that lots of people with one key worker and the other parent working from home are sending their children to school now.

I want to see my family but we don’t qualify for a support bubble. Many people seem not to care.

I am just at the point where it feels pointless to follow the rules as nobody else seems to be doing it. I judge others, but also myself.

Believe me, when the rules change we will be back to normal. Or if I continue to feel like this, I might at some point just let my children have play dates (half the class ignore the no-socialising indoors rule), see my family and generally stop caring. There seem to be enough people who modify the rules or ignore them.

@TheFairyCaravan

Why didn’t you tell them you were shopping for 2 households? They’d have probably let you both in then.

And therein lies the problem. People trying to get round the rules.

How about just sticking to the rules yourself?

The other people might have been there with a career, or were separate households, you don’t know.

If we all stuck to the rules this would be over a lot quicker.

YABVU by the way

My supermarket is full of couples shopping together and no-one bats an eyelid. DD and I had to nip into Aldi on Friday night, and there were loads of couples and families in there as well.

Security guard should not have shouted at you- it is not his job to be shouting at any customers. If he wanted to challenge you about shopping together, he should have gone over and spoken to you reasonably.

luckylavender

butterpuffed - so you stood 1 metre away, not 2 metres, you held your hand out for the product which is also not on (she was protecting you).

Yes, I assumed that the shop assistant was making it obvious that she was obeying the rules to protect you, the customer.

Maybe even more so if she realised she'd been standing closer to her colleague than ideal.

2pinkginsplease what? What's the problem?

A little global pandemic called COVID-19. You might have heard of it.

If DH and I go to Waitrose together, we pretend to go in separately and we each take a list. Yet once inside, it’s all couples together! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@ZoeTurtle

2pinkginsplease what? What's the problem?

A little global pandemic called COVID-19. You might have heard of it.

No shit Sherlock, is that what it is? Still won’t change my shopping habits. Safer being in a shop for 20 minutes once a week than over an hour dilly dallying trying to find stuff off 3 lists. I follow every other rule and guideline oh and the shopping one is just a guideline, not a law.

Do you feel better being all Miss big high and mighty?

Watch out because the fall might be a sore one!

@Sherberr

Just ignore. There are plenty of jobs worths who love to play covid police, pay no attention.

Jobsworths? Or people literally doing their job? Supermarket staff don't get to choose the rules their employers have put in place. Shop policy is shop policy, individual staff get in trouble if they don't adhere to that policy.

It's like people moaning if they get asked for ID to buy alcohol as if the person working really gives a shit if they buy wine or not and are asking to be a jobsworth... no, they're doing it because they've been told to and because they are the ones who get bollocked if they don't adhere to shop policy.

Sounds like someone not smart enough to follow a simple rule was put in charge of the job of monitoring who entered.

It's been common since shops reopened with social distancing, for employees without masks to get too close to people to direct them to follow 'the rules', and to apply them randomly.