To think they were rude & we were singled out ?

[jemi01]

Today I went to a supermarket with partner.

As we approached the entrance , a security guard and member of staff raised their voice and stated " we can only let one of you in"

So one of us went in..

We then saw other couples entering together and not a thing was said !

Wtf

Very stern and shouted at us . It was not pleasant at all. Why didn't they say the same to others who were in twos ? Plenty of couples entering .

So you did something against the rules, got pulled up on it and your first thought is "but all the other people are doing it" - are you ever accountable for your actions or have you always had such a victim mentality?

Well of course others should be pulled up. I'm not surprised you feel singled out .

Yeah i shop with my husband - cus we’ve no car and have a 20minute walk home - we prefer to do as big a shop as possible and it needs 2 of us to carry all the shopping bags home

We split up in the shop so we get everything quicker !

I don’t see the problem tbh! We walk in single file to enter the shop though so the security don’t know we are together to avoid hassle

I can't work out if you got any shopping at all. If you felt aggrieved at the way you were spoken to why didn't you complain at the time even if other people going in as a couple didn't happen until later?

Tesco was full of couples today. I was quite surprised as there was a big sign up saying to shop alone unless you were a lone parent.

No, I didn't bother I went to Asda instead

Our local Tesco was full of couples and families. Nobody seemed concerned at all.

My dp works at a supermarket and he’s been told as long as you give a reason they let you in, they don’t physically stop you or ask for proof. Most people say one of them is a carer, even though they’re regulars who have shopped alone plenty of times. Or that one needs to help the other carry heavy stuff, then they come out with one or two small items.

So the other couples probably just gave vaguely ‘good enough’ reasons.

I shop alone all the time! I always notice couples. I completely forgot today .

We had this in Tesco the other week. They didn't have security guards but two youngish lads on the door who were only stopping those who looked probs

To see couples going in together 2 minutes after we had been declined was a wtf moment

I don't drive but I walk along, shop then DH comes along with the car and picks me up. He could shop (perfectly competent human being) but I like getting out!

@BingeOnChocolate yes we are late twenties & early thirties, we were dressed casual/ laid back. The other couples were maybe 50 .

@BingeOnChocolate yes was funny as minutes after we had been yelled at, in stroll a couple aged around 50. No questions asked.

I wouldn't have minded if they would have asked if we needed to come in together .. but it was the way they firmly shouted that we couldn't .

Will you need counselling?

@Member869894

Why would you go shopping as a couple?

We shop as a couple as we shop for 2 sometimes 3 households so I think makes it easier if we both go.

We got stopped in first lockdown entering Sainsbury’s. I was doing a food shop and he was going to buy a computer game which I know nothing about. Some jobsworth stopped us, I told him we were a couple but shopping separately (this was a Sunday evening so quiet and car park was empty) he wouldn’t let us in, we haven’t shopped there since! Our weekly shop used to come to £80 which we now spend in another’s supermarket!

So you still haven't said why you didn't raise the way you were spoken to with customer services. If both issues were so important/ distressing what are you going to do about it? Did Asda let you in shopping as a couple?

I remember in the first lockdown when two women were stopped from entering. I was exiting with both my kids that I’d taken and shoved in the trolly so they wasn’t running about.

One of the women really did screech ‘she shouldn’t have been allowed in with her fucking kids!!’ - I just laughed at her.

People have gone insane.

OP I’d probably let it go but if it’s got under your skin write an email

Sorry Op but couples in the supermarket are a pain so i’m pleased to hear that you were challenged. In my experience they wander from side to side to look at different things and then have conversations across the aisle about what to buy, making it very difficult for the solo shopper.

Also, you don’t know whether the other couples were challenged or not, or whether they had a reason why they needed to go in together.

In our local supermarket, everyone shops alone. YABU

Jeez. Just suck it up. There's a, ya know, pandemic out there 😉

What's the point of asking Mumsnet why you were singled out, surely you should have queried it at the time or phoned the store when you got home.

When I was in Sainsbury's recently they were challenging all couples at the door. Some replied that they always come together, they didn't know they couldn't, blah blah. Staff just let them in and told them to come alone next time.

When I went there today there was no one challenging anyone on the door. Maybe they've given up as it's just too difficult to manage people who don't care.

OP, lots of ppl have asked why you didn't say anything?

Was it one in, one out perhaps? & only one person had left at that point?

Whatever the reason, the only way to know was to have asked at the time, too late now so forgetting is your best option.

Exact same thing happened to us last weekend OP, felt like we had been singled out as others were allowed in