Hi all, have two dc a boy and a girl aged 10&5. All they do is fight and argue. They literally cannot stand or sit close to each other at all without screaming at each other. They never play together! The rare occasion they do it doesn’t last long before they shout and argue. They cannot be in the back of the car together as they just pick at each other. We cannot go out anywhere without pushing, shouting and shoving each other. Who’s going first, who’s doing what! It’s driving me mad.
Aibu to think this is not normal? I know brothers and sisters fight but my two never get on. There’s never any nice bits in the day. They usually do their own thing Home schooling is hard as I cannot sit down with both of them as they end up arguing. I do some with DS whilst Dd plays and vice versa.
Both myself and dp didn’t have any siblings until we were teens so never experienced this first hand.
DS (oldest) is always saying nasty things to Dd. She can stand up for herself but she’s often told the school that her brother is horribke to her. I think it really upsets her.
Will they outgrow this?
I’m trying my best. Treat them both the same but try and have 1:1 time with both occasionally if the opportunity arises. When they are on their own they are really good but both together 😭
Advice?