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To wish he would give ‘Its a Sin’ a chance?

91 replies

charlie6186 · 30/01/2021 16:57

My ex picked up the kids tonight and mentioned that everyone at his work is raving about the show ‘It’s a Sin’.
I said I had watched it and was completely hooked- I fell in love with the characters and felt so many emotions throughout the series. Being born in the early eighties, I was aware of the pandemic growing up but it was completely above my head. Watching it made me open my eyes to how scary life must have been for people who lived through it and were at risk. I told him that I think it’s an amazing piece of television and he should give it a chance.
To be met with the response of: “I don’t want to see blokes at it. I’m not a batty boy.”
Other than the obvious annoyance of his use of insulting terminology, I’m a bit peeved that he hasn’t noticed that the world has a different outlook nowadays and acceptance and equality is a great thing.
Anyone else know of a bloke who is being stubborn/embarrassed to watch? I feel like he is missing out in a real chance to witness a really moving and much needed story but being held back by his own prejudices (possible embarrassment) to see past the end of his nose.

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Honeybobbin · 30/01/2021 16:59

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LaceyBetty · 30/01/2021 17:00

You must be relieved he's an ex!

Wolfiefan · 30/01/2021 17:01

You have kids with this gobshite? Let’s hope none of them ever have to come out to him.
He’s an arsehole.
I haven’t seen the programme. I well remember this time and don’t think I can quite face it right now. Sad

AllGonnaLaughAtYou · 30/01/2021 17:02

No I don’t know any homophobic men.
Glad he’s your ex

LakeGeneva · 30/01/2021 17:03

Why do you care what telly programmes your ex watches?

AllGonnaLaughAtYou · 30/01/2021 17:03

It’s amazing but absolutely harrowing, as you’d expect!

SheWouldNever · 30/01/2021 17:04

I thought it was an amazing series. Brilliantly well told, one that stays with you for a long time after watching. Judging by his use of homophobic slur, not sure you’ll change your ex’s mind on this one, but good luck.

Oysterbabe · 30/01/2021 17:04

Yanbu to wish he wasn't a homophobic arsehole.

ItWorriesMeThisKindofThing · 30/01/2021 17:05

I know it’s a cliche to say “he doth protest too much” and I don’t truly believe it but I would have been tempted to say it to him. What a knob 😂

Thedogscollar · 30/01/2021 17:06

How very sad people still think and talk like this in 2021.
I'd be advising your ex not to talk like that in front of your kids.

Dozer · 30/01/2021 17:07

Your OP should be ‘To wish the father of my DC wasn’t homophobic?’

Clymene · 30/01/2021 17:09

@Dozer

Your OP should be ‘To wish the father of my DC wasn’t homophobic?’
This
FeckinCat · 30/01/2021 17:11

It's tedious when people go on and on about how others should watch this or that. Fine to be enthusiastic and say you enjoyed something, but the repeated insistence that "Oooh you'd love it if you gave it a try!" wears thin after a while.

Your ex doesn't sound at all pleasant but someone telling me that I'm "missing out in a real chance to witness a really moving and much needed story" would piss me right off.

MummyDummyNow · 30/01/2021 17:12

It's an absolutely fantastic piece of television. Me and my husband binge watched it last weekend and both loved it (hence the binge watching).

I can't believe people in this day and age are still making comments like your ex. It just shows we haven't come as far as we should have with regards to attitudes which is so sad.

Sciurus83 · 30/01/2021 17:12

No I don't know anyone like that. Oh man, how you going to keep that away from your kids?!

SmileyClare · 30/01/2021 17:15

It's strange he brought the programme up when he dropped the kids off if he has no interest in it? Confused

Anyway, you can't make people watch anything.

I would be more disappointed that he's teaching his dc homophobic attitudes and labels. I doubt watching this series would change his mind.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 30/01/2021 17:19

Yabu to give a shit what he watches.

Your time would be better spent counteracting the homophobic attitudes that your kids will undoubtedly be picking up on.

idontlikealdi · 30/01/2021 17:19

I watched the whole thing last night it was absolutely brilliant. Cried through most of it.

Anyway he sounds like dick.

charlie6186 · 30/01/2021 17:20

His general outlook on many things is one of the reasons I walked away. I struggled for many years with him suffering with outbursts of completely unnecessary jealously, financial control, gaslighting, and emotional abuse. He had a drinking problem- I knew it but it was never an issue in his eyes. I eventually escaped and haven’t looked back. I still doubt myself at times as to whether I was over reacting and was too emotional but moments like this make me realise that it was not me, it was him. He wasn’t a nice person at all. My children (13 & 17 and 18+) do still see him- he is their dad and they want to go. They are good kids and I have done a mammoth job of making them into brilliant young adults. But they know right from wrong and I’m proud of how they have turned out considering their male role model.

In general we get on ok when the kids are collected. I was completely taken a back by his comment tonight though. I haven’t seen that side of him for a long time.

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Letseatgrandma · 30/01/2021 17:20

It isn’t your job to educate him-presume he’s an ex for very good reasons. Let it go, it’s not your problem.

Looking forward to watching this!

Meowchickameowmeow · 30/01/2021 17:23

I don't want to watch it either, it's just not my cup of tea. My reasons aren't the same as your tit of an ex but I'm not missing out on anything. Do you watch stuff just because other people think you should?

whenwillthemadnessend · 30/01/2021 17:27

I love it and enjoy the sex Great bodies.
It's very sad and moving and the soundtrack is brillliant. I'm a 49 yo straight woman.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 30/01/2021 17:28

I haven't watched it. Not even my gay friend mentioned it. I am probably not going to watch it (not my style).

So I fully agree with pp. Your issue shouldn't be whether he watches it or not, your issue should be woth terminology he uses.

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 30/01/2021 17:32

With the greatest of respect, why do you care what your ex watches on TV?

My ex is a racist homophobic POS and there's nothing I can do to change it so my policy is to disengage about anything other than the children. Our pick up and drop offs don't need to consist of anything more than "they had a great time, DD has a bit of a headache and DS's trainers will need a wash". The end. He's your ex for a reason, don't try to be his friend.

theThreeofWeevils · 30/01/2021 17:33

I have done a mammoth job of making them into brilliant young adults
Are they as modest as you too?