To want to drown him in a vat of his bloody wine?

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I’ll say this is lighthearted but I’ll also be honest and say it probably isn’t

Basically, I love wine- love it. Particularly red. I’m not a wine wanker but I’m pretty interested in the different ones, regions, wine tours, etc etc.

As a consequence of being 7 weeks pregnant, I’m not drinking any wine. There are still some beautiful reds in the rack from Christmas that I lovingly chose- I may look at them forlornly from time to time, even give them a stroke, but there they will stay (until the safest opportunity that I can crack one open) it’s all I drink really, I don’t care much for any other alcohol except wines and champagne.

DH enjoys a wine with me too and has indulged me in my wine passion over the years but is really a beer/ale drinker, has been since I met him. Loves a gin or rum and Coke too.

He has now decided that he ‘quite misses’ wine too, and has been reading up on wines of the week at Lidl’s and Aldi etc, and has enjoyed a couple of ‘really nice ones’ already this week. He’s just informed me that he’s ordered A CRATE of wine from Laithwaite’s to ‘stock the rack’.

I did go a bit nuts. Why the fuck has he decided NOW is the perfect time to indulge in what is my favourite thing, when I can’t have it? I’d have NO problem with him cracking on with his beer or run and come because I don’t like those, or even the odd glass of wine here and there, but I think he’s being a dick and I can’t make him see it.

Is it pregnancy hormones and am I being selfish?

Also can I please request that I don’t really wish to canvas any opinions from the competitive ‘under-drinkers’ of mumsnet that open a bottle of wine every six months and drink a thimble at the weekend. You won’t understand.

Maybe you could play some nice loud music this morning to make sure he’s awake?

He can do the bloody hoovering the lazy get 😂I will however be putting the radio on loud and clattering around baking a cake- carrot, because he doesn’t like it.

2.5 bottles 🤬

Honestly but all the red wine in the boot of your care and don't let him have the keys!!

From now on only buy and cook meals you like and he doesn't 😂

@SmidgenofaPigeon

He can do the bloody hoovering the lazy get 😂I will however be putting the radio on loud and clattering around baking a cake- carrot, because he doesn’t like it.

Excellent work. I like your style.

I'm teetotal (not because MN is running a competition, because it's my choice). I think wine is vile. You know what, I can still use my imagination and empathy to understand what you're describing in your op.

I'm actually a bit cross on your behalf. You're taking it in good spirit but he's being a total wazzock.

Drown him in cheap lambrini instead. Makes your point I think.

2.5 bottles is just stupid, by opening the third you could be drinking any old piss. He’s not even enjoying the wine properly! Absolute philistine

I don't drink very often at all and I think he is being incredibly unreasonable.

Also, despite being capable of going without a drink for months at a time and rarely having more than one when I do, when I was about 7 months pregnant I remember being almost in tears in front of the prosecco fridge in Waitrose (trust Waitrose to have a sodding prosecco fridge). It's not the same when you can't have something.

‘I’ll just bloody cancel it shall I’

‘Yes, that would be great thanks. It’s good to feel that you too will be making some sacrifices for OUR baby’

I actually think he’s being genuinely quite spiteful here. It’s not funny at all.

Not to depress you further OP but since being pregnant I can't really drink red anymore. Like you I massively preferred it to white, barely drank white, but now even half a small glass gives me an instant and horrible headache.

Youngest is 3 now and it doesn't seem to be changing. 🙁

I hope he's got an awful hangover this morning... Shame it's lockdown or you could've dragged him somewhere shopping to make the hangover worse!

He's definitely being a dick. Complete and utter dick. I'd hide the nice bottles until you can drink them. In fact hide all red wine that comes into the house then he'll have to drink the beer

About time to take those empties out to the recycling isn’t it? Right underneath his window?

I wish the recycling wasn’t round the back, I’d have great fun lobbing those bottles in. Time to blast the Linkin Park I think. Oh, and we’ve run out of coffee, I’ve been to the shop but I forgot to get more, whoops.

2.5 bottles? I'd have thought by the opening of the second he could be drinking any old plonk - is he the size of one of the biggest vikings? Let's hope that was him saying goodbye to red wine for the next 7 months!

There's one upside, that first glass of red post baby is going to be amazing!

Well 2.5 bottles is a lot for one night. But it has got nothing to do with whether him ordering some wine to drink while you are pregnant is being U or not.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say YABU here. You got your DH into the wine in the first place and it is a dark, miserable and cold lockdown January, which is a good time to enjoy a nice bottle of red.

I appreciate that it is not great when you can't eat and drink certain things while pregnant (it was paté for me), but expecting others to do a nine month sympathy abstention is pretty unreasonable without any discussion and agreement really. Same with your diet analogy really. If this really bothers you then talk to your DH about it rather than being on MN getting egged on to be passive aggressive about it and pretending it is just a bit of fun.

Just finished rtft

I agree you’re not bu at all OP! Really mean to start getting into something you love once you can’t have it.

You need to make it clear what is and isn’t on from now, as it’ll be harder to draw the lines when your dc are here and he’s seeing them as your job to deal with.