When AIDS was a serious risk in the 1980s, government launched a massive information campaign on TV and by leaflets in the post about safe sex. It was vital in helping people make informed choices. Some still chose not to use condoms, but the info was out there.
Today, the government is using the internet and TV to get the message about the vaccine out. Some people like the Op’s in-laws don’t have TV or internet. They are amongst a small group who wint have either, but perhaps a postal campaign of information is still needed by government to reach more people.
This ‘mind your own business’ about other people’s healthcare is essentially a nonsense when it comes to family isn’t it. Families are frequently involved and part of their family healthcare - that can be in the early stages of diagnosis simply by taking an elederly relative to the hospital for tests, or phoning to receive results, or going with them to get results, or talking through options, to helping with convalescent care, to having them live with them in final life stages. ‘Mind your own business’ just seems like such a daft phrase to use, when clearly people are hugely involved in each other’s healthcare and also in decision making.
The Op will have to accept the choice of her PiLs over the vaccine....but it is NOT the case, that family members should unquestioningly accept decisions where they know full well that a choice has been made when there is either a clear misunderstanding of information or simply that the vast amount of the facts have not been available to the decision maker. It would be like expecting a person from a different planet or different time in history to make a choice about something that could affect their future health, when they don’t even h deist and the language being used.
Of course the Op and her famiky should get some information to the PiL....it would be negligent to not do this. And in reality, is anyone, even the anti vaccers or anyone else saying that family members should accept without a single question a decision from a vulnerable adult (and their lack of access to formation and isolation does make them vulnerable) that can impact their future health, because having the right to choose at the point of having no information means no-one can ever offer further information or ask any questions. No-one actually thinks that. And those pushing the point that the PiL are feee to choose whatever they like, never refer to the fact that they are lacking the vital information which has been available to the vast majority during this pandemic, through isolation and being cut off from sources of information. All they do is push the point about adults being free to choose without interference and quote parts of people’s posts out of the context of the whole post.
Ultimately, it will be the PiLs choice. They have made their choice for now and declined the vaccine. But it wasn’t a one-time-only offer and the vaccine will be available still for them next week or next month. And given that they made their choice without having had access to the information about it, I really think it is the Op and family’s duty to give that information to them. That is very different to refusing to accept their decision. If they then decide they still do t want it, Op might not understand the choice, but will have to accept it is their choice. At that point to be seriously trying to influence them might be questionable (although they will need to choose being fully aware of the consequences for their interaction with family too) but UNTIL they have been given the chance to read and understand a bit more about the vaccine, I wouldn’t say they are in a position to make a final decision on the matter.