Tight stingy people

[kale99]

Do people who are tight know they are tight ? My friend "Sarah" is the stingiest person Iv ever met the other day we were watching a programme about cheapskates and she said let's watch "Ashley on the big screen "and laughed just wondering if you were tight do you know you are and would you be offended if I told you that I think your tight ?

Also I realised my other issue is that I’m not quite wise with budgeting because it’s a skill I never had the opportunity to learn

@wagsthedog

Fucking hell my brain is crying

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I don't mind frugality but wouldn't want to be friends with someone who can take advantage of peoples kindness and hospitality. Not keen on people who mock
others syntax

I'm confused, so Ashley is a friend of yours but she's also on TV? And Sarah slags her off?

This is going to be the wine on the wall, dead wasp post again....

OP thank you for this thread and for others giving their opinions on the situation. I have literally had a lightbulb moment about two of my own friends.

One of them is super tight, really tight, like take booze to a party and walk back out with it if unfinished, walk five miles from the supermarket rather than get a taxi tight. She doesn't need to do these things, she just does them. The other ... well she'll laugh at tight friend and never explicitly penny pinches BUT she definitely does the 'oh I can't get cash out/oh my money's not come through' routine, usually halfway through a night out or on her way to the bar or whatever. I'd never really thought about it before but yes it is CFery up against tightwaddery and neither of them acknowledge how annoying their respective behaviours are.

I manage each of them without it impacting on our friendships too much, I think. Everyone's got their own little weirdnesses about money and it's more of a quirk than anything. But I'd never really thought about the two of them side by side before, so thanks OP.

Sarah is so tight she watches your TV. Think of all the electricity she's saving. Do you feed her while she's there as well?

I'm just gutted to hear the wonderful word 'tightwaddery' and then instantly realise that it will never come up on the Countdown conundrum, because it's too many letters.

@LakeGeneva it's anoying because it ruins your night out.

One time when I was out with Sarah she only ever takes £30 out for a full night out including taxi fares so I need to take out the same amount so am not the one buying all the drinks! I needed more money but lost my bank card that week n asked if she could lift out £30 for me and I would pay her back tmoro she said that was fine but as we got to the bar she said that I should buy her a drink which I ended up doing then she kept asking are you defo gonna drop off the £30 tmoro and I said yes but really Sarah still owed me £90 from a concert ticket but I wasn't allowed to take the £30 from the £90 she owed me

OP the term "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" springs to mind here!

@JaneJeffer Yep she gets fed aswell and she always expects me to always make food to which I would for anyone that is a guest coming to my house she's helped herself to my fridge to some cold meat and one time there was some sauce that had just a little left in it she asked if she could take it home I felt embarrassed for her so I just said yes but my partner loves tht sauce

@JaneJeffer I geniunely think she saves sooo much electricity she told me her bill was £10 a week or month it was also her birthday one time and she asked to have a party at mines for her

For someone you claim isn't your friend you do an awful lot together. Raves, nights out, nights in watching TV during a lockdown, hosting a party for her - sounds like a friend to me.

Considering she’s a friend of a friend you spend a lot of time with her.

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows Sarah is my friend Ashley is not her name was only mentioned

I have a friend who moans about her partner being tight but in reality they are two of a kind!

It's been a long time since a thread confused me this much 😂

Sarah sounds like a totally shit mate

Does Ashley ever go raving?

@MaskingForIt

Your idea of tight is my idea of financially responsible.

I’d also struggle to be judged by someone who was barely functionally literate, so probably wouldn’t really care what you thought about my finances.

Ouch.

[quote kale99]@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows Sarah is my friend Ashley is not her name was only mentioned [/quote]
But you previously said " no because Sarah is actually a friend of a friends we aren't close*

Next time you make up fake names, use the same initials. So if their names are really Sarah and Ashley then use Susan and Anna so you stop confusing yourself and everyone else.

Also, grow a backbone with Sarah.

I think there is a big difference between being tight, frugal and being a cheeky fucker. It's one thing to save money and spend on the things important to you. But quite a different thing to expect others to pay for things for you, like the snacks or drinks in the pub. It all adds up. You're also kind of valuing your money more than that of others. What if others want to be frugal but they can't as they are subbing Sarah's drinks? She's a cheeky fucker.

Tight people must know they're being tight, I think it's like a little game they play - how much can I get away with before someone tells me to get knotted?
My BIL is like this and he smirks as he takes advantage, knowing that most people are too nice to say something to his face which is why his friends have drifted away.

He likes people running around after him as well. In a restaurant he always asks for something off menu or a little different. You almost feel sorry for him if he has to behave this way to feel good. It makes him feel superior and important but we all know he's a bit of a shit. Underneath his bravado he's still a scared little boy and if we wanted we could make him cry - but we don't because we like to be decent.

@kale99

So Ashley likes to save money so she was being sarcastic as like let's watch her on the tv when we were watching the cheapskates programme sorry

*@DDIJ no because Sarah is actually a friend of a friends we aren't close*

So you're not friends with either of them?

Honestly not a lot of what you've said makes sense, did you get lost on the way to netmums?

OMG I read it all and still don't know who Ashley is!! I thought Ashley was the cheapskate but seems Sarah is? bloody hell

one time there was some sauce that had just a little left in it she asked if she could take it home I felt embarrassed for her so I just said yes but my partner loves tht sauce

Why were you embarrassed for her? What does that even mean?

You let her take your partners' sauce that he loves?

As someone else said upthread, grow a bloody backbone.

@kale99

So Ashley likes to save money so she was being sarcastic as like let's watch her on the tv when we were watching the cheapskates programme sorry

What does this post actually mean?