To think Mumsnetters should read posts properly

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I’m not trying to be goady here and I do genuinely value and appreciate the advice I’ve had on here.

However AIBU to think that when posters don’t read a post properly and then Wade in with suggestions it’s really a) spectacularly unhelpful and b) can actually add to stress for the OP as she has to fend of useless advice and then almost inevitably is accused of either c) ignoring helpful advice or d) has her own mental health called into question.

So for example you will get a post that says something like, I really need advice on a morning routine. I’m a single mum and I have a 3 year old DD who needs to go to nursery and a 6 year old DS who is at school as I’m a key worker. My mum used to help us but she’s in hospital

Poster one - how old is DS? Can’t he get to school himself?

Poster two - can’t the kids’ dad help?

Poster three - why are your kids at school/childcare in a pandemic?

Poster four - can’t your family help out?

Should I RTFT this time? (Sorry! Light hearted and could not resist)

Yes I agree gaspode 20 pages and 2 days later how can anyone think their own advice hasn't already been suggested?

And I think, Christ how do you ever read a book or a news article to the end? It's three paragraphs of text.
@SmileyClare I suspect these are the same people who make similar comments on news articles and who give books one-star reviews when they blatantly didn't read the blurb. "One star - I don't like romance books and I didn't read the blurb, title or look at the cover with the half-naked guy before downloading it."

Do you police peoples conversations in the pub too? (in parallel non covid universe)

It doesn’t have to be ‘policing’ conversations - but if I was talking to someone in a pub and told them I was looking for a teaching job in Leicester because I was moving there to be near relatives (for example), I’d think it was pretty rude if they started telling me they knew of a great job going in advertising, based in Edinburgh, and what a great idea it would be to apply for that.

It does make me wonder what some of these posters are like to talk to in real life.

@Macncheeseballs

Do you police peoples conversations in the pub too? (in parallel non covid universe)

So if I was chatting with someone in the (weird) pub and said ‘I’m struggling to breastfeed my baby, she’s been checked for a tongue tie but still not happening’ and they said ‘have you thought about getting her checked for a tongue tie’ I would be a bit and think ‘did you hear what I said’?

Lots of people don't seem to realise that there is a "see all" option for the OP and they come back demanding updates when the OP has updated 2 days ago.

I don’t get how it can be missed. I read that before I read other comments or post anything and then go back to it if I’m unsure of specific details.

Do you police peoples conversations in the pub too?
Do you wade into conversations in the pub, without knowing the context and rudely announce your thoughts?

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@DioneTheDiabolist

Do you police peoples conversations in the pub too? Do you wade into conversations in the pub, without knowing the context and rudely announce your thoughts?

Unfortunately there are people like this in pubs. They get more prevalent as the night wears on

(In the olden days of course, when pubs were a thing).

Do you wade into conversations in the pub, without knowing the context and rudely announce your thoughts?

This describes most pub interactions after about 9pm doesn't it?

@NotFabulousDarling

And I think, Christ how do you ever read a book or a news article to the end? It's three paragraphs of text. *@SmileyClare* I suspect these are the same people who make similar comments on news articles and who give books one-star reviews when they blatantly didn't read the blurb. "One star - I don't like romance books and I didn't read the blurb, title or look at the cover with the half-naked guy before downloading it."

Oh yes. Closely related to the people who leave comments about recipes that go something like:

Parsnip and chestnut tart
I made this with carrots because I don't like parsnips and I used a couple of spoonfuls of peanut butter instead of chopped chestnuts because that was all I had in. Hubby can't eat onion so I left that out and we're both trying to lose weight so I decided to bake it without the pastry. It was difficult to serve, didn't like the colour of the carrots against the peanut butter, flavour was a bit bland and the texture was odd. Really wasn't impressed with it, wouldn't make again, wouldn't recommend it.

@DioneTheDiabolist

Do you police peoples conversations in the pub too? Do you wade into conversations in the pub, without knowing the context and rudely announce your thoughts?

Exactly.

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g It could have happened to anyone following the recipe that closely. Right?

The best one is when someone tries to have an argument with someone else because they didn't read a post properly and they don't realise they're both arguing the same side. That happens down the pub, too.

@NotFabulousDarling

I find this maddening. I asked HQ to delete one of my few threads (I NC regularly anyway) because people misunderstood my post, jumped to conclusions that my DH was abusing me and my LO when that wasn't the case, and then, people seemed to read one or two of the responses, and decided THEIR version of things was correct and, when I went away to make dinner, and do baby bedtime, 50 posts later they accused me of being a troll because the thread made no sense. Because they hadn't read it properly. I never did get an answer on what to do about my problem.

I had a very similar problem and asked for the thread to be removed. By the end of it people had decided my husband was pedophile! It was NOTHING like what I had said. My actual OP was rewritten by subsequent goadyfuckers over a few posts by them, getting increasingly worse and the answers stopped being about what I had asked about and all centred around the goadyfucker had claimed was the truth. It was crazy.

Parsnip and chestnut tart
I made this with carrots because I don't like parsnips and I used a couple of spoonfuls of peanut butter instead of chopped chestnuts because that was all I had in. Hubby can't eat onion so I left that out and we're both trying to lose weight so I decided to bake it without the pastry. It was difficult to serve, didn't like the colour of the carrots against the peanut butter, flavour was a bit bland and the texture was odd. Really wasn't impressed with it, wouldn't make again, wouldn't recommend it.
😂😂😂😂 It's funny, but few of these and I would understand why the person writing original recipe went on a killing spree😂

I agree.

I once asked for advice on how to wash skid marks out of my partners underwear and if normal washing was enough. I got bombarded with LTB and what do I even see in him. I then felt I had to explain his medical status and people accused me of drip feeding. I wasn't asking for anything other than laundry advice!

(Clearly name changed for this comment lol)

I'd always recommend Jamie Oliver. You don't have to like his presenting style to know that his food is always delicious.

Re Parsnip and Chestnut tart.

I once had a colleague beg me for the recipe for some cakes I'd made. He was most upset that they didn't turn out well, kept going on about how I clearly gave him a duff recipe.

Turned out, he'd not bothered with the ground almonds or vanilla. Right....

Sometimes the funniest ones are age misunderstandings, usually based around school year vs age in years. So OP might say "my dd, who is in year 11, has a boyfriend who is nice, would it be OK to invite him on holiday with us".

Replies:
"omg OP your 11 year old dd has a bf!"
"read the op properly, she is in year 11 so aged 16"
"how can you allow an 11 year old to date"
"she is in year 11"
"hmmm she is 11 that is a no!".
"SHE IS IN BLOODY YEAR 11 READ PROPERLY YOU FOOLS"
"well I'd say no if she's just 11"

Hundreds of posts go on like that.

@FlyNow i once had to download a table for year vs age. 🙈 I know no one else who says age of their kids by a year at school. Just say the age, stop confusing non Brits😂

I agree OP.

But NOTHING winds me up like those 'who is the actor' threads when posters make suggestions and it turns out that it was someone suggested pages back. If you're the OP on those threads, do everyone a favour and consider all the suggestions.

I wish people would (proof)read their own posts. So often there's a bunch of autocorrected gobbledygook, sometimes even in the thread title.