To not allow DH into our house for 10 days?

[MrsJE]

Opinions needed please.
DH is at work this evening and came across a man who was slumped on the floor and not responding when asked if he was OK.
DH phoned 999 and they asked him to do chest compressions on the person as his breathing was shallow, which DH did until the ambulance arrived.
DH recognises the man as one of the local homeless that sleep near his work and it appears he may have taken spice.
Now, my dilemma is I'm 50yrs old and have spent half my life in and out of hospital with asthma attacks. We still have two children living at home and we are also raising our grandson who has additional needs. DH himself is 52 and has a blood disorder that he is on long term medication for. We have tried to be careful during this pandemic, we're not shielding as DH works in an office (either alone or with one other person at a time) and grandson attends school of a morning as he is classed as vulnerable but, we keep to the rules and do as much as possible to minimise our risk.
I now feel DH should stay in our eldest sons spare room for 10 days but DH thinks I'm being ridiculous.
Am I being unreasonable?

[saraclara]

The sensible thing to do would be to call the hospital and ask what to do. Under normal circumstances, they'd not be able to tell you any details about a patient. But given Covid, your DH should be noted as a contact so he can be tracked and traced if the guy turns out to be positive.

[saraclara]

...and they'll automatically have tested the guy, so your DH should be able to be informed before he can infect you if he's picked it up. So no need to isolate him today. It takes at least a couple of days for the virus to brew.

[Ostryga]

Some of these responses Honestly, print them out and read them back to yourself in 3/4 years. You’ll finally see how utterly insane you are.

[Doublefaced]

‘Quarantine is not a punishment FFS! It is just common fucking sense.’

Common sense is so 2019

[Blerg]

Completely agree with @Doublefaced

Amazing array of responses here around risk vs punishment.

I hope all works out OP.

[Thewiseoneincognito]

OP he needs to be quarantined. The spice man could have had covid, please make sure he self isolates.

[Rollmopsrule]

Yanbu at all. In your circumstances I think your being sensible. It isn't a punishment for your Dh or lessen his actions at all.

[saraclara]

Just. Ask. The. Hospital.

The guy will have been tested. Then you'll know whether or not your DH has had close contact with someone with Covid, or no.

All this speculation is silly when you should be able to get the information you need to decide.

[AllMyPrettyOnes]

@Thewiseoneincognito

OP he needs to be quarantined. The spice man could have had covid, please make sure he self isolates.

The spice man?

[Carouselfish]

Why is it such a hardship to isolate for ten days? Seems sensible.

[Bagamoyo1]

@saraclara

Just. Ask. The. Hospital.

The guy will have been tested. Then you'll know whether or not your DH has had close contact with someone with Covid, or no.

All this speculation is silly when you should be able to get the information you need to decide.

Exactly what I was thinking

[Beaniecats]

@tootiredtospeak

People have gone fucking mental and this thread just proves it. I honestly despair

Yep
Shows the Government propaganda is working though

[EugenesAxe]

Well I do feel for you and agree you need to take Covid seriously, but it's not like you're in your own little world all the time anyway - your DH is in the office and your GS goes to school. I think the chances of getting Covid from those places are as high to warrant no special treatment for this chap.

[oldegg123]

@EugenesAxe

Well I do feel for you and agree you need to take Covid seriously, but it's not like you're in your own little world all the time anyway - your DH is in the office and your GS goes to school. I think the chances of getting Covid from those places are as high to warrant no special treatment for this chap.

I don't understand this argument at all.

Having to mix with other groups doesn't negate the risk her husband has been exposed to. If anything it strengthens the rationale for isolating - if her grandson becomes infectious he's then potentially exposing all of his classmates and teachers.

This how coronavirus spreads, chains of infection :/

[nocoolnamesleft]

Chest compressions are an aerosol generating procedure. So if the unfortunate gentleman did have COVID then the odds of his rescuer catching it would be high. Unfortunately we don't know if he did have it.

[SatishTheCat]

@saraclara

The sensible thing to do would be to call the hospital and ask what to do. Under normal circumstances, they'd not be able to tell you any details about a patient. But given Covid, your DH should be noted as a contact so he can be tracked and traced if the guy turns out to be positive.

This

[SimonJT]

If I had been through something traumatic like that and someone who supposedly loves and cares for me suggested isolating me in a room for ten days I would know right then that the relationship was well and truly over.

It’s a really callous suggestion.

[Doingitaloneandproud]

If I were your DH I'd be telling you to fuck off tbh, it's his house as much as yours so no you cannot not allow him to do anything.
Is this honestly what's happening now, he's saved a mans life by doing those chest compressions and instead of saying well done and supporting him, you want him to go somewhere else. Have you ever taken first aid training? If you have you would know chest compressions are incredibly draining for someone and also you would have the sense to know if someone has done it in real life, on a person, it's going to be traumatic. Maybe he could do with his wife being a bit supportive

[Porridgeoat]

Over reaction on your part. Ask your DH to isolate in his own bedroom until he can have a covid test if concerned. But even that is over the top

[Backbee]

The title says not to let him into the house, yet you say you want to ask him to sleep in a spare room, which is it? Poor bloke though, I wonder how many people would now walk past someone poorly in the street and leave them to die because they're worried they might have covid, sad AF to be honest. Good for him, he did a wonderful thing and I hope you are supportive as he might be shook up.

[isitjustifyable]

I understand your concern and disagree with most posters.

I would contact the hospital

[isitjustifyable]

Sorry posted too soon.

Contact the hospital and find out if he has a positive test or not. Assuming they are testing everyone. I would think if the man had covid, then your husband is likely to of caught it (unless wearing a properly fitted and functioning mask)

[AnyTimeSoon]

Yanbu. Why risk everyone's health for just 10days? And how does anyone know if this person has covid or not??

[MichelleScarn]

@Toddlerteaplease that sounds incredibly stressful and of course you would have reacted instinctively, I'm assuming the baby's family was there too so can't imagine saying 'hold up, let me get the full kit on before we do anything'.