To not allow DH into our house for 10 days?

[MrsJE]

Opinions needed please.
DH is at work this evening and came across a man who was slumped on the floor and not responding when asked if he was OK.
DH phoned 999 and they asked him to do chest compressions on the person as his breathing was shallow, which DH did until the ambulance arrived.
DH recognises the man as one of the local homeless that sleep near his work and it appears he may have taken spice.
Now, my dilemma is I'm 50yrs old and have spent half my life in and out of hospital with asthma attacks. We still have two children living at home and we are also raising our grandson who has additional needs. DH himself is 52 and has a blood disorder that he is on long term medication for. We have tried to be careful during this pandemic, we're not shielding as DH works in an office (either alone or with one other person at a time) and grandson attends school of a morning as he is classed as vulnerable but, we keep to the rules and do as much as possible to minimise our risk.
I now feel DH should stay in our eldest sons spare room for 10 days but DH thinks I'm being ridiculous.
Am I being unreasonable?

[Emeraldshamrock]

Covid seems to get those with a low immune system afaik lots of homeless people sleep together without body heat they wouldn't survive.

[SquirtleSquad]

Are you worried you'll catch a case of the poor

[ineedsunshinenow]

Your poor husband

[Saz12]

OP, are you CEV and choosing not to shield, or is it that no one in your household has had sheilding recommended?

If DH was doing chest compressions only, ie no rescue breaths, outdoors, ambulance able to attend quickly, mask worn.... then that doesn’t make this in as high a risk category as full on CPR with mouth to-mouth for a very long ambulance wait.

[MorningNinja]

Giving CPR is a pretty traumatic experience. Pat him on the back, tell him you're proud and let the guy sleep in his own bed.

[luxxlisbon]

@DimidDavilby "She can feel proud of him and also rationally asses risk."
Exactly, and self isolating even though you have no reason to believe you have actually been around someone with covid is not rationally assessing the risk here.

[babbaloushka]

Your DP will need support.

[Doublefaced]

People have clearly lost their minds, and it’s not the OP.
He has very clearly just been exposed to a very high risk situation. It’s the reality that we’re living in and all the screeching and name calling in the world doesn’t make it so.

CPR is an incredibly high risk AGP.
It’s highly likely that he will be covid tested on admission so definitely ring 111 and explain the situation. They will be able to advise on contact and may pass his details on to A&E/tracking.

Your DH is probably in shock right now. Well done to him and hope that all works out ok.

Oh and YANBU

[AdamDriversApple]

YABU OP. When did we become so heartless as a human race

[Doublefaced]

@SquirtleSquad

Are you worried you'll catch a case of the poor

What an absolutely fucking ridiculous response

[Doublefaced]

@Marinaloves

Yes you sound a bit batshit
Hth

No she really doesn’t.
You, on the other hand....

[Doublefaced]

@Embroideredstars

Was he wearing a mask?

In the hospital we wouldn't be wearing any more than a surgical mask if a person collapsed in our department and would be expected to do chest compressions.

What Trust is running a crash team without FFP3s?
Have you escalated this?

[AllMyPrettyOnes]

I'd tell you where to go if I was your DH

You're being ridiculous and quite unkind.

[MajesticWhine]

No I wouldn't kick him out. But contacting the hospital he went to is a sensible suggestion, so that if the guy tested positive then your DH can hopefully be informed.

[thepeopleversuswork]

People are being really unkind and all this "he is a hero" stuff is just ridiculous. This isn't the Pride of Britain awards.

Yes your husband's behaviour was admirable and he deserves your pride and support. But he put himself (through no fault of his own) in a very high risk situation. I don't think you're BU at all, you're trying to minimise risk to your family.

[AKissAndASmile]

@Doublefaced

People have clearly lost their minds, and it’s not the OP.
He has very clearly just been exposed to a very high risk situation. It’s the reality that we’re living in and all the screeching and name calling in the world doesn’t make it so.

CPR is an incredibly high risk AGP.
It’s highly likely that he will be covid tested on admission so definitely ring 111 and explain the situation. They will be able to advise on contact and may pass his details on to A&E/tracking.

Your DH is probably in shock right now. Well done to him and hope that all works out ok.

Oh and YANBU

Agreed

[Coolerthanapolarbearstoenails]

@ChairinSage

I hope you read this post back to yourself in 5 years time. Hopefully the human race will have recovered some amount of compassion and kindness.

This with spades.

[Arobase]

The guidance requires that people should self-isolate at home when self-isolation is necessary. It does to require them to do so in someone else's home. You can take the same precautions at home as you presumably would if anyone in your family had been in contact with a known covid case.. Frankly, the risk from your grandson is a lot greater than the risk from your husband.

[Toddlerteaplease]

Having to do CPR is incredibly traumatic. You are being V unreasonable.

[StormcloakNord]

Wait, what? Eh?

You are mixing with him while he's working in an office and you have someone going into school... but he helps save one homeless mans life and you're crying covid?

This has to be a wind up surely

[Toddlerteaplease]

@Embroideredstars

Was he wearing a mask?

In the hospital we wouldn't be wearing any more than a surgical mask if a person collapsed in our department and would be expected to do chest compressions.

I had to do CPR on the ward on a baby and got ticked off for not putting full PPE on. I had a surgical mask on. Putting the full kit on didn't even cross my mind in the heat of the moment. Got her back, that's all I cared about In that moment. I'd rather have caught Covid than do nothing.

[Thehogfatherstolemycurry]

My need to give my husband a hug and support in a time he absolutely needs it would outweigh my own health concerns - I have asthma too.

[coulditbeanymorerubbish]

World's gone mad.

[Doublefaced]

@StormcloakNord

Wait, what? Eh?

You are mixing with him while he's working in an office and you have someone going into school... but he helps save one homeless mans life and you're crying covid?

This has to be a wind up surely

Yeah I’m sure CPR/AGPs are a routine part of most days at the office....

[Kettlingur]

It's no wonder the UK corona situation is what it is if these responses are representable. Quarantine is not a punishment FFS! It is just common fucking sense.