To think if I'd have known about Covid I wouldn't have got pregnant when I did

[Nicknamegoeshere]

My baby was born end of May. Mat leave during lockdown has been awful. I feel trapped and have zero friends with babies. Didn't have the chance to make any. Have two other children 10 and 13 who this is also really very hard on. Partner works ft away from home as a CW.

I love my baby but I regret having her when I did.

AIBU?

I’m not quite sure what the OP has done wrong? There’s always someone worse off than ourselves, does that mean we’re not allowed to ask for help or to talk about it? No it doesn’t.

@Ileflottante I think it does so I will leave it here. I thought I had made the contents of my post clear by its title but it looks like I made an error of judgement with this. I will try my best to stop feeling like this.

Don’t discount your feelings @Nicknamegoeshere I was glad you spoke up and said what a lot of other people, including myself were feeling you haven’t done anything wrong and you are allowed to feel how your feeling. I totally get others have or have had it worse but doesn’t mean we can feel how we’re feeling now. Yes we are lucky in some respects but so are so many others in other ways and they aren’t told to just get on with it. Like I said I was glad to see that it wasn’t only me that was feeling this way x

YANBU

But it's interesting, I'm pregnant now and thought having a baby in lockdown would be good as you spend so much time indoors anyway with a new baby - and people whose maternity leave ended got to stay home a bit longer which I thought would be easier. But totally get why it's not necessarily the case.

I had the opposite experience, my baby was born shortly before the first lockdown, and his smiley little face has helped the whole family cope with some very difficult times.

@georgarina @53MyDcAreMarvel First babies I'm guessing? Good luck

Sorry - no idea where the 53 came from, @NicknamegoeshereMyDcAreMarvel

Grrrrr lol!!!! @MyDcAreMarvel

@Nicknamegoeshere of course you can complain, you have every right to be cheesed off with your current circumstances. It’s just the way the post was phrased I think that has upset people.
So I will say it again- perhaps if you’d phrased the post struggling with lockdown as a parent of three kids, instead of I wish I didn’t have a baby when I did.

Which actually, I think you know, given your age, you probably don’t have regrets and are just finding it understandably difficult. And in the same vein if someone says that they feel yabu they shouldn’t have the post deleted just because it may not be a popular opinion. After all, you did ask!

I don’t think the thread should be deleted, but people should be able to state how they feel and people shouldn’t be able to take that on board and understand.

As I said it was the way your post was phrased that attracted the sort of criticism it did- I know of so many people personally who would give their right arm to have a baby lockdown or not.

Meant should, not shouldn’t

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Ileflottante I think it does so I will leave it here. I thought I had made the contents of my post clear by its title but it looks like I made an error of judgement with this. I will try my best to stop feeling like this.[/quote]
I’m in the same boat if it helps. I’ve not suffered losses and I’m hugely sorry for those that have but I don’t think that means I’m not allowed to feel sad and low and lonely and unsupported. Lean on me a bit if it helps.

I was trying to say that the way your feeling is normal. I've had losses and I still am finding it hard. It's okay to be struggling. Don't worry about deleting the thread!

Made me laugh about your partner wanting to swap. My ex used to say that when I was on maternity leave (and it wasn't even lockdown). But after we split up and he started parenting alone a couple of times a week, he soon changed his tune and apologised for not understanding how hard and boring it was for me!