Haven't been out of my pjs since Xmas ...anyone else ?

[rainsnownblow]

Aibu not to bother getting dressed?
Work from home.
Order food shop online.
Has anyone else lost all motivation for actual real life clothes?
Wardrobe full of nice outfits and I just put clean pjs on

Gosh, my mental health took a dive last week because I'd not gone for a walk for 4 days, I'd definitely be on my knees if I'd not done anything since Xmas.

Being out in nature feeds my soul, there is scientific proof it's good for mental health. At this time of year, probably not so much natural vit D to be had, but some fresh air makes all the difference. Also, meeting another person and having someone different to talk to is excellent.

Why not try to take the dog out for 10 mins over lunch? Once you're out, you may decide to extend the time, but 10 mins isn't much to ask is it?

And I'd be so cold if I wore my PJs all day lol. I'm in full on thermals and cashmere jumpers.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

I couldn’t do it. Unless I was ill. Have you not been outside? Why?

This. I don't feel human until I've had a shower and got dressed. I get a bit fed up with wearing dog walking clothes on all the time so I sometimes wear a dress for no particular reason. I've been retired for 6 years, though, so I'm used to not getting up for work.

I wear quite scruffy clothes that I wouldn't go out in. But not pyjamas all day. I'd be too cold. And I wouldn't feel clean. Going to bed in same clothes I'd been wearing all day.

That’s me .

I want to buy new clothes, but what’s the point? I only go out for a trot round the park every so often or to Asda.

No, I get up and get dressed every day as if I were going into the office. It’s good for your mental health.

@CaptainMyCaptain yes- although I am going out to work every day as I did before- but even the weekends still involve putting on something nice, a dress I’d have worn out for dinner in the ‘before’ perhaps, make up and hair washed etc. DH wouldn’t slob about either- we still want to make the effort for each other.

I'm fortunate enough to have good mental health but I would certainly feel very down and completely sluggish if I didn't get dressed and go out every day.

I wear unexciting clothes, but I get up at 7:30 every day to walk the dog (in clothes that'll get mud splattered) then change into a comfy jersey dress and tights and uggs. So I'm comfy but also dressed

Then at 8pm I put my PJs and fleecy robe on.

I feel anxiety and depression lurking in the shadows trying to get me, so having these routines really help me break the day into bite sized parts.

And the Robe and PJs mark my relaxation time, and then I watch Netflix and enjoy doing noting

If my day was a whole big day of the same, it would be harder for me

This morning I felt a panic attack rising, but going through the motions of getting up at the same time as always, walking the dog for an hour, seeing a few friendly faces on the way really helped me.

You need to figure out what works best for you

FWIW I think many humans thrive on a routine, with clear demarcation of work/relaxation and fresh air every day

That would seriously damage my mental health and thrown me into depression.

I relax and appreciate my pjs a lot more when I put them on after my evening shower and it's the signal to chill at home.

None of my day clothes are uncomfortable, I feel better, look better and it's a lot more practical to get dressed in the morning. I also try to exercise outside once a day (plus I have kids who also need to be taken outside at least once a day too!)

Life is shit enough as it is, no need for me to make it 10 times worst and not making the most of what's left to do outside! If you ever have been injured or really sick, or in a genuine lockdown or isolation, the last thing you want is doing it again unless there's strictly no other choice.

Even in hospital I tried to get dressed in the day if I was physically able to do so

Hi Op
Don't worry with all these Lokedowns and this time of year/ and the effect on our emotional health its having and obviously the uncertainly out of kilter(balance feeling
its hardly surprising that some or a lot of us have gone back to nature really
I mean like the animal kingdom way of going into hibernation etc
And people feeling Lethargic and Listless feeling.

I know with everything its a struggle a challenge to be motivated
But with these vaccines being rolled out,there is glimmer of light at a seemly looong tunnel,
Look at motivating yourself or just making yourself feel better by being Curious at exploring stuff you are interested in doing such as the internet learning a new hobbies such as YouTube
Or doing a online courses/workshops such as Arts/Crafts ,learning a new languages etc,
Also there is exercise sessions on Internet, zoom YouTube such as yoga /mediation a lot of Leisure centres have their exercise sessions online these days like that...

I definitely relate to this thread feeling wanting to stay in PJs 😀
I think its a normal these days feeling like this way,😕

I feel the same about normal clothes. I basically only wear pyjamas, my work uniform or my running gear. I miss choosing an outfit! I do think you need to get out for some exercise though. Will help your physical and mental health and will give you an excuse to put some clothes on n!

I think having a dog should be a huge motivator, really, don’t you miss walking him? You took that responsibility on, when you decided to have a dog. It’s not fair to rely on someone else to do it every day. If the dog can’t even motivate you to whizz him round the block, and you haven’t been told to shield or anything, I’d be concerned there was quite a mental health problem you need to address.

I get dressed 5 days out of 7 (workdays), have a shower, do hair, put on more casual but nice clothes, do make-up, spray on perfume. I don't mind the odd PJ day on the weekend but I don't think mentally I would cope well with lounging around the rest of the time, plus I do need to go out to the dentist, the odd pop to the shops, walking with teens/friends occasionally, plus appear on Zoom all the time!

If you feel relaxed in loungewear and like it's not affecting your mood, crack on, but I am the age where I feel a lot better in the mirror if I glance and see myself with an ok outfit and some make-up on in the day, plus I wear perfume as I like the smell!

When it's only about you, it's up to you.

I strongly judge parents who leave their kids in pjs all day and drag them down in their misery. Life is too short to wish away a full year of it, and your child's (whatever age they are) is their only chance to experience it.

Kids only have 1 childhood. Up to us to make it different because of the flipping lockdown, not ruined entirely because we feel lazy and unmotivated.

It's not the same to forget your 34th or 37th year entirely, and try to forget your kids 8th or 12th year. It's so unfair on them, and so damaging.

I think it's important to get dressed every day OP, if just for your mental health and to separate day from night.

It doesn't have to be a lot of effort of picking an "outfit", just chuck on some jeans and a top. At least it's not your PJ's and you'll feel better about yourself.

@rainsnownblow

I have a big garden so just been going in there. Boyfriend takes the dog out. I just feel really flat and it just seems a bit pointless getting dressed. I really feel like I need to start making a effort as this could go on a while. I used to love picking outfits etc but I go nowhere now to see anyone so I just think bleugh

I’m not surprised you feel flat if you’ve never been out of your jamas since Christmas. I’m sure you’d feel much better if you got yourself up, dressed and out with the dog. I understand the not wearing nice clothes, I’m just in gym clothes, but to be sat in jamas all day would depress the hell out of me.

I’ve been living in gym wear (lycra leggings, vest, hoodie) for months. Much more comfortable than pjs IMO which I don’t wear as I prefer a silky chemise for bed.

I can also jump on the xtrainer, go for a walk, to the shop etc without getting changed and I feel more motivated. I hate the feeling of normal clothes now.

Perhaps try to start wearing something like that OP?

My mental health suffers if I don’t get out and walk most days.

Get fresh air, see nature, benefits of daylight/sunlight on my skin. Also meeting people for walks otherwise I’d spiral into depression.

Sounds like you need to get out each day.

No, I get dressed everyday. It makes me feel more productive.

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

When it's only about you, it's up to you.

I strongly judge parents who leave their kids in pjs all day and drag them down in their misery. Life is too short to wish away a full year of it, and your child's (whatever age they are) is their only chance to experience it.

Kids only have 1 childhood. Up to us to make it different because of the flipping lockdown, not ruined entirely because we feel lazy and unmotivated.

It's not the same to forget your 34th or 37th year entirely, and try to forget your kids 8th or 12th year. It's so unfair on them, and so damaging.

I really needed to hear this. I started anti depressants last week because I've allowed myself to drag my children down into a pit with me. I have agoraphobia and mobility issues so getting out was an issue before covid but it is even harder now. I know I need to do better as I'm really, really letting them down .

We are lucky the beach is only 10 mins away so might make an effort to go for a walk down there.
Although it's been so busy as a couple of cafes have opened up down there for takeaway.

Have a shower, get dressed every day and go for a brisk walk. You will feel so much better.

Slobbing around for too long genuinely makes me ill.

@ladypete

Have a shower, get dressed every day and go for a brisk walk. You will feel so much better.

Slobbing around for too long genuinely makes me ill.

So true. It just compounds itself.

I've wfh for years, and I always get dressed and put a basic face on before I start work. And I get out in the fresh air at least once a day it makes you feel so much better.

I'm not really leaving the house but I get dressed even into t shirt and leggings every day for work. Marks the start of the day, even though it's still comfy clothes