Haven't been out of my pjs since Xmas ...anyone else ?

[rainsnownblow]

Aibu not to bother getting dressed?
Work from home.
Order food shop online.
Has anyone else lost all motivation for actual real life clothes?
Wardrobe full of nice outfits and I just put clean pjs on

I'm staying in my pyjamas, and continuing to take my daily vitamin D pill.

I do feel like I’ve bought a whole new “loungewear” / wfh wardrobe! Wearing jeans feels like a big deal/ dressing up.

I wouldn’t want to stay in PJs all day - never mind for weeks - as it’s depressing for me.

Do you rarely have to use VC for your work? I slightly miss 'normal' clothes (they are hardly comfortable though). As you say you love clothes, why not see this as a chance to buy comfortable but still attractive clothes that make you feel good? (They could be weekend wear after Covid)

I've made myself a new 'work uniform' of really nice feeling clothes that I feel good wearing, & are different from my 'scruffs/lounge wear'.

So a few pairs of leggings (navy/dark grey), some really lovely super-soft t-shirts and a couple of nice-looking cosy jumpers. In summer, its thin leggings & a denim shirt over the soft t-shirts. Trainers in winter, sturdy flip flops in summer (the idea is to have shoes that encourage walking around, vs slippers: these are 'clean' shoes that never go outside though). It takes me 2 seconds to pull these over my head, NO IRONING

Bit of makeup (5 mins), tidy hair : am ready for all my calls, plus it just makes me feel better & sets a barrier between workday & my time.

Re the calls - having a VC in the morning motivates me to get ready + start working! Could you start doing a 5-10 min call some days so you have a reason to get ready?

OP said since Xmas so not months and months.
But I think it would help you feel better getting dressed and going out with your boyfriend and dog.

People put so many ridiculous rules on clothes. What's the difference between a pair of pyjamas, and a pair of slouchy trousers or leggings and a loose top? They are pretty much the same thing but oh goodness, don't wear pyjamas all day. "I don't feel human unless I put jeans on" What is that about? Why does what you wear affect how you feel? This is the same ridiculous message the old dinosaur boss types use when insisting everyone must dress up in an uncomfortable suit and shoes or they just aren't any good at their job. It isn't what you wear it is what you do. Going for a jog in your jammas will still feel like you've been for a jog.

OP, the jammas aren't a problem but getting out for a walk, even a short one, once a day will help the mindset. I never was one to go out and about or do any real exercise but over this I do realise the half hour I had to walk for my commute made a difference to how I felt. If I don't get out for a walk, after about 3 days, I really do feel it.

@rainsnownblow

I have a big garden so just been going in there. Boyfriend takes the dog out. I just feel really flat and it just seems a bit pointless getting dressed. I really feel like I need to start making a effort as this could go on a while. I used to love picking outfits etc but I go nowhere now to see anyone so I just think bleugh

I think looking nice would also help your mood & self esteem. I have v occasional days when I don't bother with makeup etc, because I am rushing. Then I end up feeling crap & doing it when I get a break

You can work up to leaving the house :) A lunchtime 20 min stroll is helping me (both mood & weight wise)

For god's sake woman you need to be out properly every day to lift your mood. Pull on some clothes and boots and go for a walk - a hat as well if you're worried about the grey hair. This isn't good for anyone and there's a reason daily exercise is permitted.

@tillyandmilly

I go out for a half hour walk and then put on my pjs again can’t stand wearing uncomfortable clothes indoors!

Why do any of you buy 'uncomfortable' clothes in the first place ?

I swear there’ll be a huge influx of people presenting with agoraphobia when this is over.

Right OP, I challenge you to put on your cheeriest, but comfy top and whatever you want to wear on the bottom half. Pop a coat on and take the dog out. This challenge MUST be completed by 6pm today. Let me know how you do

I'm mostly restricted to my house anyway. I wear black leggings and a top. I don't bother with make-up but do shower twice a day.

I think everyone has got used to wearing whatever they feel comfortable in at home! If you're washing regularly then who cares?

I mean if you feel better in normal clothes then maybe get dressed but it really doesn't matter!

OP, are you feeling ok in yourself? Even on days I'm working I've got some exercise and fresh air in, if only walking a longer way home. You mentioned your boyfriend takes the dog for a walk, don't you fancy going with him, maybe exploring some different routes?

And agree with @toconclude what is it about your everyday clothes that are in uncomfortable?! Surely you weren’t previously spending all day at work/on the train/out for dinner/in the cinema thinking ‘shit my clothes are so uncomfortable, I wish I was wearing my M&S pjs!’

No video or zoom calls just my voice thankfully.
I think lazing around is making me feel tired all the time.
I have zero energy lately
I'm off from Thursday so I think il paint my nails/tan etc and go to Tesco Friday.
I need a few bits that they substituted so that can be my aim.

Yeah that's not really healthy OP. Get dressed (nothing fancy, jeans/leggings and a jumper). Go out for a walk, buy yourself a takeaway coffee. Honestly, you'll feel lots better for it.

I love a good PJ lounge and often work in mine. But I think you do need to get dressed and try to get a walk in. I try to get some leggings and a jumper on each day and walk for half an hour, even if its in the drizzle. I do feel a bit more mentally alert once I get home. I mean, the last thing I want right now is to trudge round our local park in the rain but I'm going to force myself.

For your own mental health, get dressed. Spending nearly a month in PJs and not going outside no wonder your depressed.

That's nearly 3 weeks, OP which isn't good

Fair enough a lot of us are wearing lounge wear (hell, I'm in gym leggings 5 days a week) but I'll wear something different every day and always do my hair and make up. At weekends I'll raid my wardrobe and put on a nice outfit just for staying in having drinks with DH

It probably makes a difference if you're working or not, I'm on Teams meetings all day so can't get away with not being dressed. Everyone has their cameras on so although we might be more casual than in the office, we all have a purpose to get up and out of PJs in the morning.

Make the effort - you'll feel so much better!

Longtime wfh even pre-Covid.

YABU, PJs all day is the road to insanity. Plus too many home deliveries, I would feel ashamed.

As a single parent wfh I do find it hard to work up the motivation to get fully dressed...when going out I tend to wear stuff like leggings and Uggs and jumpers with a coat on top - even jeans feel like too much effort!

I feel so much better when I get fully dressed and do my hair and makeup but it's hard when you're really busy and not seeing anyone so think 'what's the point'.

Has your boyfriend not been concerned about you?

I have worked form home for years.

Every single day, even at weekends, I get up and get dressed.

I walk our dog about half the time, so that helps, but also, I find sitting round in pjs all day depressing.

I was just thinking this morning about how strange it was to hear posts of people working from bed and wearing pjs all day. For those of us who wfh all the time, I suppose it isn't so strange.

One key thing though, my wardrobe reflects working from home. Comfy stretch jeans and half smart tops for when I am on a video call. Much easier than if my wardrobe was full of smart work clothes.

I get dressed every morning but it’s just leggings, jumper and fluffy socks most days. I’ll put a bit of makeup on too so I don’t feel like such a zombie.
I go out every day to the post office (for my business) but other than that I haven’t been going out as get my groceries delivered and I hate going for walks in the cold. I’ve been doing home workouts on YouTube though to keep my step count up a bit. As soon as the weather gets to 10 degrees or so I’ll be going out for a walk every day as that’s a bit less unbearable

what is it about your everyday clothes that are in uncomfortable

Erm..., they dig into my lockdown fat and make it hard to breathe.

Don't be too hard on yourself OP. We are al doing what we can t get through this with our physical, mental and emotional health intact.

I have to get dressed and put my face on most days as I have online meetings. Today, bizzarely, I have none, so I am treating myself to a pyjama day. Haven't even had a shower

I usually only leave the house (other than putting stuff in the bins and staring aimlessly at the garden) once a week to get my click and collect. I totally understand that some people really need to leave their house every day but this has kept me sane throughout and I feel pretty good.

When the weather was better I went for a SD walk with a friend sometimes, but other than that it's just me and the cat all day every day, plus a host of colleagues and clients online. Suits me fine.

If you do feel a bit down, maybe start pushig yourself gently to do just a little bit more and see how that feels?