Partner of 43 plays fortnite

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Ok so I’ve name changed just incase ..

For context , I am 32, DP is 43, he has a 9 year old boy from a previous relationship whom he plays Fortnite with online regularly (every other day or so ) We also have a 4 year old together.

In between playing with his son online , he will carry on playing with other boys online that are also 9 years old or in that age range . He will put his head phones on and talk to them and be on their team etc .

I mean I don’t have a problem with it at all, but from another parents prospective - would you have a problem if your DS/DD was online playing fortnite with a 42 year old stranger and talking to them through a microphone ?

My DP LOVES his PlayStation and video gaming.

@Givemeabreak88

But even talking to 12 year olds is weird so doesn’t really matter if they are 9 or 12 both still weird!

They are doing a social activity that involves talking. If the 9/12 year old talks to you, you assume that they/their parents are ok with them talking to randoms, and you talk back. You don't get to specify who you play with. If you play online you play with whichever people you get put with.

It's no different from doing any other shared hobby. My DS used to go to karate (from age 7). His group was a mixture of children and adults and they all talked to each other. No one thought the adults were were weird because they talked to the children.

The correct comparison would be if you invited your neighbours 12 year old round to play with you in the garden while your kids weren’t there, which yes would be weird!

@Givemeabreak88

The correct comparison would be if you invited your neighbours 12 year old round to play with you in the garden while your kids weren’t there, which yes would be weird!

Christ you missed the point pretty fucking badly, didn't you?

Playing with children you don’t know online IS creepy, however you dress it up.

@Givemeabreak88

Playing with children you don’t know online IS creepy, however you dress it up.

The issue is with the shit parents allowing their kids to play games whilst being underaged. The adults playing have no way to control who they get paired up with.

Glad we cleared that up.

just for the people that don't understand, some players wear headsets so the can chat. When you play on teams you are matched with people you don't know and you have to work together to be the last team standing. It is a lot easier if you can chat to one another and give directions of what to do or where to go. Of course you can still play successfully without chatting to one another but its quite fun having that option.

I don't think there is anything wrong with him using his headset. Just because the game is predominantly played by kids, it doesn't mean that adults can't enjoy it. We have the PS4 in our living room so we can keep tabs on things if the kids are chatting to people. That is my responsibility as a parent as it is of any parent letting their kids play such a game.
Have you tried playing it? I have had loads of fun with the kids playing it since lockdown. Its quite a fun game.

Playing with 12 year olds is still creepy

hahahahahahahahaha

To add on from what another user said it won’t be the same kids / people every time . When a new game starts you just get paired with a team normally about 5/6 people as I recall .

If he’s actually adding people as friends which is a feature (EG my kids are friends on fortnite with a few of there friends so they can create there own team to play together / against each other ) then yes this would be weird if he has done this with children .

Fortnite is meant to be 12plus but I do find that a lot of younger kids play .

It’s not so much full on conversations just kids screeching and arguing tbh , I don’t actually wear a headset but you can hear them through the tv but as I say once I figured it out I just play solo as A. It’s annoying a load of kids arguing and B. I just find it a bit weird to be listening to random kids I don’t know talking

It's not that it's creepy - it's that your DH is a dick. He needs to find friends his own age to play with.

I think these days it's fairly normal for 40 year olds to be gamer's.

Though not sure if fortnight is more orientated towards kid's.

I admit I don't fully know how these things work, but I thought there were more adult games.

@Givemeabreak88

Playing with children you don’t know online IS creepy, however you dress it up.

Deliberately choosing to play a game because you'll play with children is creepy.

Playing a game that is popular among both adults and children where you are randomly assigned team mates, which means that sometimes they might be children, is not creepy.

Again, the onus is on parents not to put their children in these situations. Fortnite has a 12 certificate, so younger children should not even be playing it! And young children/early teens should not be playing online with strangers unsupervised and should have chat turned off. It's not an adult's fault that a child's parent is neglectful.

@Givemeabreak88

Playing with 12 year olds is still creepy

What you seem to keep missing is that you don't know or get to choose how old the people you are playing with are. Or where they are in the world, or whatever. The game matches people up at random.

Unless you are specifically friending children to play with which yes, I would agree, is problematic.

But otherwise? Nope.

Fortnite is aimed at children, they sell children’s toys, my point is the child being 12 is no less creepy than talking to a 9 year old both are equally creepy, it’s not “less” creepy once a child reaches 12

Fortnite is a great game.

I’m impressed that some people think he is capable of over riding the entire game to enable him to not only choose who to play with, but also find out how old they are.

Calling someone creepy for playing fortnite is the same as calling someone creepy for joining a facebook group that has some members under 18.

@Givemeabreak88 Games with an 18+ rating have toys associated with them, is me playing those creepy as well?

@Givemeabreak88

Fortnite is aimed at children, they sell children’s toys, my point is the child being 12 is no less creepy than talking to a 9 year old both are equally creepy, it’s not “less” creepy once a child reaches 12

Star wars has toys associated with it. Movies, video games etc can be enjoyed by both children and adults. Blimey.

@Givemeabreak88

Fortnite is aimed at children, they sell children’s toys, my point is the child being 12 is no less creepy than talking to a 9 year old both are equally creepy, it’s not “less” creepy once a child reaches 12

Most games have toys for merchandise now. Because parents let their kids play games not suitable for them essentially, and some adults like collecting stuff like that. Maybe you should get annoyed at the 'parents' letting their young kids play grand theft auto than adults playing a game for every age.

I don’t see a problem with an adult playing it, it’s speaking to children I find creepy so not the same as watching a movie...

@Givemeabreak88

I don’t see a problem with an adult playing it, it’s speaking to children I find creepy so not the same as watching a movie...

Funnily enough you aren’t told anything about the people you are automatically allocated to apart from their username. There are some aspects you essentially can’t do if you don’t talk to your team.

I wouldn't like it. I've recently found out and had to deal with the fact that my 12 year old son was having an online "relationship" and being coerced into sending pictures and having highly explicit chat to what he thought was a teenage girl but who I now believe was an adult on a gaming site, so I am now very strict on what he does online
and for the time being am not allowing him to talk to strangers let alone adults. I'm not suggesting for a minute your DH would do this, but it may raise concerns with other parents and put him in a difficult position.

@MrsHugsxx

I wouldn't like it. I've recently found out and had to deal with the fact that my 12 year old son was having an online "relationship" and being coerced into sending pictures and having highly explicit chat to what he thought was a teenage girl but who I now believe was an adult on a gaming site, so I am now very strict on what he does online and for the time being am not allowing him to talk to strangers let alone adults. I'm not suggesting for a minute your DH would do this, but it may raise concerns with other parents and put him in a difficult position.

All parents should make sure their 12 year olds do not talk to strangers online. The onus is not on adults innocently using an online game to make sure they are not talking to 12 year olds. And to be perfectly honest, if you are a 12 year old on an online gaming platform, you shouldn't be advertising that fact!

@Givemeabreak88

Fortnite is aimed at children, they sell children’s toys, my point is the child being 12 is no less creepy than talking to a 9 year old both are equally creepy, it’s not “less” creepy once a child reaches 12

You used to be able to buy Terminator toys.

That was an 18.

You point?

I would agree but this was an app used widely by children and teenagers, to talk about Minecraft and Fortnite. Whoever it was had gone on there specifically to talk things of a sexual nature to young boys. I know it is partly my fault for allowing this to happen but you can't control everything an older child does online. His phone got regularly checked but I didn't know what this app was, until he got a notification through while I was checking his phone. I've become a lot more aware and will ensure this will never happen again.

@Givemeabreak88

I don’t see a problem with an adult playing it, it’s speaking to children I find creepy so not the same as watching a movie...

But you don't know who you are going to get in a game. It could be anyone. As long as adults aren't asking kids inappropriate questions like their age, name, etc what's the problem?

I play online games and I'm in my 70s.

About sixteen years ago I started chatting to a player, we had similar humour and got on well so became 'friends' in the game. As we were chatting it transpired discovered that he was 14 and lived in Russia and I was in my 60s in the UK. We both thought it funny that we got on with such an age disparity but just carried on enjoying playing.

Since then, he moved to Australia to live with Grandparents, I helped him with his schoolwork if he got stuck on the language, as he got older I was his agony aunt when he was having girlfriend trouble, I checked all his essays for grammar etc while he was at university and he is now working as a social worker, just been promoted in fact. We talk on Skype most days, he calls me the old hag and he has become a good friend.

I've made friends of all ages on line from 14 to 50, and see no problem with your DH playing and chatting to other players, regardless of their age.