It's only a bottle of wine...?

[homeschoollegend]

A friend of mine sent me a nice bottle of wine as a Christmas gift. I put it in the fridge at Christmas, but haven't fancied drinking it yet.

My OH stayed up late last night and I've just noticed that the bottle (it's quite an unusual shape, so distinctive) is in the recycling, empty. I'm pissed off that he's opened it without asking me if he can have some and that he drank the whole bottle so I couldn't even try it. He's still asleep so I haven't talked to him yet.

YABU- it's only a bottle of wine, get over yourself, woman.

YANBU- he's a selfish arse and needs to make amends.

@homeschoollegend

Well... he's admitted that he knew it was a gift but that he had run out of wine last night and it was the only wine we had in the house. He's tried to reason that I don't drink much, so what's the point in just keeping it around.

I also said that I am upset that he didn't even leave me a glass to taste, but drank the whole thing. He made no offer to replace it, but I sent him the damn link anyway and told him he needs to buy me another one.

Does he have a problem with alcohol generally?

Couldn't get wound up about it. I'd just tell him to get me another bottle. I drink dps rum all the time.

If he didn't know it was a gift I would have said YAB, however from your updates he clearly did so I think it's thoughtless of him and YANBU. And he should have offered to replace when you brought it up.

@SleepingStandingUp, I didn't really think so, though I have noticed that he's been drinking more. I assumed that was fairly normal, what with Covid and the lockdowns etc.

Some of the comments on here are making me wonder if there's more to it than just someone liking a drink. I'm trying to remember if there was some red wine left yesterday, which would mean he drank my bottle, plus some of his usual red, but don't actually know.

@homeschoollegend exactly, you should think about it - a whole bloody bottle glug glug glug and then he comes belching and farting to bed til midday

exactly, you should think about it - a whole bloody bottle glug glug glug and then he comes belching and farting to bed til midday

Eh?!

@homeschoollegend

I think some people are drinking more due to boredom/not having to be up so early/drive to work etc. I don't drink much anyway, but I've drink less, just don't fancy it at the moment.

However your OH sounds like he has a problem. He drank what he knew was YOUR gift, because there was nothing else in the house. That's problem drinking.

That aside it's selfish behaviour - it's YOUR gift, not his. Whatever it is, it's YOURS. it's yours to decide when to drink, how long to keep it, whether to share it.

YOURS not the selfish test with a drink problem.

Test? Damn phone TWAT.

@livefornaps

You're strangely obsessed with glug glug glug & farting. Very odd

[quote livefornaps]@homeschoollegend exactly, you should think about it - a whole bloody bottle glug glug glug and then he comes belching and farting to bed til midday[/quote]
Are you the DH on the wine again

@Wheresmykimchi shit: busted

[quote livefornaps]@Wheresmykimchi shit: busted [/quote]

@homeschoollegend one bottle over a night, easy. Staying up late and then once the wife has gone to bed necking a whole bottle....

This is the sort of conversation I would need to have with my teens, not my DH. It would piss me off. You don’t help yourself to other people’s presents!

That was a lot to be drinking late at night of wine that he knew wasn't his. It sounds like he has weak control ovet his drinking.

I could easily drink a bottle & a half of wine if I'd nowhere to go the next day. And it easily becomes habitual.

I wouldn't drink someone else's gift though. I'd be asking him if he'd ordered another bottle yet as you'd like to try it at the weekend.

What time did you go to bed op? Any idea what time he went?

I agree it's easy to do that much wine, but if he's starting to drink at say 11.30 after op has gone to bed and has sunk that much by say 2 am that's a whole different game imo

@SleepingStandingUp, I went at 10ish and woke for a wee at around 2, but he wasn’t in bed. He normally stays up until 3.30ish, which would be his usual bedtime when he’s working.

5 hours whilst he's doing something else would seem more reasonable I guess, if he started at 7 and finished at midnight no one would judge a bottle.

But he Def needs to replace it

YANBU. That's fucking rude.

Ok so 5.5 isn't so fast, its a whole evning albeit at a funny time. But its still a lot if that's every night ~~60 units a week at least ie 4x the recommended amount. Did he think your friend had given it to both if you? Dtil inexcusable not to share. The only time this has happened to me eas with an alcoholic flat mate + and he did have the decency to apologise.

I voted UABU because....wine in the fridge is fair game. But, a special bottle tucked in the back if a cupboard should be left alone.

Wine put in the fridge is being chilled to be drunk soon - you did that 3 weeks ago and still haven't opened it.....that would indicate to me you aren't that bothered by it.

But whatever I think - it has upset you so please ask him to replace it.

It doesn't matter if it was in the fridge or not. It wasn't his.

I don't think helping yourself to a bottle of rose and drinking it indicates problem drinker.
It might indicate fed up person.

He needs to replace it

@Mumdiva99

I voted UABU because....wine in the fridge is fair game. But, a special bottle tucked in the back if a cupboard should be left alone.

Wine put in the fridge is being chilled to be drunk soon - you did that 3 weeks ago and still haven't opened it.....that would indicate to me you aren't that bothered by it.

But whatever I think - it has upset you so please ask him to replace it.

Why should op have to hide her own things unless she wants other people to use them? Are you the kind of person who thinks chocolate brought for 🎁 really means communal chocolate you can eat if you want it?