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To not get my baby tested for covid?

169 replies

cactusdog · 17/01/2021 20:07

I feel maybe I am being unreasonable?

Circs are; baby is 10 months old. He's had a fever for two days, gone today. He has also been teething. He was up in the night, sad, clingy etc and I think he maybe had a sore throat, off his food.

Today his temp is gone and he seems to be getting back to himself.

DD is in nursery and due to go tomorrow. I didn't even think until earlier. Should we get baby tested?

No one else has any symptoms so I assumed it was just one of those fevers babies get.
However DH and I have had a massive argument as he wanted to get him tested ASAP and I didn't think it was necessary. He says it's the right thing to do and Dd shouldn't go to nursery until it's done. I am exhausted form being up with baby and got emotional at the idea of him going through the test, crying in the car (I know, I know he'd be fine) when he's just feeling better.
Would you have got the test? We have now had a massive row and I feel like a shot person and mother like everything I do is always wrong

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MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 17/01/2021 20:10

I personally would have got the test. We have had to test our baby twice. Once at 6 months and again at 7 months. She needed an ambulance sent out the first time she was ill and it was helpful to be able to show her negative covid test results.
Both times she was negative but I'd still test if she got a temperature again. She managed the test well too.

welshweasel · 17/01/2021 20:10

Of course you should get him tested. FFS we are almost a year into this pandemic and people are still asking the same questions. You can’t send your DD to nursery tomorrow. You all need to stay home and isolate and get the baby tested.

wanderlove · 17/01/2021 20:11

It sounds like you are stressed and over tired so I can see you are struggling but in all honesty you should get your baby a test. You are right it is probably teething/baby fever and the test will be negative but you need to know 100% before you send him in, in the very unlikely scenario it was COVID you could spread it to other families as could your daughter. You all need to isolate while you wait for the result. I had exactly the same with our baby this week; the test was negative which I knew it would be but you just have to check.

Lougle · 17/01/2021 20:11

I think, unfortunately, you need to get a test. This isn't the time to dismiss a fever because she's teething.

GreenSlide · 17/01/2021 20:12

I think the nursery won't take them until they've been clear of a fever for 48 hours even with a negative test. It is a very shit time to be a mum Thanks

sowiahaksnl · 17/01/2021 20:12

Yes you should get him tested 🤦‍♀️

Original poster
cactusdog · 17/01/2021 20:13

Thanks @wanderlove . Was the test ok on your baby?
I know it's not covid, we haven't been anywhere the only place he could have got it from is from sibling at nursery which means they already have it!
It's like people think every other illness in the world has disappeared and everything is covid no matter how unlikely it actually is

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Smurf123 · 17/01/2021 20:14

Yes to the test. If you choose not to get the test then you, your dh and dd cannot leave the house and must self isolate for 10 days otherwise. If not you could be contributing to the spread of covid 19. I got one would like us to get out of this pandemic ASAP and as a teacher already in the clinically vulnerable category and with my dm (in her early 50s) in the extremely clinically vulnerable category would be incredibly annoyed if I had your daughter in nursery and found out she was in a households with a symptomatic person as this could potentially lead to me catching it and being seriously ill as opposed to the mild illness someone else might have. Baby temp or not you cannot be 100% sure it is not covid.

Scottishskifun · 17/01/2021 20:14

I completely understand that you're tired and it's most likely a teething temp but you can't send your DD to nursery without testing your son.

In the slim chance that it is covid you risk many other families if you do send your DD. It is quick you can get an early appointment and test results should be back in 24 hours.

Hangingtrousers · 17/01/2021 20:14

You 100% need him tested. She can't go to nursery unless she has a negative result.
I tested my baby before for a temp and it's not nice but you only be have to do the nose not tonsils on a baby and it's over fast. Book now for the morning.

yuyubooboo · 17/01/2021 20:15

No. With current rates it's covid until proven otherwise. You isolate from now. Please don't be silly, get a swab and don't send your daughter to nursery unless it's negative.

VimFuego101 · 17/01/2021 20:16

You need to either do the test or isolate all of you for whatever length of time you would need to if the test was positive.

Wowjustwow99 · 17/01/2021 20:18

I agree with every other reply, you need to get your baby tested. We've has our 11 month old tested twice, both times the doctors said they would be very surprised if she had covid but as she has a fever ( she had tonsillitis and a chest infection) she needs a test and this was normal procedure at the moment just to be safe. The tests were negative both times.

imalmosthere · 17/01/2021 20:19

Yes you get them tested. Shouldn't even be a question.

Cinderellashoes · 17/01/2021 20:20

Of course you must not send to nursery and you must get a test?!

I don’t understand why you’d think otherwise. What if your child has it, passes it onto another and it spreads like wild fire? You aren’t being fair. I know it’s a hard time for us all but you need to do your part. If everyone was more responsible I truly believe we’d be in a better place.

tubbycustardtummyache · 17/01/2021 20:21

It is mind boggling that people even need to question this still
I’m frontline NHS. All I’ve heard at work this week is ‘oh it’s just a fever but caused by xyz not covid so I didn’t isolate’, or ‘oh it’s just a cough so no, I’ve not isolated since my symptoms started a week ago’. Meanwhile we are completely surrounded by very sick people with covid. It is infuriating.
It’s similar to the people who send their children to nursery with norovirus but the stakes are much higher sadly

SquishySquirmy · 17/01/2021 20:21

I think you have to get her tested. Or assume she has it, and the whole house isolate (properly!) for 2 weeks.

Dont send her to nursery. It hopefully isn't Covid, but if it is then please think about the consequences of sending her in. The staff looking after have no PPE and they need to get very close to her in order to care for her properly. You trust those people with your baby girl... and they trust you to be honest and not make them look after a potentially infectious child.
What if she infects them? What if they become seriously ill, or one of their household members become seriously I'll? What if you infect another family at the nursery? You could make one of those little babies motherless or fatherless, or cause someone long lasting ill health.

Please dont do it.

It hopefully isn't Covid, but it is not worth the risk.

(And yes, very young children CAN spread Covid - I know of families where the toddler caught it from nursery and passed it to siblings, parents etc).

starrynight19 · 17/01/2021 20:22

Your dh is right , sorry it’s so hard on mums right now but it’s the best thing to do.

CheshireCats · 17/01/2021 20:22

Baby needs a test

Badgerstmary · 17/01/2021 20:22

As a nursery worker please get your baby tested.

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 17/01/2021 20:23

You're right it's a very small chance its covid. But you still have to get a test. If your nursery child had it, chances are they would be asymptomatic anyway so they could easily have passed it to the baby without you being aware. Why would you risk passing on something that could kill other people, even if it's a small chance. I'm sorry but crying in a car for a while and the discomfort of a test is nothing compared to others catching it and being on a ventilator etc. Weve had to get my toddler tested a number of times

Seventytwo · 17/01/2021 20:23

YABVU. You can’t “know” it’s not covid without a test. Your DH is right - the rules are very simple.

Jesus wept. Sorry OP, but really 🙄

MostlyAmbridgeandcoffee · 17/01/2021 20:24

Yes of course you should get baby tested and you should not take your kid to nursery until the test is clear otherwise you may be unwittingly endangering other people.

cherrypie111 · 17/01/2021 20:24

Of course you should get them tested. Jesus Christ are you seriously planning to take your possibly covid infected baby into a nursery setting? Risking everyone else there.

StacySoloman · 17/01/2021 20:24

@cactusdog

Thanks *@wanderlove* . Was the test ok on your baby? I know it's not covid, we haven't been anywhere the only place he could have got it from is from sibling at nursery which means they already have it! It's like people think every other illness in the world has disappeared and everything is covid no matter how unlikely it actually is
Surely it's just as likely to be Covid as anything else? He's picked it up from somewhere!

You don't have to get him tested, but your whole family will have to stay at home for 10 days if you don't.

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