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To not get my baby tested for covid?

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cactusdog · 17/01/2021 20:07

I feel maybe I am being unreasonable?

Circs are; baby is 10 months old. He's had a fever for two days, gone today. He has also been teething. He was up in the night, sad, clingy etc and I think he maybe had a sore throat, off his food.

Today his temp is gone and he seems to be getting back to himself.

DD is in nursery and due to go tomorrow. I didn't even think until earlier. Should we get baby tested?

No one else has any symptoms so I assumed it was just one of those fevers babies get.
However DH and I have had a massive argument as he wanted to get him tested ASAP and I didn't think it was necessary. He says it's the right thing to do and Dd shouldn't go to nursery until it's done. I am exhausted form being up with baby and got emotional at the idea of him going through the test, crying in the car (I know, I know he'd be fine) when he's just feeling better.
Would you have got the test? We have now had a massive row and I feel like a shot person and mother like everything I do is always wrong

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cactusdog · 17/01/2021 21:44

Thank you @Camomila this has helped to read.
I hope mine will be the same. Trying to put it into perspective for myself

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Decemberdaily · 17/01/2021 21:44

@cactusdog sleep deprivation is the worst, no one thinks clearly when they are exhausted Brew hopefully test results will come back for you!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 17/01/2021 21:45

@cactusdog

Ok ok I get it! I've booked for a test tomorrow.

I feel like the whole world has lost its mind!
No one else has any symptoms, the baby no longer has a temp and the baby is not the one going to nursery.

Thank you to the supportive comments.

🙄 God its like banging your head off a brick wall!
Decemberdaily · 17/01/2021 21:48

Also to add I have tested my (now 17 month old) 3 times, with temp so far since September, she was only a couple months older than your baby. She hated it when I did it but no worse than when she had her vaccines and within a few mins (besides for glaring at the poor testing staff!) she was completely calm and over it. Babies don't like being pinned down that's all.
Oh and she was negative every time.
I will say she recognised what I was going the second and third tests and was upset before I did it, but like I said, she was over it so quick.

Toomanycats99 · 17/01/2021 21:48

Advice came out from my daughters childminder this week that if they have a fever regardless of whether you thinks it's xyz you have to get them tested before they come back.

Carysmatthews · 17/01/2021 21:48

@Cinderellashoes

Of course you must not send to nursery and you must get a test?!

I don’t understand why you’d think otherwise. What if your child has it, passes it onto another and it spreads like wild fire? You aren’t being fair. I know it’s a hard time for us all but you need to do your part. If everyone was more responsible I truly believe we’d be in a better place.

This.
whippettiger · 17/01/2021 21:49

We have concluded that we won’t get our young child tested, because I found it uncomfortable enough doing it to myself. But of course we would self isolate and test ourselves as soon as we got symptoms.

You wouldn’t be unreasonable to decide not to test the baby but you would be extremely unreasonable to consider going to nursery tomorrow.

supersonicginandtonic · 17/01/2021 21:51

All you people saying teething doesn't cause fever? Why have every single one of my children had a slight temperature every time they got a tooth. I have 5 of them!

Indecisive12 · 17/01/2021 21:51

Nurseries are a bit of a hot spot for Covid at the moment in some places. Also just to add I was the only one with symptoms in my house when I had Covid. Yes it’s a pain to isolate but you must test every time.

Indecisive12 · 17/01/2021 21:51

And isolate.

SunshineCake · 17/01/2021 21:52

You do understand that the baby and toddler could both have it. Toddler could be asymptomatic and you think it is okay to send the toddler to nursery ?

supersonicginandtonic · 17/01/2021 21:58

@Indecisive12 you don't have to test, you can choose to isolate instead.

Sweettea1 · 17/01/2021 21:58

2 choices get him tested or isolate for 10days. Do not send your daughter to nursery untill test or 10 days over it is not fair on the staff and why the virus keeps spreading.

HazeyJaneII · 17/01/2021 22:01

@supersonicginandtonic

All you people saying teething doesn't cause fever? Why have every single one of my children had a slight temperature every time they got a tooth. I have 5 of them!
It doesn't really matter whether it does or not - if the baby has a fever, it could be due to Covid and so they all need to self isolate until the baby tests negative or 10 days are up.
AldiAisleofCrap · 17/01/2021 22:02

@cactusdog why is your daughter in nursery if you are at home looking after the baby? It’s an added unnecessary risk to staff, the other children and their families.

HazeyJaneII · 17/01/2021 22:06

Oh and ALL of you have to self isolate until results are through.

AliceMcK · 17/01/2021 22:07

It’s not that people think other illnesses have disappeared it’s that we can’t take the risk of spreading COVID even if you think your child has not got it. As you say your DD goes to nursery they could have come in contact with someone a-symptomatic, your DD could be a-symptomatic, I’m sure someone in your house has left for shopping or deliveries have come into the house, so he certainly could have been exposed.

There are currently a family who are isolating from my DCs school, mum and dad have it, 1 of 3 kids has it with no symptoms, other 2 are clear. Everyone presents differently.

Surely you must know this.

I had to test my DD last week. I was certain it wasn’t COVID but she had a fever so we isolated and got her tested. It’s just something we have to do right now to do our bit.

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cactusdog · 17/01/2021 22:13

@AldiAisleofCrap nurseries are open

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Shetoshe · 17/01/2021 22:16

If it were me I would isolate but not test the baby. The test is pretty grim, unless the tester who did mine was particularly rough handed?! Which I don't think is the case as my husband and my friends who had it/had their DC tested, said the same. There's no way I'd put either of my DC through it unless they had to. However there's no way I'd send anyone to nursery! So if staying at home is not an option then you really have no choice.

Doris86 · 17/01/2021 22:16

Yes of course get him tested! Very quick and easy to book an appointment, and you get results very quickly. If negative then you can stop worrying and get on with your life.

You can’t put others at risk based on your assumption that it’s not Covid.

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/01/2021 22:18

As all have said, get a test and glad you are

But I find it scary but not surprising that people still query this

This is why almost a year later we are still having so many deaths and cases

He Prob will be negative but are you willing to take this risk. To send dd back to nursery and infecting others and making them close

Yes swabbing a baby or toddler isn’t fun but has to be done

Lucieintheskye · 17/01/2021 22:19

Oh do fuck off. You're not the first person in the world to have had a baby. And yes, in any other time the symptoms would be brushed off and your baby would be safe to go to nursery. But in case you hadn't noticed, we're in a pandemic that's getting worse every day, and your dumb fuckery is the type of thing that's making it worse.

Unless your child has no nose, they can get a test.

Indecisive12 · 17/01/2021 22:19

@supersonicginandtonic well yes you could isolate but when the choice is a household isolates for 10 days with no exercise, having to get shopping delivered etc or take baby for a test which is a swab up both nostrils why would you?

BeamerTown · 17/01/2021 22:20

OP I did my 13 month old. Try to have them strapped down (pram/ car seat). Do yours first and show them. They will cry but it will be out of surprise/ confusion rather than pain. It’s over so quickly and mine was smiling the next minute. Bonne chance!

supersonicginandtonic · 17/01/2021 22:21

@Indecisive12 because of how traumatic my baby found it last time. We chose to isolate the second time.

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