To not get my baby tested for covid?

[cactusdog]

I feel maybe I am being unreasonable?

Circs are; baby is 10 months old. He's had a fever for two days, gone today. He has also been teething. He was up in the night, sad, clingy etc and I think he maybe had a sore throat, off his food.

Today his temp is gone and he seems to be getting back to himself.

DD is in nursery and due to go tomorrow. I didn't even think until earlier. Should we get baby tested?

No one else has any symptoms so I assumed it was just one of those fevers babies get.
However DH and I have had a massive argument as he wanted to get him tested ASAP and I didn't think it was necessary. He says it's the right thing to do and Dd shouldn't go to nursery until it's done. I am exhausted form being up with baby and got emotional at the idea of him going through the test, crying in the car (I know, I know he'd be fine) when he's just feeling better.
Would you have got the test? We have now had a massive row and I feel like a shot person and mother like everything I do is always wrong

[quote ZooKeeper19]@Khtchkn what? If your husband had it and you had it then the baby has it. End of. Same scenario with us, we all had it, baby completely asymptomatic (not even fever!). I still tested him 16 days after the 1st of us adults tested positive and surprise surprise - the asymptomatic 1yo tested positive!

Super idiotic to send baby to nursery when all family is positive. Poor nannies, why don't people realise they can get it pass it on and people get ill and cannot go to work in the better case, or die, in the worst case.

Please realise what you are doing.

Agree with @Serin. Really stupid way to do things. Test. Always test. It's freaking free so why would you not test.[/quote]
That's not necessarily true. My daughter had it last March, tested positive and ended up hospitalised with it. Husband and I both tested negative!
My niece recently just had it, my sister and nephew who live in her household both tested negative.
You won't all necessarily have it just because one of you does.

You 100% should get the test but big hugs as I know it can feel anxiety provoking to put baby through it. Had to get my son tested at 4 months old. It might help for you to know that it's only nose swab for babies not nose and throat. It will be much easier if two adults go in car - baby stays strapped in seat, person in back does swab then hands it to person in front to sort it out while person in back soothes baby.

@ZooKeeper19 not true at all. My children were with their dad over Christmas. Their dad and my son aged 11 both tested positive. My daughter aged 13 tested negative twice during that period and never did develop any symptoms.

@Serin how can you live with such a judgemental, nasty attitude towards others.

I'm not nasty, Thanks, just fed up of holding the hands of dying patients, while idiots continue to spread this.

@Serin wow! You are a healthcare professional and you are being so judgemental? That is worrying.
The OP is not stupid. She has booked a test but she did not need too. She has the other option of isolating her family for ten days. This you should be more than aware of.
I hope the service users I work with dont and up being treated by somebody with your attitude.

Oh FFS supersonic, I wasn't speaking to the OP, I was speaking to the poster who took her baby in to nursery despite being told by a doctor that the child likely had Covid. I stand by my judgement, that was an extremely stupid thing to do.

Thank you to everyone who was kind to me, I've concentrated on your comments of support which helped me make the right decision.
Did the drive in test today. Hopefully I did it right (put it far enough up) so will wait for result.

To answer a couple of questions DH is supportive and was during the babies illness although it was mainly me up in the night etc as baby is still breastfed so was trying to comfort him.

I think it was just me feeling overwhelmed and a bit mentally unwell. Have spent my whole maternity in lockdown and my baby hasn't even met most of my family (I know there are worse positions to be in but i can't help feeling upset).

Again, thank you for the kind words.

On a side note, I feel like this pandemic has brought out such horrible, judgemental and aggressive attitudes in people it's the thing that's shocked me the most.
Maybe those people and their attitudes were always there and I've just not noticed before but I can't help feeling this blame game nastiness is related.

I just don't understand how we got to a stage where people are actually blaming others for the spread of a virus!!! Imagine trying to find someone to blame for catching a cold or even the flu, before all this!! And this virus is incredibly contagious, more contagious than either of the above. Also, the vast majority of people are complying with the lockdown etc.

Tbh if it was me in your situation I would just keep other child at home, all self isolate and not do the test. But that depends on if you HAVE to go anywhere, in which case I would do it of course.

I hope he's OK.

You too, it definitely hasn't been the best time to have a baby

But hopefully by spring, things will start to be a bit more relaxed & you'll be able to see people & do stuff

Fingers crossed your all fine and it’s nothing to worry about. I just couldn’t imagine dealing with all the anxiety and worry around having a baby and this on top. I don’t blame you for feeling overwhelmed at all.

Test came back negative thank goodness

Glad the test was negative OP!

You have two choices
Test the baby (which is what I would do)

Or assume it is positive and all of you self isolate for 10 days - so no going to nursery for your daughter, no work for you or DH, no trips to the supermarket and no leaving the house for a walk

Just saw you got the result back and it was negative - great news

TBH in many cases I think everyone is 99% sure it's not covid (because that was always the likelihood in your case) however at the moment we have to assume it is till proven otherwise
A colleague had the test being fairly sure it wasn't covid (had a temperature for an hour and a headache) felt silly booking the test but did so - an hour after her swab, she lost her sense of taste and smell, said that was the first point where she thought it actually might be (it was)

This is why I took my dd out of nursery after five tests in three months (all negative). She's now terrified of the car as we drove her to the test site. Just not worth it.

Feel your pain though, OP. I have a 3yo and a 3 month old. Lockdown has been very hard. Look after yourself x

This time last year no one would have thought twice at a baby having a fever for a couple days. It’s really common for little ones to have a fever. Saying that I probably would get him tested. It’s a tough one op. Other viruses are spreading around too but I guess it’s something that cannot be risked right now.

My son had a cold a while ago, a cold we all had so it was obviouslt the same thing but he always gets a cough from a cold and I knew it was this. We got him tested anyway just because it’s the right thing to do. Sucks.