To not get my baby tested for covid?

[cactusdog]

I feel maybe I am being unreasonable?

Circs are; baby is 10 months old. He's had a fever for two days, gone today. He has also been teething. He was up in the night, sad, clingy etc and I think he maybe had a sore throat, off his food.

Today his temp is gone and he seems to be getting back to himself.

DD is in nursery and due to go tomorrow. I didn't even think until earlier. Should we get baby tested?

No one else has any symptoms so I assumed it was just one of those fevers babies get.
However DH and I have had a massive argument as he wanted to get him tested ASAP and I didn't think it was necessary. He says it's the right thing to do and Dd shouldn't go to nursery until it's done. I am exhausted form being up with baby and got emotional at the idea of him going through the test, crying in the car (I know, I know he'd be fine) when he's just feeling better.
Would you have got the test? We have now had a massive row and I feel like a shot person and mother like everything I do is always wrong

”If you choose not to get the test then you, your dh and dd cannot leave the house and must self isolate for 10 days otherwise. If not you could be contributing to the spread of COVID”

^^
This is the main bit as far as I’m concerned.

Yes you could decide not to get him tested to save him any distress, but you would definitely have to self isolate for the full ten days - all of you. If you get him tested and it’s negative you won’t have to do this. So I’d get a test as I think it’s unfair on his sister to make her miss out on nursery form nearly two weeks just so that he doesn’t have to have a stick up his nose for 10 seconds.

To be fair it’s probably easier on small children as they don’t have the sense of anticipation- I certainly found my younger dc easier to swap than myself and the teen for this reason- done before he knew it, where as we were gagging all over the place.

(Tbh I’d probably get his sister tested even though she has no symptoms as she is the potential “patient zero” of your house. But you’re not supposed to do this.)

There are so many other things that it could be but a test can rule this out and then you’ll be able to comfortably send your DD to nursery knowing that you’re not putting anyone at risk.
I think it’s only the nasal swab that you have to do on them because that’s all I did when I took my son a few months ago.

As others have said, there is no evidence that teething causes a fever. Slightly raised temperature maybe, but not illness.

Teething babies shove everything they can find into their mouths so are quite likely to acquire mild viral and bacterial infections that CAN cause fever and diarrhoea. Which is probably where the belief comes from.

Correlation does not equal causation.

Can see youve booked a test - so hope baby gets on okay!

My DS had to have it at about 4 months old and i was soooo scared of doing the test. But it wasnt too bad at all, he forgot within 5 seconds and carried on with his day!

Good luck and fingers crossed.

I've been banging this drum since I got my positive result the other day, but I would test for anything where you feel off. I didn't have any cv symptoms needed for a test, so I had to lie. I had slight, intermittent scratch in my throat. Little bit sneezy, sore eyes. All synonymous with sitting by a hot radiator all day. But kids were isolating due to case in their bubble, so I went on the off chance.

Thanks so much @BeautyAndTheBump1

I know it's the right thing to do I just got so tired and just didn't think.

I have booked for peace of mind more than anything.

No.
I don't think there is a need for you to consent to pinning your baby down and putting a cotton bud in their orifice at this stage.
It is hugely distressing and unnecessary .
Just keep your child away from others so they do not spread their germs.
Tend to their symptoms.
If your child deteriorates, deal with it accordingly.
A swab test will not solve their problem. Keeping them away from others will reduce spread of anything.

It’s good that you’ve organised it.

Surprised and disappointed that people are still unsure about this though

@B1rthis

That’s fine as long as they all self isolate for 10 days. What would probably happen is baby feels better and they all start going out as usual / back to nursery.

If you dont get him tested its probably safer for the others at nursery to keep him off, I hope your baby is fine but even without symptoms he could pass it on if he has it and others at the nursery will appreciate it f you keep him off for a few days.

OP, my son had a test when when he was 14 months and he didn't even flinch! Please don't worry about it. It is definitely the right thing to do.

sorry missed your other posts OP, right decision I think :)

In case you're unsure of the rest of the testing/si guidance, just to let you know that neither you nor your husband can go to work (nor your daughter to nursery), and you aren't allowed out for things like shopping until you've had your result through (assuming it's negative).

You either get him tested or stay home for the relevant isolation. You can’t just assume he’s teething etc, that’s why we are in this mess as people don’t follow the rules. Your husband is right.

You must get a test for your baby and isolate until you get the results. I work in an early years setting and am terrified of catching this as I'm over 50 and have asthma. You need to think of the safety of the nursery staff as well as that of you and your family.

Don't test, just send her to nursery and spread whatever bug she has to others, whether it's covid or not.

Just isolate as a family as though he does have it if you don't want to get him tested, problem solved. Small children don't generally show symptoms so it probably is just teething, but you will all need to isolate instead.

We as a family all had the same cough back in sept so just me and my husband got tested, I didnt want to make my 3 and 4 year old be tested, but we did all stay home until we got negative results. I can understand not wanting to test a baby, I wouldn't either.

@cactusdog

Thanks *@wanderlove* . Was the test ok on your baby? I know it's not covid, we haven't been anywhere the only place he could have got it from is from sibling at nursery which means they already have it! It's like people think every other illness in the world has disappeared and everything is covid no matter how unlikely it actually is

It doesn't matter if there are still other illnesses, he still should be tested for covid if you want to send your other child to nursery, or you can assume he does have jt and just isolate. Also doesn't matter if its been picked up from the nursery and they already have it, if people keep ignoring symptoms and sending siblings of kids with symptoms, they will never get rid of it will they?

It is hugely distressing and unnecessary

I have tested DS2 (11m) twice, the first time he cried while I was doing it then got distracted by a carrot puff, the second time he smiled all the way through (I was cuddling him).

Babies don't understand enough to be scared, he's been way crosser getting dressed/strapped into the car seat etc.

My ds had a temperature back in august, 9months old. I rang 111 to ask if he needed a test. She asked if he had a cough (no), if anyone else in the house had symptoms (no). So she told me he didn’t need a test and booked us an out of hours gp appointment because he was acting sleepy. We then rang 111 a few hours later as his temp went over 40 and we were sent to a&e. We sat waiting on a&e for 4 hours. At no point was he given a test.
This is why people are confused about what to do. It didn’t suit them to test him as they weren’t readily available at that point.

Hi, I know if super tough but my toddler had a slight new cough this week. He has had worse coughs with colds. Except this week it's a cough and no runny nose. He coughs about 3/4 times a day for about 5 seconds.

He has covid.

We wouldn't even have had him tested but his bubble at nursery had an outbreak last week.

So my point is that I was convinced it wasn't covid but it was so better to be safe and test

@welshweasel

Of course you should get him tested. FFS we are almost a year into this pandemic and people are still asking the same questions. You can’t send your DD to nursery tomorrow. You all need to stay home and isolate and get the baby tested.

Or you treat the baby like they have COVID. Don’t get them tested but all fully fully isolate for the official time period( 10 or 14 days depending on where you are).

I have had to get my now 14 month old tested 4 times in the last 3 months. It’s fine, Swab up the nose, yes he whinged but forgot about it within 3 minutes. You must get the test done. It is not fair on the other children whom your daughter attends with, who may have CEV relatives, or generally anyway. I got my last test result back in 12 hours last week.