To ask nursery to spell DD's name properly!?

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DD is 3 and has a name which is commonly shortened - similar to Catherine being shortened to Katie/Katy.

We use her shortened name so that's not an issue but they keep using the 'ie' spells when we have always used the "y"

I mentioned it to her key worker last week and she said "oh, silly me!" - I noticed the next couple of pictures to come home had her 'full' name written on them. Yesterday she bought a craft home with "Katie" on. AAAAGGGHHH. DD 3 even said " spelt my name wrong again" so I can't imagine that our DD won't also have told them- she can write her name(s) but never the ie spelling!

WIBU to speak to the nursery manager on Monday and ask they use the same shortened version we do or just use her full name!?

(and yes, I know this is a first world problem of the highest order!)

ABSOLUTELY you tell them!
That’s plain ignorance on their part.

Nursery practitioner here
Please tell them
It’s not acceptable
It’s not hard to get children’s names right

YANBU. I have a name like this. I don't think it's that hard for people to use the correct spelling.

Yes, tell them.

Yes do tell them. As someone who has a "y" name and have this too, it probably because for Catherine etc the shortened version is the "ie" and the "y" is a name in its own right but a gentle reminder won't hurt

Can DD ask to write her own name on things?

Tell them. We had similar, it took a few tries with some staff. I can see it could be hard to keep all the names straight, especially if they know a Katie too, but a few reminders will help them get it right.

Yes. Preschool worker here and it is absolutely right to complain. We had one terrible year of an Aimee, Amy, and Amie in the same group but we got them all right.

It may seem to them a stupid spelling for the shortened version of the name, but that's not their place to object. Tell them.

Yanbu. It's really important to get children's names right, and that includes the spelling.

I have an unusually spelled name. I'm an adult so I pay it little mind when people get it wrong, but it's NOT my name.

I can remember feeling like people didn't care enough to remember my name when it was misspelled as a child.

Tell them, similar was happening with my son but with his surname. When his keyworker gave me a report I said “That isn’t MiniSJTs report” she assured me it was, so I said along the lines of “Well it doesn’t have his name on it”.

Never happened again after that, his surname isn’t at all hard to spell either and is even the same name as a popular brand with the same spelling.

I'd probably tell them but if it's a name as short as Katy/Katie, maybe just teach DD over and over until she knows which one is hers?

My DD has a long name that has two variant spellings, one common and one uncommon; I knew perfectly well she was going to go through life saying 'no, the other spelling' so we've just reminded her lots and she knows now.

I mean, it is going to keep happening.

I do see why it's a bit annoying, though.

I am childish and would consider saying to Izzy the nursery nurse, "Thank you, Liz" and on my way out bidding farewell to the receptionist Rachel "Bye Rebecca."

I mean, I wouldn't. But I would put it to the keyworker and anyone else that they would be irritated by a constant error in their name, and you feel the same way. Frame it like that, and they might make more of an effort - which they bloody should anyway, of course, but it's not going in at the moment, clearly.

Failing that, you have my permission to rename the nursery workers by a different name each time you see them. Start with names like Clive and Darren.

How annoying.

YANBU
It's worrying when you have dense people looking after DC.
She obviously can't see the bigger picture.

Our surname can be spelt in two or three different ways, so I kind of understand when people spell it wrong, but after being at the same school for years I was always irrationally irritated when my sons books had the wrong spelling printed on them. From year 1 he even took to adding the missing letter! I repeatedly asked them to spell it correctly and it was only when he was in year 2 and he told the teacher himself that it was wrong and had always been wrong that they sorted it. Make a fuss and get it fixed!

Oh my god. There is nothing irrational or unreasonable about being annoyed when people spell names wrong. NOTHING. And it winds me up massively when people think there is.

OP - tell her. Again. And repeat as necessary.

@FluffyPJs personally I would NOT accept incorrect spelling of my child's surname at school more than once.

DS recently came home and mentioned that the new TA in their class was consistently spelling his best friend's name wrong. What's particularly annoying about that is that the spelling is not difficult but the name is not English. It just smacked of someone who didn't think that "foreign" names are something she has to be able to spell correctly.

Admittedly, I feel particularly strongly about this because I used to be a journalist and getting names wrong is a very big no no!

My name is Shelley and everyone has always written Shelly.

I never minded because they’re weren’t calling me Shirley and Sarah which happened a lot!

YANBU.

My DD has a name with two different pronunciations. Her teacher last year used the wrong pronunciation, despite being regularly corrected by DD. She gave up correcting her in the end but it's just rude. Once you've been told once how hard is it to get it right?

YANBU. Keep telling them until they get it and spell it right.

I have a shortened version of my name too which I've always spelled with the 'y' (might be same as your DDs!) and yet over the years have had the 'ie' ending. I always correct them.

Its annoying but i have to confess that when i worked in a pre school, long names were on trend, we had lots of jennifers and alannahs etc and often they would be firing their paintings at me so fast i made the odd mistake. (we put their names on the paper but during free painting they could help themselves and they could paint quicker than i could hang up). There was one boy and i spelled his name wrong for the entire year, his mum never told me and i was mortified!

I have a Freddy and I feel your pain. School reports, sports photos, family. They all spell it bloody ie. he’s 17 now and goes by Fred which is one way of resolving it. There is no easy solution- people just don’t look carefully.

Not ideal but could you send in a sheet of stickers with her name on?

I sympathise though. My name is often incorrectly spelled as it can be a shortened version of a longer name. People spell it as the most common variant of the longer name assuming that is my "real" name, rather than the correct spelling of my actual name.
Example would be - my name is Vikki, not Victoria, but people spell it Vicky.

Sorry to hijack your thread but seeing this has made me think I should say something to my little girls nursery - but I’m not sure tbh. She’s 11 months and has a hyphenated name for her first name - it’s two names that have meaning to us - it’s two seperate names we’ve put together. She has seperate middle names.
They have been calling her just the first part and dropping the second part - think Anne-Marie and just calling someone Anne.
She’s now come home from nursery calling herself just her first part of her name. We have to keep saying her full name when she does it.
Looking at others responses on here I think I might have to bring it up

My name has been spelled wrongly my whole life - both the shorter and full length versions. And now DS1 comes from from school with his name spelled wrong, and all the way through nursery. Both of us have regular, top 20 names and the usual spelling.

@ReyGal

Sorry to hijack your thread but seeing this has made me think I should say something to my little girls nursery - but I’m not sure tbh. She’s 11 months and has a hyphenated name for her first name - it’s two names that have meaning to us - it’s two seperate names we’ve put together. She has seperate middle names. They have been calling her just the first part and dropping the second part - think Anne-Marie and just calling someone Anne. She’s now come home from nursery calling herself just her first part of her name. We have to keep saying her full name when she does it. Looking at others responses on here I think I might have to bring it up

She's 11 months old and is calling herself by her name?