To ask nursery to spell DD's name properly!?

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DD is 3 and has a name which is commonly shortened - similar to Catherine being shortened to Katie/Katy.

We use her shortened name so that's not an issue but they keep using the 'ie' spells when we have always used the "y"

I mentioned it to her key worker last week and she said "oh, silly me!" - I noticed the next couple of pictures to come home had her 'full' name written on them. Yesterday she bought a craft home with "Katie" on. AAAAGGGHHH. DD 3 even said " spelt my name wrong again" so I can't imagine that our DD won't also have told them- she can write her name(s) but never the ie spelling!

WIBU to speak to the nursery manager on Monday and ask they use the same shortened version we do or just use her full name!?

(and yes, I know this is a first world problem of the highest order!)

@StacySoloman yes she is only since last week. It’s quite an easy name sound wise/phonetically - sounds like Kara. She’s 1 next week and says about 10 words in context but this was the first time she’d said her name. Although only the first bit of it.

@ReyGal

Sorry to hijack your thread but seeing this has made me think I should say something to my little girls nursery - but I’m not sure tbh. She’s 11 months and has a hyphenated name for her first name - it’s two names that have meaning to us - it’s two seperate names we’ve put together. She has seperate middle names. They have been calling her just the first part and dropping the second part - think Anne-Marie and just calling someone Anne. She’s now come home from nursery calling herself just her first part of her name. We have to keep saying her full name when she does it. Looking at others responses on here I think I might have to bring it up

I think a lot of people with hyphenated names end up just being called by the first one, I'd just get used to it to be honest!!

Spelling child's name wrong is a totally different situation.

Do say something. I ask this regularly at work. (is it an Y or IE.)

@Rockchick1984 I guess so I do agree spelling is different.

OP I used to teach secondary. When I first met my class I’d say their name as it was listed on the register. Sometimes they would tell me they preferred to be called something else, or they went by their middle name. Or the used a shortened version of their name.
Nevertheless any correspondence home, their exercise books and in any communications I would always use their legal name as stated on the register. Spelling it incorrectly isn’t acceptable.

It's important they get the name correct- is it also wrong on "official" things such as on the register, forms etc?

It's not being dramatic to say it could cause danger in an emergency.

[quote ReyGal]@StacySoloman yes she is only since last week. It’s quite an easy name sound wise/phonetically - sounds like Kara. She’s 1 next week and says about 10 words in context but this was the first time she’d said her name. Although only the first bit of it.[/quote]
Wow, she's amazingly advanced then.
I expect a hyphenated name is a bit tricky to expect even the most genius baby to cope with though.

OP, YADDDNBU!

I am an old gimmer with a name which suits my age.

There is an English version and a Gaelic version. The Gaelic version has one letter difference.

I am not happy at all when someone spells it with the English version as that is NOT my name. Drives me nuts and I don't give a flying fig if people think I am being unreasonable. 😡

Nursery worker said, "Silly me"! No it's not silly, it's disrespectful!

It’s not a small thing, getting a name right is important, but especially for a small child.

We've had the same issue with DS2 at preschool, so far he's come home with pictures with 4 different spellings of his name. Lots of reminders so I got some t-shirts/hats with his name printed/embroidered on over Christmas which I've been sending him in in and so far so good.

My class has Mya, Miah and Miya - I am rubbish at names but even I know which is which, and would be mortified if I got it wrong - tell them!

Tell them, and make sure everyone in the room she's in knows the correct spelling, it won't just be her key worker caring for her. If they still don't get the hint, I'd be sending her in with a sticker on her top with her name on.

Even if her name was TallulahDelilahDaisyDoodleDee they should be getting it right.

My name is regularly spelled wrongly, it really irritates me, so definitely correct them. My daughter's name is mispronounced by several of the nursery staff, she tells them they're saying it wrong but they don't seem to listen. I'm tempted to tell her not to respond to it being mispronounced (I made a point of explaining how it was pronounced and the teacher has always pronounced it right, even though she would've pronounced it the other way naturally in her accent).

DD1 has a long name which can be shortened ie/y, too. But we use the 'ie' shortening. The happened a bit a preschool so I asked them to correct it. Then, at special school, all of her stuff - peg, tray, books, etc., had been labelled 'y'. I apologised for the extra work it would cause them, but asked that they changed it to 'ie' because how would she learn to spell her name otherwise? Eventually DD1 started correcting it herself. She says 'my name is . There's no 'y' in '.

DD2 has ASD and in year 7 one teacher said, at parents evening, "The other day I called you and you gave me a funny look. Did I upset you? DD2 said "No, you didn't upset me, but I thought it was a bit odd because my name is not "

She'll start telling them herself

If they were spelling her full name wrong that would be one thing, if it's just a nickname then yes it's a bit annoying they aren't using your preference but it isn't spelling her actual name wrong.

DS got sent an individual login for a new online maths platform for school last week. It has been set up with a log in for his surname entirely wrong. 2 syllables and both have alternative spellings. They got both wrong. We just rolled our eyes.

It's weird - nobody has had issues with my name ever but the last 5 years have been awful
My name has a male version- think Samuel/Samantha and my surname is the most simple ever, say Brown

I'll be sat in a waiting room and they come out and shout "Samuel Brownley"
Er. No. A) not male and b) not my name

It's got to the point I've actually considered changing my name because apparently the female variant doesn't exist now, people seem incapable of using it (think 80s popular name starting with D, ending with E and a celeb with a cocaine nose)

I have a name everyone adds and 'h' into, even when I've signed an email with the correct spelling and my email address is my name... I've had it throughout school and even at nursery according to my parents (it's a perfectly valid spelling without the 'h' - just reflects the family background)
I'd keep telling them but don't hold out your hopes. Once someone has a spelling stuck in their mind it can be very hard to change it! Ive generally given up now.

Definitely say something, they need to get it right, and it's not difficult for them to check the spelling. You don't want her getting confused about the spelling because they use a different version.

As someone with an easily mistaken name the best thing you can do is equip your DD now to feel confident speaking up. I was told off by a teacher as a small child for correcting the pronunciation of my name and was told it was rude to do that. It took years to get that confidence back.

My mother also had to complain about my name being misspelled as one teacher when I was very small told me I was the one spelling it wrong!

I’d mention it to keyworker again as they might be dyslexic and have trouble remembering which spelling is the correct one. I wouldn’t make a big fuss about it.

But there isn't a correct way to spell this name. If it was her given name, the one in her records, of course they should get it right, but they have nothing to reference it against for a nickname.

I had this with my ds.You can spell it a number of ways.

There was another boy with the same name but a different spelling. And they always spelled my ds the same as the other boys.

I had to keep telling the teacher,in the end it finally sank in.And now there is no problem.

Hes the name with the K and the other boy is the name with a C,

I have a name ending in 'a' which people shorten to a name ending in 'y' even though I have never referred to myself as that name and it really really bugs me. I think its rude to shorten peoples names without them actually saying they don't mind being called it.

I've got the less common spelling of a name and it's never spelt right (since I got married and changed my surname at least they can generally master that). These days I just ignore it and pick my battles - and they invariably realise after a short time and feel shitter than if I'd corrected them myself - but it used to really annoy me as a child.

I'd probably do the wimp way of just saying "can I just double check you've got names right on your records as stuff keeps coming home with the wrong spelling" and let them blame the computer to save face a bit when dealing with a kid. We get it sometimes with DD2 who is a Robyn - but she'll happily correct them that, "no that's a robin bird - my name is Robyn with a Y and I'm a person"

In normal times I would agree with you. But it’s not. So I would suggest keeping quiet and being grateful they are risking their lives to look after your child. Get a grip.

Has anyone read OP? She's not talking about the child's actual name, but a nickname, for which there is no official spelling.

I do think it matters, though. When I have completed a referral form to CAMHS and have written " ()" on the name section of that form, it feels like a lack of care for them to write to me saying "We have accepted that needs to be assessed." They couldn't even maintain their attention long enough to write an ie instead of a y.