Shopping alone during lock down

[AnxiousSM]

This applies to the current lockdown not in general.
Why can’t people shop alone? The only exception to this would be a parent with a child they don’t have childcare for. Zero excuse for family outings to the supermarket. If you have to be driven then can’t partner stay in the car?
All this bollocks about being unable to shop alone, there’s no reasonable excuse.

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants yes perfectly capable thanks. Along with our other 3 children whom he parented today. It’s non of your business though along with the rest of the mumsnet shopping police.

It's just like the people finding excuses (not genuine reasons) to not wear a mask. You just can't argue with stupid. You just can't. Self entitled stupid at that.

I find life so much more bearable if I do not assess or judge every person I pass in the street or in a supermarket.
You should try it.

So why are you trying to justify it then 😂

@Newmama29 you do know that your baby can go in the baby seats on trolleys from birth don't you? Wipe it with anti bac and put a blanket in first.
I'm pregnant with number 4 and never had to take the pushchair in a supermarket unless it's to get bits after a walk.

I have been with DP but he gets our shopping and I get my mums (brothers shielding) and nanas (over 80). Been trying for weeks for delivery slots but no use.

It is everyone's business though while we are all having lockdown extended which means we cant see family or friends because people are too selfish to follow the rules. I havent seen my boyfriend in weeks and live alone and I'm falling apart without and adult interaction, seeing all these selfish people who have live in partners they can see every day making up their own excuses to do.what they want drives me mad

@PastaAndPizzaPlease

I’m in a bubble with my mum so we shop together, but are in fact shopping for two houses, paying separately.

I’m a veggie converting to vegan, so there’s no chance she’d be doing my shop for me and dropping it off, and ditto me getting the lamb in for her Sunday roast.

Please don't give Veggie/Vegans a bad name!

I am veggie and although I haven't bought meat in 30 years, I have during the pandemic as I have been doing my elderly Aunts shopping. I'm not buying anything she wouldn't buy if she went herself, but it increases her risk & the risk of everyone else to both get shopping separately for the sake of buying the meat she'd buy anyway

Try considering humans as well as animals.

No ones asking you to cook it or eat it and you'd only be buying what she'd buy anyway.

@Newmama29

Maybe because when I get to go to a shop it’s the only interaction with other adults I have in weeks. I wish people would stop telling others what to do. It must be great to live such a perfect life that you can do nothing wrong.

If I’m honest, I’m more annoyed about people in shops that come right up my arse when I’m trying to get something off the shelf or wearing their mask on their chin than I am with people shopping in pairs

This, and the other posters saying similar, is the problem.

'It's the only social interaction I get'

This is the point!! The supermarket, at the moment, is NOT the place for social interaction.

Go for a walk with your mum. Go to the supermarket alone.

The same for the poster who took her toddler out fro 'a break'

Go for a walk with your toddler. Go to the supermarket alone.

It really isn't rocket science.

I'm abroad. Where I live they won't let you in the shop. One person (children exempted) and 30 minutes. Masks obligatory. I can't believe the fucking entitled shit I hear on here why people can't wear masks for a short time or shop alone. Very few people have a genuine exemption to this.

Today in the supermarket they was a couple with a trolley, an empty pushchair and their 2 young children (under 5) both with toy pushchairs. The kids were careening into everyone with their pushchairs and the couple were walking slowly side by side blocking every aisle they were in.

They would have been a pain in the ass pre-Covid, trying to stay distanced from them now was pretty much impossible.

Other countries seem to have grasped that covid doesn't discriminate but the poor doctors choosing who gets a ventilator do.

The thing is fair enough people need support shopping I understand that but what pisses me off is mum, dad, 2 teenagers and a toddler going for the weekly shop. Especially when they are limiting numbers in the supermarket. I was in Tesco today and it was a bloody nightmare. No way it takes 6. The schools are shut we are in a middle of a pandemic, people need to get a grip.

@Persianparadise

The thing is fair enough people need support shopping I understand that but what pisses me off is mum, dad, 2 teenagers and a toddler going for the weekly shop. Especially when they are limiting numbers in the supermarket. I was in Tesco today and it was a bloody nightmare. No way it takes 6. The schools are shut we are in a middle of a pandemic, people need to get a grip.

Agree and it's the fact that many people cant discriminate between what they want to do and what they need to do.

HalfShrunkMoreToGo
This is really annoying, some people are totally clueless

@FrameyMcFrame

I got told off for shopping with my DS who is 11

I cried... he'd been on his own all morning while I struggled to teach my sessions online in my work room

There was no food in

Dad is NHS so working

So should I have left him home alone?

So I felt in the wrong but do not want to leave DS alone. He also looks older as he's tall.. he's just 11 😥

I'm sorry it upset you.

However, lots of 11 year olds are remote learning from home while their parents go to work (out of the house, not just in another room)

My friends 11 year old was home every day this week from 8-3, he doesn't particularly like it, but is better now that he has school work to concentrate on (he disliked it more when it was the holidays) Next week he'll be doing the same, but he's said he's more used to it now & doesn't mind. (The following week itl only be 10-3 due to shift changes).

Children are transmitters, I really would leave him at home while you shop, make sure he has your number and he'll get used to it.

I do sympathise though as the now 15 year olds didn't like being home alone until she was about 13, but at times like this they're old enough to understand and get used to it.

Or he could wait in the car if he prefers? 15 yo would have preferred that.

@Persianparadise

The thing is fair enough people need support shopping I understand that but what pisses me off is mum, dad, 2 teenagers and a toddler going for the weekly shop. Especially when they are limiting numbers in the supermarket. I was in Tesco today and it was a bloody nightmare. No way it takes 6. The schools are shut we are in a middle of a pandemic, people need to get a grip.

Exactly!

@HexWitch

I'm sick to death of people having to explain their reasons for shopping with a child/other adult. It's no ones business.

It's everyone's collective business when people are putting others at more risk than necessary by taking people who don't need to go.

It’s now about keeping the shop workers safe. ( l am one) it’s finally dawned on the supermarkets that if we go down .... so will most of the store.
There are masses of cases where one team member has caught COVID and like dominoes- it’s knocked out a whole department.
I’m sick of the lying idiots who can’t understand that a smaller footfall keeps us all safer. Every single fucking time you bring in someone ( just because you feel like it) you put our lives at risk.
Do some of you think the supermarkets have asked for one trolley / one person to use up space outside?
Please observe it / unless you are in severe need of a second person.
Stop pretending you’re alone / then meeting up inside.
We see you & we remember who you are.
Get it together shoppers. It’s a fucking supermarket- not all that interesting- but *all that dangerous at the moment!

withlotsoflove

It’s now about keeping the shop workers safe. ( l am one) it’s finally dawned on the supermarkets that if we go down

Agree totally with this! 👏👏

@Markies

My husband works away for weeks at at a time, there are no delivery slots where I am. We’re abiding by the rules and not seeing people so I’d love for someone to come and tell me I shouldn’t be taking my one year old to the shop with me.

Where abouts are you? I live in an area where its very hard to get slots too, so I book 2 weeks in advance. I can always get Iceland or Amazon Fresh orders though. Have you tried them?

@FrameyMcFrame

Before anyone says you should've got an online delivery.... my life is falling apart and I am struggling to get the basics done as I have 40 hours of work to do, no help or childcare and home schooling on top. No play dates, no family. And I'm still expected to deliver all my work and dad is working weekends as he is NHS

🍷🍫💐it is tough. Is DS's school not giving him appropriate work that he can do alone! Are they not doing any 1:1 teacher contact or live lessons? You're a teacher aren't you? You shouldn't have to be having too much input into DS's schooling really should you?

You sound very stressed 🙁. Can you book ahead now with delivery slots? Give DS more downtime than he'd normally have?

I'm sure it's stressful having DH working in the NHS whatever he does. X

No idea what else to suggest,sorry, but I hope you can find a bit of time for yourself.

I was shopping alone today. Normally avoid weekends but working lots of clinics so had to go today. Groups of young teenagers together. Couples with young children. One mum I overheard saying to her child let's go to Tesco next to get another toy. Most families all together in shop. Despair. Fed up of the ridiculous crap on here for reasons they can't shop alone.

Sometimes the only way I can get teen DS out (fresh air, exercise) is if we tie a Lidl sweets run into the errand. Typically I'm picking up a useful supermarket item, too. We could take turns going in if preferred, but doesn't really reduce the net number of people minutes in the store.

We tend to do the sweet runs around 3 or 7pm when the place is moribund. Lots of people use our local Lidl like a corner shop.

I haven’t read the whole thread but there seems to be a lot of people giving their personal reasons and then not long after someone comes along and shoots them down! So I thought I would give my reasons to see if I get shot down too as I seriously can’t see how I could be but I am awaiting to be corrected.

DD is 17 and has severe anxiety, depression and a whole lot of other issues right now. I currently do not feel that I can leave her home alone in case she does something stupid (has tried to previously). DH works out of the house so nobody to keep any eye on her and I only go shopping every 1-2 weeks, can’t get an online slot. I have worked from home since last March and I only go out to shop or exercise. We stay together and despite her anxiety she wears a mask. So I wonder what suggestions people are going to come up with?!?

" Lots of people use our local Lidl like a corner shop."

Aye, this is why I won't go in. People popping in for sweets and stuff they don't need.