To want to tell DH his supper's in the dog?

[sesquipedalia]

I made creamy smoked salmon and courgette pasta last night. DH asked what supper was tonight and I told him at was salmon curry. He complained that was 'Salmon two night in a row, can't we have something fun?'

Context: he's WFH full time in a stressful job. I'm WFH 4d a week and looking after DD2 who is part time at nursery. Otherwise I have to work around her and was up 2.5hrs before her this morning to get work done. I do all the housework, laundry and cooking from scratch and am having to be 'creative' as we're avoiding supermarkets and struggle to get deliveries. We live rurally, takeaways aren't an option.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off that he's unimpressed with tonight's menu??

Say oops I meant tuna /trout /find a take away menu ya twisty fucker...

No, YANBU. Sounds like you both need to have a chat about how you split the household tasks. Or get a cleaner (if affordable).
If he were single and without children he'd have to take care of himself so its not unreasonable to reevaluate how things are split.

Put it in the bin and let him cook himself something fun.

Both your meals sound delicious and I would never complain about salmon two nights in a row.

I've divorced husbands for less than this.

Why are you doing all the childcaring on top of work? That's not on for starters.

Thanks all. He's running a company that has suffered severely during COVID and has the future of the company to worry about, so my shouldering the domestic stuff is a way of supporting him. We do have a cleaner too, but she's been isolating since before Christmas.

Just gets my goat when I feel like an unappreciated skivvy!

Nearly wine o'clock!

Do tell him he’s more than welcome to plan, shop and prepare the meals on a regular basis if tonight’s menu is not to his liking. If not, STFU.

YABVU.

Your response should have been;

"Yes, of course we can Darling. What are you making?"

I really would say that and I really wouldn't be joking.

Completely missing point... But I can't get my head around the idea of 'salmon' and 'curry' in the same sentence! Meanwhile according to the clock in this room it IS o'clock (although due to forgetting to buy a new battery it has been o'clock for several weeks now!)

My god you're a much nicer person than me. I would have gone with "are you fucking kidding me?" and would not be cooking again for a while.

It's not unreasonable at all. But depends, did you get salmon out again or was it leftovers/other half a pack?

Generally I don't like having the same thing twice in row. But I get the stuff out and cook so it's my prerogative.

I did fairly recently go on strike and make chicken with nando's sauce and rice 5 nights in a row as protest because I was sick to death of thinking of what to cook with no input or worse, asking for suggestions and getting stock 'spag bol' or unrealistic 'steak' at 17.00 on a sunday.

the spare portion should keep well enough in the fridge for you to eat tomorrow.
Let him fend for himself - or if you're feeling really generous, beans on toast?

When someone cooks dinner the response should be "aw lovely thanks". Once they start getting picky and treating you as an unpaid unappreciated cook, they can make their bloody own

Salmon curry?

I'm not sure salmon curry would appeal to me in the slightest, tbh

I would just save his portion and let him make something else, though. No need to get worked about it.

QueenOfLabradors something like this: https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/salmoncurryyandchipss43767

He's immensely stressed (on blood pressure meds since COVID) as he's responsible for peoples' livelihoods so I do willingly shoulder more of the day-to-day crap. But I'm not being treated like the housekeeper....

Wine after toddler bedtime. Definitely.

If he doesn’t fancy the curry, just give him a bowl of plain rice. Cheeky git. I’d love to have someone make me a homemade dinner after a day at work.

It was going to be salmon with soy and honey but that was vetoed as boring. I'd consider a fillet of salmon different to slices of smoked salmon?

1st world problem I know.

If he wants something more exciting then maybe it's his turn to cook tonight? Even if he's really busy if he doesn't like what you're making he can do it.

Just serve it to him dressed in a clown outfit while juggling 6 balls.
That's fun.

In my house, dinner would be in the cat, especially if it's salmon. Then the cat would be sick. Your dinner's on the floor smelling horrible!
I find fish works well in curry if you use a patia base. It has tamarind.

I do all the housework, laundry and cooking from scratch

I'll never understand that ^^ and I'll also never understand how one adult can all the other to do it all, especially if they claim to love them.

His reply is typical of someone who doesn't know what it's like to work and do everything else.

You need to change this OP or you'll always get what you've always got.

Firstly the posters baffled by salmon curry need to get out more! (Figuratively speaking)

Secondly both those meals sound delicious. Tell him he is free to cook his own “exciting” meal

Sorry I meant 'and I'll also never understand how one adult can let the other do it all