To want to tell DH his supper's in the dog?

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I made creamy smoked salmon and courgette pasta last night. DH asked what supper was tonight and I told him at was salmon curry. He complained that was 'Salmon two night in a row, can't we have something fun?'

Context: he's WFH full time in a stressful job. I'm WFH 4d a week and looking after DD2 who is part time at nursery. Otherwise I have to work around her and was up 2.5hrs before her this morning to get work done. I do all the housework, laundry and cooking from scratch and am having to be 'creative' as we're avoiding supermarkets and struggle to get deliveries. We live rurally, takeaways aren't an option.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off that he's unimpressed with tonight's menu??

A Goan or Keralan-style salmon curry is really exquisite, would highly recommend to anyone who's not had one.

Can I have his portion OP? It sounds delicious! I love salmon and DH won't touch seafood so I never get to have it for dinner.

He sounds very ungrateful if you’re doing 4 days work plus all the housework - you could well be doing more than him!
My answer would be ‘you can have anything as exciting as you like as long as you plan it, shop for it and cook it’.

How ungrateful. I'd have reminded him that many people are relying on foodbanks right now and they'd be delighted to be served salmon 2 nights in a row - then I'd freeze his portion of dinner to eat another time and let him fend for himself.

You gave the initial complaint and when many suggested that he should be doing something you started with the "he has a high stress job", "he is under pressure as responsible for lots of people", "he is on medication for high blood pressure" (probably his diet btw not stress) so essentially you have accepted that is how it is. You work and look after DD2 and do all home tasks and that's it. YABVU to moan about something you are happily doing. Why wouldn't he moan and want a different dinner when he can get away with it. Sure I would do the same myself if I thought all I would receive in response is a bit of a whinge.

To be honest I’d probably say this and wouldn’t fancy salmon two nights running. I get it’s insensitive though and you should shut up and get what you’re given, but I’d be thinking it.

Sorry op.

My husband took over all the cooking when he retired and I'm always very grateful for whatever he cooks (even when I'm not😉).
The only thing that gets me is whilst we are eating he will always ask 'what do you fancy for tomorrow?'.
Let me enjoy today's!

id eat salmon every night if you cooked for me 24/7 what an ungrateful sod

What does he consider a ‘fun’ tea?

Yanbu.

I’d suggest he livens it up with a bit of seasoning by sticking it up his arse

YABU for taking on all housework and childcare.

YANBU for giving the dog his dinner.

His reply is typical of someone who doesn't know what it's like to work and do everything else

Agree. Like PP I'd eat salmon every day of it was someone else cooking it. You're not a chef in a restaurant, he doesn't get to eat a la carte every night!

Smoked salmon and salmon fillets are totally different. Anyway even if you had served up the exact same meal, the only correct response is "lovely thank you." I am a petty fuck so I would be cooking salmon every night for the next week - in a fish pie, poached, in honey and soy with rice, smoked salmon with scrambled or poached egg etc. Salmon fish fingers and chips. Steamed salmon and New potatoes.

Remind him where the bread bin lives.

Is this unusual or a general attitude?

I’ll be honest it’s the kind of humbly thing I’d say if I had a bad day and didn’t fancy what was for dinner but then again I do my half of the cooking and housework and I’m generally appreciative of DH cooking (better than mine mostly).

Grumbly

Self-important man who does fuck all for his family is an ungrateful sexist dickhead. A tale as old as time.

And he’s not working for his family, he’d be doing it anyway. Focusing on his work.

For four out of five days, everything should be shared. The day you don’t work, you shoulder that.

@OrangeGinLemonFanta

Smoked salmon and salmon fillets are totally different. Anyway even if you had served up the exact same meal, the only correct response is "lovely thank you." I am a petty fuck so I would be cooking salmon every night for the next week - in a fish pie, poached, in honey and soy with rice, smoked salmon with scrambled or poached egg etc. Salmon fish fingers and chips. Steamed salmon and New potatoes.

If this was the result of complaining about salmon then I'd deliberately do it just to goad DP into making all of this. Yum.

Hide it in his shoes.
Then tell him to find his dinner. Exciting !

Seriously OP. Tell him to make his own fucking tea.

Never understand these threads me.

Or you could tell him that his dog's in the supper, as he wanted a more exciting protein!

Yes, it’s a bit rude but are n’t you getting this out of proportion ? Can you really not understand why he’s stressed ?

Salmon two nights in a row is such a first world problem, I wouldn't be able to moan about it with a straight face. Probably better not feed it to your dog unless it has more of a cast iron stomach than mine though

I've divorced husbands for less than this.

He sounds ungrateful