AIBU to think it’s ok to put kids (4 and 1) into kids club on a ski holiday

[Needallthesleep]

Obviously not this year! Planning for the future.

DH and I love to ski, and given what a shocker this year has been for holidays (plus we have a newborn so not like we can go away anyway) we are planning an epic one next year.

It would be the first time going skiing with our kids, and are planning on putting the 4 year old into ski school and the 1 year old into kids club so we can ski.

For context we are looking at doing 14 nights in a very kid friendly hotel in France with childcare on site. We are planning a 2 week break so that we (and the children) can have some relaxed days together at the pool/sledging and me and DH still get a decent amount of time skiing.

MIL thinks that’s mean. And I am wracked with mum guilt about our plans now. Are my plans unreasonable?

I worked overseas in ski resorts when I was young, and as a result there is no way on god's earth I would ever put a child of mine in a kids club of any kind. Most are in there at minimum wages, out on the lash every evening and could not care less about the children in their care. It is a temp job that pays the bills, not a career or something that means anything to them. Over the years I saw some dreadful things. I used to live with the childcare workers, and they were just kids themselves.

On the basis of safety and that alone, there is no way I would ever use one now in any setting.

I had a bad experience the only time I was ever put in a holiday club myself as a child so no I wouldn’t either!

But we will be shouted down by the “kids love them” crowd. Whatever. My two are teens now so realise the family holiday years are finite and go so fast.

How evil if grandma to express concern for her own flesh and blood, how dare she! FFS, poor woman!

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

The judgement on this baffles me.

It's MN. Don't worry, SAH mums are getting even more abuse. Anything that posters feel remotely jealous about brings a completely ridiculous amount of nastiness.

It irritates me when anyone who disagrees with someone else is written off as jealous. We are fortunate so could afford for me to be a SAHM and I absolutely don’t want to be. I could go on a ski holiday and leave my children in the kids club-at this age I wouldn’t do it in a million years and I will admit, I have to try hard not to feel a bit judgey about anyone who would leave their one year old baby in a kids club with no idea about the place or who is running it, just so they can spend their ‘family’ holiday skiing.

It’s quite arrogant to sneer at anyone disagreeing with you, that they’re just jealous. Sometimes they just think you’re making bad choices but it’s easier to tell yourself they all want to be like you.

I have to try hard not to feel a bit judgey about anyone who would leave their one year old baby in a kids club with no idea about the place or who is running it, just so they can spend their ‘family’ holiday skiing

It’s quite arrogant to sneer at anyone disagreeing with you

You said it!

I did my research and chose a small ski company that runs its own childcare provision and has an excellent reputation. I felt as comfortable leaving my one year old there as I did leaving him at his regular nursery. The staff were young but seemed genuinely enthusiastic and caring and they had a lovely well equipped nursery, they kept us up to date on his settling every day and a text during the day to let us know how he was doing. We weren’t just dumping him in any old crèche and running off to the slopes without a backward glance.

As a parent you make your own choices - not everyone is going to approve of them up to you op whether this bothers you or not!

@OllyBJolly

I have to try hard not to feel a bit judgey about anyone who would leave their one year old baby in a kids club with no idea about the place or who is running it, just so they can spend their ‘family’ holiday skiing

It’s quite arrogant to sneer at anyone disagreeing with you

You said it!

Yeah....quoting people works better when you don’t stop halfway through a sentence to completely change the meaning of what they typed. Nice try at being super clever though!

And why would the OP ask what people on an anonymous forum what they thought if she didn’t want to hear people’s honest opinions? Bit weird when other random posters jump in and attack those responding honestly to what the OP asked for opinions on.