How to bag a wealthy man?

[Simonstrousers]

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

[C0NNIE]

[quote Simonstrousers]@CONNIE I didn’t join Mn for this, have been on for a few years and name changed, for obvious reasons!
It just intrigues me, I suppose. I live next to a very affluent area and it’s something I always wonder about[/quote]
What are the obvious reasons for the name change ? Are you ashamed of your ambition and if so , why do you think that is?

[Simonstrousers]

*Often wonder about, wouldn’t say I always wonder about it...
I am intrigued (or just very nosey!) to know what their lives are like, not sure why really 🤷🏻‍♀️

[RosesAndHellebores]

Well DH could have married a Yorkshire lass like him who didn't go abroad until she was 20 op. But he didn't, he met and married me. If I'd married the sort of chap my mother hoped for we'd have half as much and I'd be very bored. But I met DH in 1989 and I suspect things have moved on.

[sabrinathemiddleagewitch]

[quote Simonstrousers]@sabrinathemiddleagewitch I’m talking specifically about the situations where the man is the one bringing the money in.
The scenarios I know of, it’s the men,
I agree with a previous poster that a few I know of who are now Sahm (very ambitious A type individuals) had their own careers..I wouldn’t say particularly high flying ones though..[/quote]
But how do you know? Do you know the inner working of their finances?

The women may have had large inheritance payments
The women probably worked in high paying careers before having children and still do
They probably went to school or university together

And most importantly they probably met when neither were very rich and the money came later. The trust is there.

I understand your want for security but it certainly dosnt come from a man who's made his money already, I'm sure he would have you sign all sorts before a marriage as you were not there to help him build it.

Your past the point of that happening now, if you did meet someone he would legally stop you getting all his money. And I presume the younger men just starting out wouldn't be interested?

Why would any rich middle age man want a middle age woman with less money? They wouldn't, they'd choose someone young and willing to do what they say. Or they'd chose someone they know of a similar standing and lifestyle.

Earn your own money 🤢

[Gwenhwyfar]

These threads always go the same way. You'll be told to get rich yourself, which just isn't possible for lots of people. You'll be told that poster x is very happy with DH y who is only an x, but they won't admit that life would be harder if they were both on minimum wage.

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

Why can’t you earn your own Money Connie? Genuine question

[Simonstrousers]

@CONNIE..Well, read the replies 🤣

It’s not really my ambition and is slightly tongue in cheek. I perhaps should have posed the question asking what type of women are married to wealthy men and what it’s like 🤷🏻‍♀️

[LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood]

I can say most categorically and absolutely truthfully that I would not want to “bag” a wealthy man (or woman). I would quite like to have more money, but I would prefer to go without unless the money was the product either of my own, or joint, efforts. I would truly hate to feel in any way indebted/beholden to my partner. I have no wish to be provided for.

I’m aware that your views remain fairly common though.

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

From my observation you could have an affair be the ow that he marries,it v common

[ResignYourself]

Unfortunately the Hurlingham has closed its waiting list ( it was 10 or 15 years min anyway) and you’ll be a pensioner before you can get into Queens except as a guest. No 5 Hertford if you can be invited and the pubs in Mayfair on Thursday nights in the summer.

You’d better be very hot and very charismatic if you don’t slink about in those circles. because there are a lot of women who want a rich man and don’t those rich men (and their friends and families) know it. It is genuinely better to be a high earner yourself and work in their industry.

[IheartJKR]

I doubt very much a wealthy man would be interested in you op.

Generally, to become wealthy they have to be smart and they’d see you coming a mile off.

[AcornAutumn]

[quote Simonstrousers]@CONNIE..Well, read the replies 🤣

It’s not really my ambition and is slightly tongue in cheek. I perhaps should have posed the question asking what type of women are married to wealthy men and what it’s like 🤷🏻‍♀️[/quote]
I don't think there's a one size fits all

But I know a fewvpeople who certainly had "wealthy" on their list of requirements and would not have dated a poor person. Seems fine so far...with one couple being in their 60s.

The women are very attractive but IME many women are.

Though now I stop to think about it, there's money on both sides, if you look at them as families rather than couples.

[Viviennemary]

Just turn down all the poor ones. A rich one should come along eventually. Dress nicely and flatter their egos.

[lastqueenofscotland]

I have a friend who is married to an incredibly wealthy man. They met as she is from an incredibly wealthy family and they moved in the same circles.

[Simonstrousers]

@sabrinathemiddleagewitch The people I specifically know about are friends of friends.

I’m not middle aged, but it’s interesting to know that most of these men would be arseholes if you met them abreast wealthy and hadn’t gone to uni/worked with them

[DishedUp]

You've answered your own question really - you meet them at the expensive gyms/restaurants/tennis clubs etc. Some people meet rich men through work, University, friends of friends. Its really not that difficult to meet wealthy people.

Dating them is just the same as every other man, you have to like each other and get on well, similar interests, similar sense of humour. Theres no magic formula.

Yes life is easier if your partner is rich, but there's so many other things that are more important. Imagine spending every evening with someone you don't really love because they happened to be rich?

[Waxonwaxoff0]

@Gwenhwyfar

These threads always go the same way. You'll be told to get rich yourself, which just isn't possible for lots of people. You'll be told that poster x is very happy with DH y who is only an x, but they won't admit that life would be harder if they were both on minimum wage.

I'm a single parent on minimum wage and I'm fine.

[Elsielouise13]

In my dark and distant past I tried internet dating. Dunno if it’s still a thing or all bets are off £ wise nowadays but could filter by salary.

I never filtered below a band at last the same as mine and above. This was after a disastrous relationship with ‘a limited capacity to manage his finances’. Let’s say.


Shoot me now I suppose....

Husband of 20 years earns almost twice my salary and I’m not a low earner.

Didn’t marry or become attracted to him because of his earning potential. But he is super intelligent, professionally qualified and hard working. I’m not presenting myself as super intelligent but I am the latter two.

We met at work.

[AcornAutumn]

@IheartJKR

I doubt very much a wealthy man would be interested in you op.

Generally, to become wealthy they have to be smart and they’d see you coming a mile off.

My experience of rich men is they are bright enough to know it's part of the attraction.

NB I never wanted to get married so I don't have the perspective is looking for.

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

Ime there are established rich,wealthy families,private school.at uni they all tended to stick together didn’t date out their small circle

Smart men who got wealthy through work. Clever,often lucky, right place right time when work took off.

[Christmasfairy2020]

Usually they have met the partner prior to been successful then cheat on them and get with their secretary

[MsTSwift]

Very wealthy people marry other very wealthy people within their own social circle so no gold digging issues and they understand each other.

[Christmasfairy2020]

Or accountant etc.

[Simonstrousers]

@ResignYourself This is the thing that intrigues me, some of these people aren’t incredibly hot or charismatic and haven’t worked in the same area/had the same background.
They seem very normal and lovely people, I’m genuinely curious as to how they meet

[Simonstrousers]

@IheartJKR Well, yes, I’m guessing the plan wouldn’t be to make it obvious and just to post on a forum about it