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How to bag a wealthy man?

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Simonstrousers · 13/01/2021 20:44

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

OP posts:
KaycePollard · 13/12/2021 15:53

I prefer being wealthy in my own right (through education, hard work and using my brains). “Bagging” a wealthy man is little better than prostituting yourself.

SoSoTiredToday · 13/12/2021 15:56

This is a weird threat!!

Call me old fashioned, but what's wrong with marrying someone for love and shared interests?!

My DH isn't wealthy, but I love him. He's a lovely guy, great dad and we r very happy.

Not sure why people marry for money, it can't lead to happiness :(

pilar3 · 13/12/2021 16:04

Unless they are born into money though, most multi-millionaire-type men don’t make their money until their 40s or perhaps later. By which time, they have families and are hardly hanging out in nightclubs waiting to be ‘bagged’ Grin Aldo, you wouldn’t know they are wealthy unless they told you. As I said, I know of quite a lot of very wealthy men and I live in an area where there are even more round and about and none have had affairs leading to divorce. All quite boring. Only one marriage break-up and that was because he is slightly on the autism spectrum but didn’t realise he was and his wife just couldn’t cope with him.

ThackeryBinks · 13/12/2021 16:11

My ex is extremely wealthy. Thankfully he ran off with his PA. I can honestly say life on the other side is fantastic. My DP now is absolutely gorgeous but not wealthy. I'm so proud of him as he is a proper grafter and I often felt ashamed of my ex as he is such an entitled muppet.

InPraiseOfBacchus · 13/12/2021 16:23

@KaycePollard

I prefer being wealthy in my own right (through education, hard work and using my brains). “Bagging” a wealthy man is little better than prostituting yourself.
And working your ass off for peanuts in a company owned by a small group of faceless capitalist men who don't give a shit about their female employees' independent girl-boss identities isn't the same or worse?

Please reconsider using deliberately accusatory language like that.

pilar3 · 13/12/2021 16:40

Just seen this is a ZOMBIE thread fgs.

OhdearOhdearOhdearIndeed · 13/12/2021 18:04

@whippettiger

What’s that saying, marry for money and you’ll end up earning every penny?

Did you ever stop to think that these couples relationships may predate the wealth? That maybe they just fell in love? Confused

You are missing the rest of that saying: If you go with a man with no money you spend the rest of your life not getting paid! That's my experience anyway and I'm.sure it's a lot of other women's too.

I would love to know how to be financially independent like some people have said on these posts, but with a poor upbringing and two kids to feed on a mediocre wage it isn't easy to find the time and money to do this. Would love to know any tips......

IWouldntHavetoWorkatAll · 13/12/2021 18:10

In my dreams I have a plan
If I got me a wealthy man.

DrSbaitso · 13/12/2021 18:15

I would love to know how to be financially independent like some people have said on these posts, but with a poor upbringing and two kids to feed on a mediocre wage it isn't easy to find the time and money to do this. Would love to know any tips......

The easiest way to make a large fortune is to start with a small one.

MrsJackWhicher · 13/12/2021 18:39

I am divorcing a rich man. Met him when I worked in his company. Am now dating a man who has jobs labouring for a landscaper and on a pub. He is the best and I have never been happier -wish we’d met years ago.

LittleMissTake · 13/12/2021 20:29

Get a job as a PA to a very wealthy man. And an extremely strong stomach lol!

DeepaBeesKit · 13/12/2021 20:30

Get with them when they arent wealthy.
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SwishSwishBisch · 13/12/2021 20:55

Interesting you’ve assumed that in all these wealthy couples you see that it’s the man who’s the wealthy one

FangsForTheMemory · 13/12/2021 21:07

One of my friends was keen to do this, but I could have told her that the kind of guy who doesn't mind being married (or other arrangements) for his money is not generally interested in average-looking 50 year old women. She was still looking, last I heard.

Itsnotover · 13/12/2021 21:12

ZOMBIE THREAD

DrSbaitso · 13/12/2021 21:12

@FangsForTheMemory

One of my friends was keen to do this, but I could have told her that the kind of guy who doesn't mind being married (or other arrangements) for his money is not generally interested in average-looking 50 year old women. She was still looking, last I heard.
Has she been married before?

Is she open to 75 year old men?

FangsForTheMemory · 13/12/2021 21:13

No, and she'll now be about 70 herself.

Itsnotover · 13/12/2021 21:17

Ok since this is carrying on I’ll add my thoughts.

Most financially solvent people will look for other people who also are. Why would they want to start paying for someone else’s lifestyle? It’s the same as beautiful people tend to be better with other beautiful people.

Mismatched relationships don’t work..,.

Sceptre86 · 13/12/2021 21:36

My dad used to say chase after money and you'll spend your whole life running.

I agree with @jeaux90. Education and then getting a good career had given me the financial independence to be able to make my own choices. I'll never need to stay in a bad relationship due to money issues as I know I can go out and earn my own and earn well. That independence can never be underestimated.

Maybe they fell in love before the man's career took off for example Wayne and Coleen Rooney. Maybe the women too are rich and move in the same social circles. Maybe they set out to bag a rich man eg. Melania Trump.

Yarboosucks · 13/12/2021 21:47

I have quite a few wealthy male friends. Most of them are hard working, intelligent and interesting men. Quite a few have been targeted for their wealth and now find it hard to trust women. This thread is really trashy

flippertyop · 13/12/2021 21:55

I think you have to be very attractive otherwise you haven't got a hope.

Malibuismysecrethome · 15/12/2021 07:55

Does anyone remember the billionaire who sued his wife because the kids were ugly? Apparently she had had major cosmetic surgery before he met her and he felt cheated. He may have been Korean?

LittleRedLeaf · 15/12/2021 08:05

@flippertyop

I think you have to be very attractive otherwise you haven't got a hope.
Not at all. I'm very average looking, not bad looking by any stretch but nothing special. Married a man with very significant family wealth. We met at university and just clicked - his family background/wealth didn't factor into it tbh. Doesn't make much difference to our day to day life except we can afford for me to stay home with DD and we live in a big house (but tbh I'd be just as happy in a smaller place).
wtaf37 · 15/12/2021 10:24

@Simonstrousers

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice? How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for? I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain. How go these women generally end up with these men?
Do you mean how do the wives end up with these men, or how do the 'much younger and glamorous' end up with these men? The latter is way easier to answer than the former! Use your imagination!
BridStar · 15/12/2021 10:43

Be interesting, intelligent, uninterested in his money and not shallow (you seem perplexed at the success of plain women). Have your own life, areas that don't involve him. Be the thing he can't buy.

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