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How to bag a wealthy man?

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Simonstrousers · 13/01/2021 20:44

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

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ViciousJackdaw · 15/05/2021 21:12

If you're going to fuck someone for money, you may as well become a sex worker and do it honestly.

HollowTalk · 15/05/2021 21:14

The question they need to answer is, if they had the choice between winning the lottery or being with the bloke, which would they prefer? If it's the lottery win, it's the wrong guy for you.

TeddingtonTrashbag · 15/05/2021 21:19

I married a wealthy man.
Yes -great materially but the vultures circle constantly-younger and younger and .Russian/Ukrainian etc... really - is not worth it.

tara66 · 15/05/2021 21:21

Don't forget a lot of rich men have been taken to the cleaners by divorce and are determined not to re live the experience again.

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 15/05/2021 21:25

My dh has got a few quid and whilst l would never describe us as rich, we will never have to worry about money but the truth is if we didn't have a pot to piss in, l would still want to be with him.
I work a part time job because l like to have some independence and would hate for him to think l don't contribute but no doubt about it, life is much easier not having financial worries

Witchcraftandhokum · 15/05/2021 21:32

I married for money, but we were friends originally.

Nc1028 · 15/05/2021 21:33

DH is very wealthy now but when we married neither of us had money. However we were both well educated and worked in the same lucrative industry. I married him because he’s kind, loyal and funny; he liked that I’m an intellectual equal, and he thinks I’m hot lol. Both of us thinks we married up.

Ellmau · 15/05/2021 21:34

I have a friend who only dates very rich men. She is a beautiful girl and used to only date older men who were really grateful to have her. However, now she's approaching 50 so the men are getting older. And to attract them she has had a lot of cosmetic surgery (that she didn't need) She's a naturally beautiful girl and a kind lovely person, I am sad for her that she's lived like this and never just followed her heart.
But while these flings last she gets taken on amazing luxury holidays, bought expensive gifts including cars and has even had her cosmetic surgery paid for.

Sorry, but that sounds more like prostitution than 'flings' or dating.

Lovemusic33 · 15/05/2021 21:35

I dated a multi millionaire for a while, he was the most boring person I have dated, our dates consisted of him taking me somewhere to eat and then him talking about his private plane, his house in France and his large collection of classic cars. I could have fallen asleep listening to him. Oh, and he ate like a wild animal 🤣.

I think I will stick to dating skint people like myself 🤣

AMillionMilesAway · 15/05/2021 21:37

Why don't you train in a good career and make your own money?
Don't rely on a man.

AGirlCalledJohnny · 15/05/2021 21:38

@jeaux90

I think the best gift a woman can give herself is financial independence.

Can't think of anything worse than living in the shadow of a rich man.

Uh huh. My father was a GP and dealt with many the fallouts from marriages gone sour. He was adamant I always had my own career. If you can’t support yourself, you’re fucked basically. Ironically I ended up as a trailing spouse and stay at home mom BUT I could go back to work if I had to
UnluckyMe · 15/05/2021 21:39

[quote Simonstrousers]@sparticuscaticus Why 🤷🏻‍♀️ I reckon most people would want that, life is very hard, if you’ve ever struggled financially, things change, your mindset changes. Most of these women are set up for life, it’s an easier life is it not?![/quote]
I'm not aure if this thread is a wind up or serious. If the latter, my answer would be no - not at all. I would rather live a simple life that brings me happiness.

Check yourself before you wreck yourself!!!!

Joeblack066 · 15/05/2021 21:40

I would hate the imbalance, so much happier to be with someone on a par with myself tbh

NaturalBlondeYeahRight · 15/05/2021 21:48

Work somewhere where they work. Be very sociable.

Iamaperiwinkle · 15/05/2021 22:02

I met a multimillionaire as a graduate. For a date, I turned up at his mansion and he gave me a microwave meal -and my god he was boring. There was a reason he didn't have a girl friend. My ex was wealthy but I didn't know when I met him and my god he was a misery about money. I hate him for it. Literally the sort of man who would live with a hole in the ceiling rather than fix it as 'it cost money' bastard

wdmtthgcock · 15/05/2021 22:16

I dated a rich European count at university for a while. All very nice and he was lovely (never been treated so well by a man before or since) but he was boring as fuck.
My Dad never forgave me for it though.... always bringing it up! Why did you dump him etc?

Tubs11 · 15/05/2021 22:23

Relative was married to someone wealthy.
He was narcissistic, unfaithful and she was utterly miserable. They're divorced now and he screwed her financially. It was a show pony type relationship from the start and no doubt exhausting.
Give me a loving partner any day of the week who treats you as an equal, works hard and loves their kids. That's true wealth!

SofiaMichelle · 15/05/2021 22:28

Earn your own money instead of gold-digging and sponging your way through life.

That would be my advice.

TableFlowerss · 15/05/2021 22:38

I don’t get how money can be that important. To have to pretend to love someone to get a few holidays an a nice car and a few nice bags? Having to shag them, like they’re the love of your life? Not a cat in hells chance I could do that!!!

No amount of money is worth being stuck with someone you don’t care for. It blows my mind that people would even consider this way of life.

TurquoiseDress · 15/05/2021 22:40

Absolutely no bloody idea...frozen food aisle in Waitrose?

One thing I do absolutely know- I will encourage my DD to work hard at school, get her exams under belt then either go to university or go out to work and carve out her own career & financial independence.

Don't know, most of my friends from school/university are working & have their own careers, are married to partners who work doing professional jobs or running their own businesses.

None of my close friends "married a rich man"

I can think of one old old friend who I can see (thanks to FB) appears to be married to a rather rich successful man and lives in a v expensive beautiful house, does not work, has 3 young children and (pre-covid) they all went on luxury family holidays every school half term/holiday.

Not sure how she bagged him- probably getting pissed in a nightclub?

TurquoiseDress · 15/05/2021 22:42

No amount of money is worth being stuck with someone you don’t care for. It blows my mind that people would even consider this way of life

I agree.

Although, take a look as some of the footballers' wives & girlfriends ahem.

Kinlocrhum · 15/05/2021 22:47

Look after yourself, have good manners, speak properly, good hair, good nails. And join a posh tennis club. Simple.

Thewinterofdiscontent · 15/05/2021 22:48

@Ellmau

*I have a friend who only dates very rich men. She is a beautiful girl and used to only date older men who were really grateful to have her. However, now she's approaching 50 so the men are getting older. And to attract them she has had a lot of cosmetic surgery (that she didn't need) She's a naturally beautiful girl and a kind lovely person, I am sad for her that she's lived like this and never just followed her heart. But while these flings last she gets taken on amazing luxury holidays, bought expensive gifts including cars and has even had her cosmetic surgery paid for.*

Sorry, but that sounds more like prostitution than 'flings' or dating.

I know someone like this. To be fair she’s nearly 6ft tall, naturally willowy and she’s good looking even at 55. She’s not very academic more sporty. All she’s ever known is blokes falling over themselves. She’s always worked and has her own hobbies etc but blokes with money absolutely love her and always have. People often take the piss that some bloke has paid for a boob job or whatever but in her circumstances it’s not much different to a bloke shelling out for a holiday or bag.
lydia2021 · 15/05/2021 22:59

I cant see it myself... the attraction to wealthy people. They can lose everything just as anyone else. What then... love on a trailer park. Not looking for anyone personally. Have always earnt my own money. Full pension waiting for me plus private pension. Happiness is solitude imo.

HalfCakeHalfBiscuit · 15/05/2021 23:09

Study hard
Get top notch qualifications
Get decent job
Work hard
Get promoted
Then you are the one gold diggers want to bag

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