How to bag a wealthy man?

[Simonstrousers]

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

Any financial imbalance in a relationship is potentially problematic.
Those of my friends who earn less than their well remunerated spouses, or who do not work at all, all have slightly iffy dynamics in their relationships; the DH gets last word on family holiday destination / car / relocation etc, even when the DH seem to be nice men, and it's "our money". I've heard none of my financially equal or independent friends ever squirm coyly about "DH's birthday BJ", or cancel or change plans because "DH will be late / has something on / has changed his mind." Financially equal or independent women seem to defer less to their spouses. I rarely resent DP because I don't ever feel like I do things out of a sense of obligation to him, I don't owe him any thanks for any financial transactionality, however subtle.

I have some good friends who have allowances from their husbands. They feel sorry for me because ‘I have to work’ (!) I actually like my job and having my own money so find it a bit off.

I hear a lot of women still saying they want a rich husband so they don’t have to work. It does take women back years, surely we should be over this by now?

Look after yourself, have good manners, speak properly, good hair, good nails. And join a posh tennis club. Simple

You know what, I do agree with this!

But also to add, get yourself a job/career/own source of income

DH was a wealthy FX trader when we met, I have to be honest and admit that it was part of the attraction. However, he was made redundant 18 months ago and now works in a NMW job. Thankfully, I made my own money, and after having DC, he encouraged me to keep and develop my own career, so the nice house, private school fees etc are now funded by me. That's far more attractive.

NRTFT. I married up financially, not into staggering wealth, but someone with a high income who is very good with money (without being tight). We are now pretty wealthy. I have always had my own career and made a good income.

It was luck of the draw. I met him on line, really fancied him, and it's all worked out. I don't think you can make it happen, you just might be fortunate if it does.

@Simonstrousers

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice? How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for? I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain. How go these women generally end up with these men?

Perhaps they love them?

I couldn't be married to a rich man, unless we'd been poor together.
Neither me nor dh like money though, not into consumerism or modern living really.

Plain women,

Don't most of us look plain without fake or real tans, fake eye lashes, hair extentions, botox. Maybe they snagged their man and felt they didn't need to be add this fake stuff?

How bloody shallow.
Marry for love not money.
I dated a Baron and am now happily married to a gardener. Just having money doesn't necessarily make someone loving, interesting and fun to be with!

How do I get a wealthy woman? I don't need money I shop in Aldi. She can spend her own money and I can spend mine.

From my experience, hanging out with many multimillionaire chums, both Oxbridge consultants, Old money and self made showbiz types, I can confidently say that being a woman with a well developed sense of humour, intelligence, creativity and this is absolutely key, an openness to new and kinky exploits in the bedroom department seems to beat out all opposition. So many male friends who i thought were happy with their stunning girlfriends or wives decided to move on to pastures new simply due to their partner being desperately vanilla in bed. And those new women willing to satisfy the mans peculiarities lasted. Few people are willing to openly admit this as it invites a torrent of further questioning and suspicion so will make up utter tosh to distract. So be fun and kinky and embrace novelty. I'm only really speaking for men with a high I.Q, as they seem to be addicted to novelty and/or extremes.
Good luck!

[quote Simonstrousers]@sparticuscaticus Why 🤷🏻‍♀️ I reckon most people would want that, life is very hard, if you’ve ever struggled financially, things change, your mindset changes. Most of these women are set up for life, it’s an easier life is it not?![/quote]
I agree OP

@MavenMainsplainer

From my experience, hanging out with many multimillionaire chums, both Oxbridge consultants, Old money and self made showbiz types, I can confidently say that being a woman with a well developed sense of humour, intelligence, creativity and this is absolutely key, an openness to new and kinky exploits in the bedroom department seems to beat out all opposition. So many male friends who i thought were happy with their stunning girlfriends or wives decided to move on to pastures new simply due to their partner being desperately vanilla in bed. And those new women willing to satisfy the mans peculiarities lasted. Few people are willing to openly admit this as it invites a torrent of further questioning and suspicion so will make up utter tosh to distract. So be fun and kinky and embrace novelty. I'm only really speaking for men with a high I.Q, as they seem to be addicted to novelty and/or extremes. Good luck!

This has caught my imagination! Like what!

Agreed. It's gross and it's being disguised as a "I find it strange that these women look like this", like it's an innocent observation and not a genuine attempt at wanting advise on getting a rich guy. Ugh.

I have dated two rich men. First wasn’t rich when I met him, I actually had more money than him. I was at university when I met him in a bar. As soon as he started earning big money he became horribly emotionally abusive and controlling. It seemed like it made him even more insecure. It created a terrible power imbalance in our relationship

Second I met at the gym. Turned out to be heavily involved in the drugs industry and is now serving a hefty prison sentence.

Obviously not all rich men are like this but I would never actively seek one out.

Hey, I remember this thread.

Butterfly net and trapdoor, I think.

You have to be willing to put up with cheating, restrictive dieting/appearance tweaking, constant competition with other trophy wives (who typify the "I'm not here to make friends" mindset), money coming from illicit sources in so many respects, you are a heartbeat away from being dropped for the next young thing... Then when you are dumped or divorced, you have nothing of your own because these people have incredible lawyers. Your kids will be spoiled or emotionally stunted from being farmed out to nannies, all-day nurseries and boarding schools. It is boring and samey. Eventually even a three-week holiday on a yacht in the Med becomes commonplace.

It isn't a happy lifestyle. If you want love, actual love, not just that expressed with diamonds and Peletons, you will rarely find it there.

I would rather a man was kind and good hearted.

I met my DP when we were both undergrads at Oxbridge but he has remained stubbornly not rich and I earn more than him. Where did I go wrong?

@TuftyMarmoset

I met my DP when we were both undergrads at Oxbridge but he has remained stubbornly not rich and I earn more than him. Where did I go wrong?

Should have gone to St Andrews!

People with money usually want to marry other people with money I think

I had a very wealthy ex who was truly awful. Lazy, vain, took everything for granted, drink, drugs, had silly expectations for how I should always look. Terrible with money, just had lots of it. I was miserable.

Met my now dh who was penniless at the time and working a minimum wage job, although educated to degree level. He is one of the smartest, hardest working men I’ve ever met. Knew we’d be ok no matter what. He is now a high earner. Pick someone intelligent and hard working.

Feel like I should also caveat that with - he is also KIND and I love him. I can’t imagine how miserable I’d have been if I’d stayed with the first boyfriend for money. Probably as miserable as his mum, who had never had to work a day in her life for the last 40 years but was the most depressed, trapped woman I’d ever met.

My stepdaughter is like this

Her whole aim in life is to marry a rich man,stay at home,have loads of cats and shop for whatever she wants without having to work for it (she’s 19 and refuses to get a job)

She refuses to have children as they ‘get in the way’

I told her that kids are her insurance just in case rich man gets bored with her but I got told to ‘shut the fuck up’

She only went to uni so she can meet this rich man,and dumped a lovely fella because he got high grades but turned his uni place down as he’d got a low paying job (the idea is he’ll work his way up)

I got into a whole heap of trouble for asking her if prostitution was the only way she’d get on in life-after all sleeping with a man just for his money is just that

I’m the fool (in her eyes) for having a full time job-I should demand her dad (my partner) should pay for me while I piss about at home as all women should

I think that having my job brings me my self respect and pride in my pay packet

I brought my own daughters (and sons) up to pay their own way and never depend on anyone long term (I do get that life ebbs and flows-sometimes you do have to depend on your partner but for the whole you earn your own independence)

I cannot remember how many times I’ve trotted out the line ‘women died so you have the right to vote,make your own choices in life,to be able to work and for your independence’

It seems to have sunk in for the whole part

But she is making her own choice!

Cousin worked in a hotel in London a few years ago, at the height of the WAG thing. She said they had to have barricades to keep back the swarms of girls after the footballers who would be staying there for away matches. Top (or even not so top) footballers earn a great deal of money so bagging one would be jackpot time. Getting pregnant, cementing the jackpot win. Frankly I suppose if you have the right type of looks it’s a reasonable financial move.

Most people I know married to wealthy-ish men met them early on when neither were rich. If you are aspiring to an already rich person (either sex) then basically you have to be in their orbit and be extremely attractive. Or go for someone a bit vulnerable and be very persistent (Yoko Ono method…).