How to bag a wealthy man?

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Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

When I was younger I'd have said it didn't matter but now I realize just how vulnerable having kids can make a woman. I didn't set out to marry a wealthy man but I wouldn't have considered one that made significantly less than me. DH both were at the same level when we met then we had DS who has autism. The money DH makes allows me to stay home. It's paid toward private school for DS when it became clear he was completely overwhelmed in a class of 30. It paid for thousands in early intervention for him when we would have been waiting years for the NHS as he's "high functioning". When I went along to the parents support groups for mothers it quickly became very apparent how much suffering and heart ache we dodged because we had the resource to do so.

I got together with my now DH more than 30 years ago. He had left his wife and came away with a bin bag of clothes and a black and white portable TV set!!!

He eventually moved in with me, in MY house that I was buying. I was earning more than him. We married and then moved to bigger house.

He changed jobs and ended up earning more than me. In 1992 we had a DS.

He later set up his own business than I helped run. He decided to retire aged 55. We sold the business 4 years ago and are now enjoying the proceeds.

Was he rich when I met him? Absolutely NOT!!!

Because I imagine that behind that veneer are people who work very hard to ensure that the day to complexities are minimised so that they can concentrate on other things (career/business/networking, etc).

I think this would more likely describe the rich husband than the housewife spending his money.

@BlueThistles

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Rachel uchitel comes from an affluent NYC family and attended exclusive private schools. She moved in wealthy circles because of her upbringing.

Don’t go for rich, go for well educated and very comfortable. It’s a wider pool. Learn about art and business, read literature and be well groomed. Then get seen at art openings, golf tournaments, that kind of thing.

Hang out at the yacht club.

Successful younger men are now into road cycling. Dh club full of wealthy 40 50 something men.

gobbycop I think that would very much depend on the yacht club. My two local yacht clubs rarely have anyone there under 60, very few that go are rich, rather than just comfortable and spending their money on their hobby and certainly no one goes there looking for a partner. You might as well hand out at the local fishing lake.

@Toilenstripes

Don’t go for rich, go for well educated and very comfortable. It’s a wider pool. Learn about art and business, read literature and be well groomed. Then get seen at art openings, golf tournaments, that kind of thing.

As I get older I’m less swayed by ‘well educated’ tbh.

I could never date a plank, but to generalise I’ve found that people from poorer backgrounds who managed to get wealthy tend to be more humble than the public schoolboy types and usually get there by hard work rather than family connections or placements for the privileged.

Somebody who runs a large successful business is unlikely to be stupid, even if they don’t have a degree.

Successful younger men are now into road cycling. Dh club full of wealthy 40 50 something men.

This is so true. We live in a very wealthy area and it is jammed with MAMILs at the weekend. I would genuinely prefer a man with enough money to get by than a millionaire MAMIL. Can't think of anything more boring. I've been trapped at parties nodding inanely while they drone on about leading the peleton with fire in their eyes. I mean, I'm sure it's fun for them, but it can't be that fun for their bike widows.

Here's a story of a Woman I know.
Worked as a Secretary for a very rich man ( as in multi millionaire ) Started an affair ( she was married ) left husband.
Life was very good for 15 - 20 years . Lived in a mansion . Massive house, with gatehouse the housekeeper lived in. lakes , formal gardens etc.
She hits her 50s ,gets traded in for younger model.
Ok she gets bought a decent house and has been given a monthly ' salary ' so had no money worries .
But would you like that ?

Most of the wealthy people I know have come from money themselves - that’s the Women as well as the men- and have either been given or helped with houses, or jobs, or given money to set up businesses or used family connections to get into finance or similar businesses.
Very few have gone from working class to rich.
So I guess, OP, get yourself in those circles.
It’s patronising to think that it’s the men who have made all the money BTW... I. The couple I know the women are just as wealthy in their own right, are subbing their partners in the lifestyle or are working themselves in businesses etc

Having done sex work that catered to wealthy men, I'd say be a good dresser, absolutely filthy in bed and not shy about suggesting it, and good at playing up your best features.

It's a slightly bizarre question but I'd say there are two categories of wife of wealthy people I know.

Firstly, wives who met their husbands at uni or before they were wealthy, which is by far the majority of people I know. My husband is pretty well off, we were both students when we met and when I gave up work to have children, I earned more than him. And one of my female friends earns more than everyone from our friendship group. You might look at them and see them as the plain, unglamorous ones as they're wearing no make up and jeans. Their husbands are more interested in their personality and being fun to spend time with than whether they're perfectly groomed and dressed like Eva Longoria (pre children!).

Group two are more trophy wives. Again, a huge generalisation but the husbands may have a track record of "trading wives in for a younger model" and their wives feel under pressure to look their best and spend a lot of time going to the gym or for beauty treatments. I'd agree with the previous comments that some are willing to put up with a wandering eye or use of prostitutes (based on someone I know). Personally I'd hate to be in that type of relationship but some women may enjoy it.

I should qualify the above with the statement that it's only based on people I know. I don't know many people who set out to find a rich man although I'm sure there are plenty who do.

@wonderup

How are the cheaper ones funded?

In Oz the govt pays a subsidy for every child towards education. Private school fees are there to top that up to provide 'better' education.

Here in UK the private schools are entirely funded by fees, not taxes, hence the cost disparity for independent vs state (at least this is what i've been told, but think generally that it's true)

The cheaper private schools in Oz may just offer less facilities, less glossy buildings, and are often newer, so don't have the reputations that attract those looking at schools specifically for the wealth/social aspects. Also can be in locations where the real estate costs less (suburban vs city centre) It's just a wider range of options

GodOfPhwoar As I gt older I'm less swayed by well educated tbh

Somebody who runs a large successful business is unlikely to be stupid

I find the opposite. It might depend on where you live, but where I am, there are too many men who are wealthy but thick and rough as pigshit. Think oil supply companies. Treat women as accessories and think we are all stupid, poor and desperate for a man with a flash car. Constant boasting, sexual remarks, no conversation. It would be very difficult for a woman who has been through university and has the "standard" rich man's educated wife's attitudes to cope with one of those types.

I know I'm a bit scarred from my brief Tinder experience (3 weeks), but got talking on it to a very wealthy man (I checked him out in real life through contacts and it was true) and I couldn't believe how thick he was. Absolutely no conversational skills beyond constantly, repetitively, commenting on my looks, he kicked off after 3 days of messaging because I wasn't replying frequently enough and accused me of "messaging other men and being on social media for attention" (except he got most of the spelling wrong). He wasn't happy when I told him to do one and blocked him. tbh I would have struggled to go there anyway as he wasn't attractive enough physically and was older.

Know a few millionaires from the same area and they're all from the same mould. No thanks.

I find the opposite. It might depend on where you live, but where I am, there are too many men who are wealthy but thick and rough as pigshit. Think oil supply companies. Treat women as accessories and think we are all stupid, poor and desperate for a man with a flash car. Constant boasting, sexual remarks, no conversation. It would be very difficult for a woman who has been through university and has the "standard" rich man's educated wife's attitudes to cope with one of those types.

Gosh, exactly! Give me someone who’s at least well read, if not educated, than ‘savvy’ any day of the week.

The strangest people I've ever been out with were minted and they didn't have to work - that was a massive turn OFF for me! Oops

Reading through all of this I have decided, yet again it is better to stay single.

looks like it is very low chance to find one who you can get on with. otherwise its a life of misery with them.

I know this is a controversial topic, but from my early teen years, I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mum and the wife of someone who could provide a comfortable life for me.

So, I decided that it was only fair to make this very clear to everyone I dated.
I was always happy, polite and friendly, but I would say that this was a non negotiable for me unless there were extenuating circumstances down the line like physical/mental health issues.

I find if you're very clear about what you want, people find it refreshing, you don't waste time and you will easily find someone who's goals align with yours.
As for how to attract them?
I am a plus size girl with an unconventional look...but I am very confident and believed that I deserved everything I wanted out of life.
I am also opinionated and no doormat.
Most highly successful men want someone sensible, loyal, supportive and intelligent who can dress well.
Obviously there are the "trophy wife" types...but if you actually look at the very successful men out there, they seem to go for personality and substance over anything else.

Be yourself, have interests of your own and be confident in your look.
Say what you want out of life, and you'll attract people who want the same things 😊

@Mykidshave4legs Did you get your dream?

NiceGerbil not sure about your comment that you imagine rich men would be controlling - my first husband was skint and was the most controlling, manipulative person you’d ever want to meet. My DH now is far better off financially and is lovely and easy going, he also respects my career totally.

What are you bringing to the table OP if you come across a super high earning millionaire type?

Do you have supermodel looks? Amazing in the bedroom, Fun and attractive?

If any of the above, why are you not with someone already..,

@Mykidshave4legs

I know this is a controversial topic, but from my early teen years, I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mum and the wife of someone who could provide a comfortable life for me.

So, I decided that it was only fair to make this very clear to everyone I dated.
I was always happy, polite and friendly, but I would say that this was a non negotiable for me unless there were extenuating circumstances down the line like physical/mental health issues.

I find if you're very clear about what you want, people find it refreshing, you don't waste time and you will easily find someone who's goals align with yours.
As for how to attract them?
I am a plus size girl with an unconventional look...but I am very confident and believed that I deserved everything I wanted out of life.
I am also opinionated and no doormat.
Most highly successful men want someone sensible, loyal, supportive and intelligent who can dress well.
Obviously there are the "trophy wife" types...but if you actually look at the very successful men out there, they seem to go for personality and substance over anything else.

Be yourself, have interests of your own and be confident in your look.
Say what you want out of life, and you'll attract people who want the same things 😊

So a overweight girl wants to stay at some watching loose women and refuses to work but wants someone thats going to go out earning the salary for them both.

you sound a right catch.. :/